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Getting through the day
October 13, 2004
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Well here goes ... the beginning of day one. I will not call, I will not call, I will not call. Got my list and my memories ready! She has already hurt me this morning. I don't need this crap, I deserve better. Good luck to ALL on getting through today. Especially you starry. How did it go last night? What about you magga?

October 13, 2004
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Patarino.

It went ok. I didn't call. But it was hard. I am tending to remember all the sweet things he did for me.
I have a list of the bad things...did making a list of the good things help..I am kind of afraid to, because I think it will make me want him more.

I really envy you still having a chance to salvage this relationship if that is what is in the cards. Just make sure you are being good to yourself...and take control. You deserve it.

Dont call...Dont call...Dont call.

Why don't you just commit to not calling today. Just today.

Then go from there, but just today would be great.

October 13, 2004
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hi, look you both made it this far thru today (i hope) just do not call!!! write on this thread if you
think you may call and i'll support you to **not call**.....don't do it!!!
It may be difficult at first, but calling would rekindle things again,
its better to just move ahead.

Good luck Pat & Starry!!!
I am rooting for you both!!!

camer

October 13, 2004
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DON'T CALL!

I'm here for you both too. Good luck w/ your day today and may it be filled w/ peace.

October 13, 2004
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Wow ... you are are so fantastic!! I will not call I will not call!!

I know it may seem great to have a chance to salvage a relationship ... but there is really not much to salvage. There are sooo many lies to try to get over, can't trust a liar not matter how hard I try. I don't know if there is love or not ... it seems like there is but it may also be fear for both of us ... habits you know. I took care of her through addiction and she is scared to lose me. I am tired of being her door mat ant she knows it. She tells me it is all my fault. That she loves me but "I" need to change. She is not well and she knows it ... tells me herself (biploar-although now I think she is that narssistic thing I was reading). Refuses to get help, refues to take any medication for anything psychological (never stopped her from any other kind of drugs ... heh!) We are in business together and we have a family and a life together. Making a list of the good things did make me miss her. Don't really know if it helped. Maybe we should just look at it like we need something to tell us we are not TOTAL losers for chosing these people. They had to have some endearing qualities that attracted us to them other than our own need for self torture!

It is a rough day. She has hurt me a lot today already. She is mad because she feels me trying. So she acts like an evil witch and she knows it makes me afraid. Makes me afraid of losing her. She thinks I will react by kissing her #%@. Not today!! Glad I am here. Can't stay today though ... gotta work!! YUK! I am going to commit to not calling today!!

October 13, 2004
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Don't call today!!!!!!!!!!

Let us know how it goes.....

October 13, 2004
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Ok .. off to work. With talk to you all later. Not gonna call!!!!

October 13, 2004
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COOL Patarino...you sound like you know what you want, and not calling will really help. Sometimes I think I used to "love" my bf when I was really not *IN LOVE* with them. I know alot of you can probably relate.

Today is already 1/2 over, you can make it the rest of the day!!!!

October 13, 2004
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Hey ladies how's it going? Today's Ok, business is getting better. The new guy realized just how much BS there is and he also realized how much Mr. Jack f***** (no better word sorry) it all up to this point, so he won't be allowed in the management whatsoever. I've been spending the nights at my grandparents place since sunday. I miss them, I miss my family, I realized I missed my freedom. My place is empty, I need a home right now. So Mr. Jack calls me and we are talking shop. "And on a personal note how are you doing with your eating disorder at your grandparents?" Well I might not be doing low-carb but I'm certainly not binging!! Then he tells me I'm regressing, as I should be looking into myself and talking to my therapist. I'm like, hello? I'm dealing with alot of stress right now and I feel relaxed here, I don't want to be home alone, no warmth, no TV and I just miss them, as I do the rest of my family! He says then what, aren't you enough for yourself, your just taking the focus off of yourself. I think he's just trying to manipulate me, I felt bad when he started saying this stuff and self-doubt. But it is healthy to have your family for support, I am also doing the work. I was by myself last saturday and I was suicidal and had a breakdown on sunday. I don't think its exactly the best thing to be alone, I feel relaxed here with my grandparents. Isn't this just another manipulation? Another way to get control back? Because I felt bad when he was saying that, I honestly just feel like I need rest right now, and I don't have the energy to do alot of self-reflecting right now, that comes later. I need to recoup. Or am I being paranoid?

October 13, 2004
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You ladies sure are going through some tough times. My heart aches for you! Keep those goals, work on it! You will see that things will begin to turn and as time passes and you stay with your convictions, changes will happen and you will be able to say, Wow!!! I did it!!!

And you will feel so much better! Remember, YOU are the most important person in the world!

((((((((HUGS FOR STRENGTH))))))))

Sunny

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