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going from depression to happiness
June 3, 2007
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About 6 months ago I met this person who I thought would change everything about me. I thought I loved her and as she with me (at least that is what she said). Only one problem she was in contact with her ex. Of what she told me her ex mentally abused her for years. So one day she was talking to her ex and I got angry. We had a big fight to were eventually I had enough. So we split up but still had some contact, and that whole time we were not together she was with her ex. Sometimes I would stay with her and have long conversations. She kept telling me I was depending on her to much, when I wasn't. One night I went out with two of my friends and my ex got angry, but my ex was with her ex. All I have to say in the past 6 months I was depressed and now haven't been this happy in along time. I have not been in contact with my her at all, and I think deep down inside I really and truely didn't love her. Right now I know for a fact that she is with her ex and I know that her ex will hurt her and I will not be there for her. I am done with it all. I am FREE from it all.

June 3, 2007
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Good for you I will survive, and yes powered with this painful lesion you will survive and be so much happier in life. I think we all learn as we go and getting involved with someone who disclosed they were mentally abused but yet is still in contact with that person is a big red flag. Sounds like she is addicted to that kind of treatment. I’m sure her continued contact with him caused much of your depression and now it’s lifted and you can move on to someone who is far more capable of accepting real love and caring from someone like yourself.
Keep up the no contact; you don’t need her ill thinking or behavior in your life.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

June 3, 2007
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Yes you will survive!!!! Good for you for putting yourself first. PLease remember this feeling when your ex comes a calling back after she sees that you are not attached to her anymore. Stay the course:)

June 3, 2007
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Thank you atalose and fantas. I think she was just using me to make her ex jealous and she was affraid of being alone. I admit I kept telling her I loved her and wanted her and let I could not live with out her, but I am doing just fine. I am doing what I want and when I want to do it. I will never be with her again. Never again. She never loved me. I am so FREE. I love it.

June 3, 2007
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I think that it is a good sign that you are single and are happy. I think it means that you are relying on you to be happy and you are loving yourself instead of looking to someone else to make you happy. Its a good thing too cause most of the time, you are the most reliable person in your life.

June 3, 2007
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I will survive--question for you: How long did it take you to get to where you feel this way? I would so love to emulate your sentiments!!

June 4, 2007
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This is a great example of how No Contact works. It alows you to get clarit and get your life back. Good for you!

June 4, 2007
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clownface
Well it took sometime maybe about 1 1/2 months, it was hard but in the end there is only going to be one person there and that is you no body else. just think about yourself and no body else.

June 5, 2007
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The one thing that bothers me the most is that my ex said that no matter what we will always be friends and that no one will get in between us. But I guess that was a lie. If she wants to be treated like the way he has been treating her then there is nothing I can do about it she wants nothing to do with me and I with her. She is out of my life for good. I AM FREE............ NEVER AGAIN will I be with her........

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