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God said, Hah!
January 11, 2001
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I was watching a movie in a film class called "God said, Hah!" (Julia Sweeny).

It was about loss, trauma, illness and the death of a loved one. But it was hilarious, too. Humor as a coping mechanism - studies show that humor is one of the best tension relievers we have, but few of us actually use it.

Ontic/ontological. How can we be "sane" in an insane world? How dare we! The more seriously you take life, the more depressed you will be. Perhaps levity is sometimes misaken as shallowness. Butif you takeyourself and others too seriously, that's a recipie for discontent.

I'm guilty of taking myself and others too seriously, sometimes. Just something to think about.

Gestalt Therapy is all about not over-intellectualizing, not taking yourself too seriously, so that you bounce back more easily from life's traumas. Pessimists have higher incidents of chronic and serious illness, chronic pain and a shorter life span.

How can we make ourselves less serious?

January 11, 2001
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Like you suggested, laughing, I try, and sometimes my dead pan humor is taken for sarcasim, but sometimes not. I try to remember that most of life can be a joke, but when your sick, and tired it takes energy to laugh, and that is hard to create. But its hard to cry with a smile on your face that old chemistry change in the brain thing. So lighten up šŸ™‚

January 11, 2001
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Buy a rubber chicken.

Steve Martin once said "if you wnat to feel funny...put bologna in your shoes."

If you really want to laugh spend some time with first graders.

Why take life so seriously? You aren't gonna get iout of it alive anyway. (a joke)

Read funnny stuff. Be with funny people. I refuse to watch serious movies only comedy or action (silly) adventure. Reant all the Monty Python videos.

good luck with hmumor. I do believe laughter is the best medicine. and coupled with a shot of penicillan it works wonders.

j-

January 19, 2001
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what a stupid life. after all this crap, we all die in the end.
die... and rot
if this young age i am in, is no fun at all, and its filled with depression, i wonder what will become of me when im old!

well im having a bad day...
what can i do.
sigh

im here after a long time..
didnt feel like coming, was busy in studies and depressed and out of energy and thought that this site doesnt help. i didnt feel like coming here again ...

sigh

January 19, 2001
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cici and molly and any other women ..

why is a women made? how can such a wonderful creature exist? how was it created ?

and i see many reasons why a man can like a women, but i cant see any reason why a women would like a man.

what does a woman see in a man ?? or does she see anything ??

i cant understand a woman and how she thinks! its a completely different universe!

i can understand a man, cause im one myself (ok ok .. u can make fun of me that i'm not.).

i was thinking about dressing up as a women once. maybe it would help me in understanding them ??

any help ?? how i can solve these stupid questions ?? help from anyone would be nice, about what i can do to understand a woman and why she would like a man, and hence like me too. why would a women like me ?

January 20, 2001
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šŸ™ no one is answering

January 21, 2001
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First of all, your questions are not stupid. Ithink that you find your self in a situation that you cannot decide which way you need to go.You want somebody else to give you directions in life and if they do not work, you can blame it on somebody else. Dressing up as a woman to understand them is a just an excuse to do what you really want. Come out of the shell ! Do not use excuses to live your life style.

January 21, 2001
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Is the glass half full or half empty?

Your initial gut reaction shows pessimism or optimism

If you find your self being pessimistic....conciously change your outlook (it can be down)

Banish all negetive thoughts.

Life is crap and we all die?

Each second is glorious and life can be fulfilling and wonderful

But how you view life is your choice.

A man dressing a s a woman to me is simply....strange.

Glory in what you are.

January 22, 2001
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b b b but but i still cant undertand women! i think there's no such thing as a woman. it cant exist. i am agnostic u know, or that i dont know if god exists or not. with woman its funny, cause my eyes see them but my mind says they cant exist and blah. i just can get them. sorry for disrupting the thread. i know whenever i come, i do this. im just shy to start my own thread.

January 22, 2001
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GOOD FOR YOU CICI! JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR.
i used to have a very powerful sense of laughter, but since i lost a ver important person in my life a few years back. i seem to take life so much more seriously now, i analyze and obssess more and i dont want to.

i am far better than i used to be, but after reading cici's post, i realise i really need to let go, relax and have way more fun........

besides, my ass is getting too fat, sitting at the puter so much..hehe
i cant figure it all out, and im sure as hell not gonna try any more.

im gonna go laugh my ass off, probably at someone elses expense but who caress........im laughing....
lol

January 22, 2001
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gees, how many times did i say ass in that last post, me a little embarassed...lol

January 22, 2001
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ass ass ass. A rose by any other name would smell as sweet...hee hee.

Women...complex creatures. I like the comparison of men to dogs and women to cats because dogs are so obviously there, you know? And cats - who knows what's going on in their heads.

Personally, I love men. even through my traumas with them I find them endlessly fascinating. Vulnerable, yet brittle. Cocky, yet uncertain. Confident yet riddled with doubts. Aren't we all like this, though?

