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Guillty or Not?
June 9, 2002
7:06 pm
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Hi All its me Bel if you remember me.
Something that is bothering me right now is this. Once of my sisters lived next door to me with her youngest daughter and her two boys. My sister remarried and moved out living the townhouse (rented) to her daughter and new husband and a new child making it three little boys. My neice (the daughter) and her hubby got involved in drugs and did not take care of her children at all. They ran the streets, were dirty, hungry and sick all the time. Their ages are 1 7 and 8. I would tell my sister (her mother) what was going on but nothing happened. My grown son who lives with me and my grandson (8) would tell her to grow up and take care of her kids, but that would only lead up to arguments. This went on for about two years with her boys being taken away once for about a month. She got them back with her moms help but then went right back to the drugs. Many people coming and going at all hours of the night and her kids running the streets at all hours of the night. My son once threathend to call the child service on her to scare her but it didnt work. Well someone did call the child services on her and all three boys were taken away, she lost the rented townhouse because her and her hubby would not work. Also one of her boys is handicaped and cannot not walk without his walker, and she was spending his money on drugs. Anyhow since my son had made the threat to call the child services they think he did do it and now blame myself and him that their kids are in protective service. My whole family thinks that and my sister mostly. She does not allow my son over her house and talke about him all the time. My son did not call but instead of trying to help my neice recover they just sit and blame us for where the kids are. It is very upsetting that they dont see someone else called and that they should try to help the boys and my neice instead of just gossing.

June 9, 2002
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At least the kids are being taken care of. That is where they need to be. If the parents are mad, who gives a shit. they were neglecting those kids. and to spend his money on drugs, that is just wrong. I would have called in a heartbeat and not reegretted it. Pisses me off when parents do that to their kids, and they can have as many kids as they want. it is the good parents who can give a good home and lots of love who cannot have kids. It is unfair.

June 10, 2002
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oh bel,

I'm sorry for the pain you must be in. But I think that these people are just trying to protect their sick drugged way of life. This has nothing whatsoever to do whith you. They put blame on you (for something you didn't do, too), because they don't dare to look at what they have done and continue doing themselfs. Because what they are doing is so horrible that they can't look at it, they are afraid what they would realize about themselfs. They are in guilt up to their necks, if they take a closer look at it they might drown. Just keep your distance and don't let them play mind twisting whith you and your kids. You would propably have been right to call child service, anyway.

Where are the kids now? Could they stay there for a while?

June 10, 2002
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Bel, the moral high-ground is a tough place to be. I know that YOU know the kids are better off now than they were. If people are talking about you, it's because they have dull lives and you're the most interesting person around. Hold your head up, Bel, those kids are our future. If you can help the kids then great, go do it. The parents only need you as a scapegoat because they don't want responsibility for their own actions. Be glad. Be at peace. The kids are safe.

June 15, 2002
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Thank you for your replies and concern. Its hard to turn in someone let alone it be your own family. I did talk to my sister and if she did not take any action why should I?

But no matter what we did we would always be at fault or blamed in their eyes. The children are doing very well even though they are split up living with other family members. My neice is not trying to clean up instead she is living a great single life without taking care of her children. They bad mouth us and live so happy without any guilt feelings what so ever on what they have done to their children. But thats ok because they are on drugs and cant help themselves, its not their fault because they are not in their right mind right now. My son and I are the guilty ones but thats okay.

It is very maddening and unfair, but yes I know life is unfair right? Sometimes it seems the bad guy always wins.............

Bel

June 18, 2002
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Blondie,
Thank you for your words and I do not take offence to what you wrote regarding my family. Although I do have to say that my whole family does not think that way only my sister and two of her daughters.

I am not stressing or worrying over it anymore. My neice has gone on with her life without her kids and that alone says alot about her. My sister is in the process of getting legal gardianship of the baby who is two years old. The older boys are adjusting very well with their other grandma and will probally stay with her.

Some good news my grandson "Ricky" who is 8 was voted outstanding student of the year!...IM so proud of him, he is my sweet baby.

Hugs
Bel

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