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giving him space (Need help)
January 14, 2009
4:28 pm
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Oh, Z, I wish I could tell you what to do with your mind. If only I knew... We're in unchartered territory trying to interact in a healthy way with people, aren't we? But even "healthy" people trip up.

You're doing great. Keep loving yourself and giving yourself positive messages, and take it all very slow. This man sees the beautiful woman you are. You'll be okay, whatever happens. Allow it to happen. Be yourself. Try to keep focused on your life and not drive yourself nuts with guessing and assumptions. Accept what he does or doesn't do and try not to read into it.

I know it's hard. I feel like I fucked up a friendship with someone because I started trying to turn myself inside out to be what I thought he wanted. Probably I came across very needy. But, I was honest with him, and at least I took a chance. I realized how much I missed being able to share with someone. Think I unloaded way too much on him. But, I'm trying to forgive myself. We can't expect to suddenly know how to have healthy relationships after being in such unhealthy ones for so long. We're bound to flail a bit trying to figure it out.

That's very cool that you're enjoying the bowling. This man saw a beautiful and strong woman enjoying herself and was drawn to you. Simple as that. You will be just fine. All the best.


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