It's funny...I started taking 5-HTP as a dietary supplement. I thought my drug use MAY HAVE depleted my serotonin levels. Surprise, surprise, I realized after 3 weeks of treatment that I WAS depressed, and that taking the supplements have really helped me. Makes you wonder, huh?

BTW, 5-HTP is great (you can get it at healthfood stores or in catalogues - I get mine from purtain's pride). No side-effects, since it's a nutritional supplement, a pre-cursor to serotonin, like Tryptophan. FYI.

January 22, 2001
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cici .. .*woof* !!

January 22, 2001
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Meow, well guest guest, amazing enough, most women don't even understand them selves. We are very complex creatures, but we can be loving, nurturing, fun, and similar sometimes to men, we eat, and drink, and play too. Women like it when men listen, when they seem interested in us, when they can put down the remote controll, and celebrate the fact that we bring something into their lives that they didn't have before. I think that if you tried on a dress you would be uncomfortable, heck we don't like to wear all that stuff most of the time, and you might figure out why we are cranky after putting on panty hose, high heels, and all the straps and belts and stuff, that might be the most you'd get out of the experiment, but then again...

January 22, 2001
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i love horses, id like to come back as a beautiful white stallion.
what is htp cici/ ? careful some dietary supplements can be toxic.

January 22, 2001
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Ok I just started reading this thread and I kinda disagree with some of this stuff...but first I gotta say to guest_guest I can't see what men see in women, I only can see what we see in men and it looks a lot better than coming from the other direction. women are pushy, annoying, always on someone's case and once a month it gets worse than usual. lol...that's just how I see it anyway.
I'm a rather depressed person and just laughing doesn't help anything, no one can be happy unless they have a reason to be. So unless there's someone in your life that makes you happy, there's no way to get there yourself. I will agree though that children really help. I have a job where all I do is work with children when I get off of school and that seems stressful but in the end I look back and see just how much fun I've had in just those few hours, it's a shame the time is so short. Well I don't really have anything more to say...

January 22, 2001
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molly, u said women are complex things. but why ?? why arent men complex then? i think ure talking about a specific case, right. hmmm. i dont know.

how can u not understand urself. atleast there must be some women who understand themselves.
šŸ™‚ i think i'll try the dress with belts and panty hose and those things once. atleast it would be funny for once. i'd love to see people's reactions seeing me in that. its not against the law to dress up as a women, right ?? hehehe.. boy it could be amusing.
high heels, lipstick, purse and long hair ... and then a deep voice ... or the adam's apple. haah

christina, so ure also saying that u dont understand what men see in women ?
well... they're cute, they're cuddly, emotional, talkative. ofcourse the physical features are there, we like them very much. but they are of use only if there's the emotional connection, so that has to come first. atleast in my case, i just want someone to love, somone very simple minded, honest, and expressive in her feelings, not afraid of the world. even if she is a little afraid, then atleast she should find security in me. that would be my responsibilty, becoming secure i.e.
i just want her to be mine, and only mine. she should be happy on her own, and happier with me.
she should be a free spirit !
she should be a very genuine person, innocent, i prefer. i would'nt mind her geting upset at times, or depressed. i'd be pleased to give her support at those times, cause i'd love her so much. it would be like we are one soul in two bodies.
sigh... dream on..dream on.

January 23, 2001
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hmm i think i'm sounding too desparate! hoho.

January 23, 2001
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Desperate, I don't think so, I think what you want is right on. I think we are complex, because we are such a bag of emotions, and society keeps moving our cheese. First we were supposed to be a wife and mother, good cook, and housekeeper, love the man, nurture the kids, and retire in the sunshine of our days, then we were supposed to work, then not just work, but be a professional, be constantly physcially perfect, always emotionally stable, and still take care of the man, and children. That was impossible, many of us flipped out, and so now we are trying to figure out where we fit in. So many women are confused, then you toss in that monthly thing, and no wonder we haven't had a nuclear melt down.
I went on a date once with a guy that I guess was trying to get intouch with his feminin side. Thank God it was Halloween, he wore a skirtand wig, asked to borrow my blouse, panty hose, bra and high heels. First of all it was wierd that he asked, then did indeed go out in public with them, I am glad that he didn't look better in them than I did. However, at the end of the night he couldn't wait to get it all off. He with stood ridicule from friends, it was an artsie crowd, so its not like judgement got in the way. He left the skirt and wig at the house and for weeks I kept trying to get him to take them back with comments, he was over it, so he said , and never wanted to wear a womans panties again!!! Far less her high heels, and all that other stuff, he had better insight, and I guess decided it was better to be a guy.My moustache wore off some time during the night, and since I wore one of my uniform black suits the only thing I noticed is that all the lesbians wanted my phone number, so if you want to go cross dress, go for it , but I might suggest waiting until a costume party.

January 24, 2001
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Most of us are attracted to what we aren't...women are soft, emotional, open. I certainly couldn't stand beingina relationship with me! ha ha ha.

January 24, 2001
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Now now, I bet you are a great mate, or at least you have most of us fooled,

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