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Give me advice
March 12, 2007
4:54 am
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Here goes nothing. It has been a week since I have talked to my ex-girlfriend; which was disastrous. That Sunday after my conversation with her I decided to just finally cut all communications off and I had my cell phone number changed. Now the only way to contact her is if I ever decide to call her. I hope I don’t end up calling her and over time just forget her phone number. I definitely do feel weak for being a coward and having to resort to changing my phone number.

Our relationship had a bitter break up with me taking a heavy blow. I had no intentions of talking to her ever again, however, about a month after she got in touch with me and without hesitation she asked to just have sex. For the first hours I evaded her and told her no, but sadly I eventually broke down when she decided to just show up at my house. The next morning I felt like absolute shit. I am sure there are tons of guys out there than can pull such thing off but I am not one of them. I felt used and disgusted with myself. I wish I would have just closed the door on her and told her to go home. After that incident there were other times where she called or text me. Of course after that she didn’t just ask to have sex. She wanted to “hang out”. I evaded her every time.

I honestly have no idea how to feel about this. Should I be happy that I can have sex with her whenever I want (I doubt it would be whenever I want, probably whenever she feels the urge and if I ever ask she will be too busy) or should I be sad that a girl I care about so much has no value for herself. I tried to talk sense into her but she didn’t even want to consider what she was doing is wrong. Anyways, last Sunday she realized that I am “too emotional” to be able to satisfy her needs of just having sex (basically I evaded her for awhile) so she just hung up on me. Doesn’t surprise me, whenever the conversation didn’t go her way and she thought she isn’t going to get what she wants she always hung up on me. I guess me not being able to forget that she broke up with me and got with my best friend makes me too emotional.

On top of all this, she attends the same school I attend which does not make it easy. I have the chance of running into her almost everyday.

Anyways, I honestly want to just forget about her and everything that has to do with her. I am sick of missing her and worrying about her or what she is doing or how she might end up hurting herself. I am willing to bet anything that by now she has already found some other guy to fool around with. I want to just not care.

March 12, 2007
5:32 am
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Hi. I know you feel awful now. But it will subside. Allow yourself time to get back to feeling normal. You still have feelings for her, that is the problem and they are interfering with your judgment when it comes to her. You know it is not good for you or her for that matter to just hook up. And really it is disrepectful of her to be calling you like this. She does not have much self esteem. She will get old of this, just going from guy to guy and eventually she will want a relationship but right now she doesn't and she just wants to feel a short term need and you made yourself available to her even if it didn't feel right to you. Just keep the distance from her and gradually you won't feel this bad about the situation. You cannot do anything for her, she has to learn herself.

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