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September 4, 2007
10:45 pm
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i'm not sure if im even at the right place for my situation. i believe that im co-dependent, all the sign's are there. im in my early 20's and a single mother. i have a boyfriend who i allow to treat me and talk to me like im a piece of crap. i take it though and i dont do anything about it! my family tells me i'm only with him cause i'm afraid to be alone. i guess i have always had this problem, and it's been along time since i have had a healthy relationship. i let him control me, where i go when i go. a part of me is so tired of this telling myself i deserve more, a man that has respect for me, who treats me like a woman should be treated. another part of me tells myself that it's going to get better and to stick it out. i can't imagine my life without him, and couldn't imagine feeling the feelings if he were to go, at the same time i know that it is proably the best thing. i don't know how to go about any of this, hopefully one of you can give me some advice!

September 4, 2007
11:35 pm
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Welcome Jessika, you are in the right place. Keep posting.

First, please do not define yourself through your boyfriend.

Second, please tell me why you allow this?

Third, it sounds like you have a low self esteem and are attracted to men that encourage it.

Finally, please tell me are you enjoying the way he treats you?

September 5, 2007
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Jessika, Welcome to the site. You are in the right place and many of us can relate to your situation. Like destiny has pointed out, you have a few issues you need to be working on the first of which is your self-esteem. Do you have a therapist? I'd suggest reading the book codependent no more. It helped to understand codependency and how I was contributing to my codependency. Read the threads here and post as well. I find doing this gives me clarity in my own issues. Hang in there.

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