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gg, I MISS YOU....where are you?
March 6, 2007
2:08 pm
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gg,

I understand what you are going through on SEVERAL levels. I am sorry about what is going on with you and h. I wish that you could go to him, and tell him that you want a separation. I totally understand the whole love/in love thing better than I wish that I did. And by that...I mean that I know that I love my husband...I am not sure that I am in love with him... and that is as honest as I can be. I don't really question whether he is in love with me. That is the sad part. He is everything most women would hope for. Just not me. Just rememeber that you cannot stay for your kids. They deserve you happy, and you need that for you. To heal...to move forward.

As far as your dad gg. I am sorry. I am sorry that you are going through this. I wish that was not what your birthday was looking like. Wish I could be there...to take you away. Wish that we could meet in an airport and hang out for the weekend. The dream is still there. Hold tight...but I think that you SHOULD make it possible to go out with your friend. And it shouldn't matter who you upset at your house. You have sacrificed enough for them. DO FOR GG!!!

I am glad to see that you wrote this instead of saying that you are doing wonderful. I am glad that you are comfortable being honest with us here. We love you and we care about you, and we want ONLY what is best for you.

Love to you sweet sister...

Mich

((((((((((gg)))))))))))

March 6, 2007
2:09 pm
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That didn't go as well as planned...screwed something up...but hey....at least you know I was trying...I love ya girlfriend...

Mich

March 6, 2007
8:29 pm
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mich, I think I need to respond. I am in utter confusion on what to do about the h. I feel like I am going around in circles. I would like to make myself stronger before dealing with this, but that could take who knows how long...I am going to have to have a long talk with the man. I used to like to write everything out and leave a letter or note for him. The last time I did that he got really pissed with me. He boldly told me to NEVER do that again. But, if I try to talk, I never get my feelings out completely, or we get in an argument at the beginning, or I may even cry, but that seldom happens. It has been a LONG time since we have talked. In the end, I feel to blame for our problems and I can't figure out how that happened and then feel ridiculous for approaching him in the first place. Or if he actually listens, things get better for a week or two, then slip back to whatever it is we have here. I am at a loss here. It is so easy to slip back in my codependent role and make everyone happy but myself. But, I do NOT want to do that anymore...but, am I strong enough to take the risk, I wonder? I have to do something because I am very unhappy with my life right now. He gets so defensive whenever we need to talk. I just lack self-confidence that I need badly here.

Just had an idea, maybe I should make a list like Lolli did...the pros and cons of our marriage. I think I need to see that list and analyze it. hmmm...think that is what I am going to do tomorrow.

Thanks for listening and allowing me to get my thoughts out...

gg

March 6, 2007
8:54 pm
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((((gg))))

I believe in you!!! You have the strength to do whatever it is that you need to do. I am standing right here behind you along with SEVERAL other people. Keep moving forward.

I love you girlfriend...

Mich

I agree, I think that a list of pros and cons is a good start.

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