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getting in touch with the child within
May 27, 2000
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šŸ™ ...
i wont beleive u when u say i've grown so much (becoz i have low self-esteem). well maybe i have but i dont care about it, i'm still way down. still gotta do a LOT. I'm not comfortable in public, i alays feel as if people are watching me, thinking what a loser he is. How can i prevent this ??? ... šŸ™ ..
i'm just so consious in public, i wish i could have the damn-care happy attitude which many people can have.

but u know it HAS got better, sometimes i begin to agree with a person, but for short time, when he says i'm better, or when he praises me.

ok well prove to me that i've grown šŸ™‚ .. and i might beleive it. tell me how u deduced it.

i know looks dont matter that much, but i niether have the looks i want niether the character! ... i know i'm trying but ... right now, i'm maybe only 10% of the person i want to be.

that boy in the market u told about ... the whole thing must have made u smile ! ... children can be so cute ... they're just spontanous, and no hangups as they say.

B/w tez, i'm reading homecoming by bradshaw and he says children are naturally happy, spontanouse, positive, enthusiatic, innocent and many other things. He says all these good qualities which we need in adult life can be killed if they have unhealthy parents, as we all know. What do you say to that? u said once the the child is basically not healthy (emotionally), even from the womb and this thing started when he was seperated from his mother during birth. etc. I.e. IF i got u right.
so what do u think. is the child/infant happy when his life begins, or is he not happy?

May 27, 2000
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thanks spirit and tez. you know sometimes when i'm reading ur posts i dont want to continue eading them when i'm like half-way through them or something. Its like i'll do something else to take my mind of it, because maybe i think "this isnt real. I dont deserve this. why are these people paying attention to me? Ah, this must'nt be right. i dont beleive this! i think i'll do something else."
Then i come back. Its hard isnt it ... arghh...

Tez ure right. my mother is exactly the thing u describe. public ego trip and private whipping boy... same thing here.
thankgod she cant beat me anymore. I dont even let her scold me or allow her to tell me what to do in life. Not anymore. I'll live alone without her in my life, if i had to, but i wont take any more crap from her, surely.
I think right now she's very angry at me. well i dont care. she can have all the anger, dismay and frustration, and think that her son isnt the one she wanted to. Well mommy why dont u go and buy a tomboy from somewhere, a blow up doll or a robot, he'll do what you want him to do, but not me. For me, mom, if you dont want my happiness, then i dont care about you too. do what u want.
and yes. well parented people always had good messages given to them. My mother? "you'll never learn! you've got broken hands, cant u hold anything right (like when i spilled milk and dropped something)? Get out of my sight! I'll break you face if you ever answer me back again! (haha ... man, i have fun NOW answering her back ... haha ....).

and yea, the latest news i got is that she tells my elder sister too, how bad i've become. "Do what you can ppl (i'm saying this to my mom and sis and all those who try to take away my freedom and dont consider my happiness important), i'm deteremined (atleast) to take any crap from anyone."

b/w my mother is almost all the time picking on people even those who seem very right, she'll go and pick something on them and discuss it with hours with my sister or her friends who like doing the same thing as she does. i.e. picking on people. Thats SO insecure and pathetic...
b/w tex why do u say the timebomb is permamantly infused in you ?? Its not i'm sure. Its not permananent, it cant be.

May 27, 2000
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How have you grown? You keep coming back and spreading your wings a bit more. Adding food for thought, at least for me. You have the desire to become, not to just be what others have dictated to you. Get it?

Tez: Welcome home. You have journeyed a long way. May you continue to journey in peace. Its really amazing how many of us have mothers cut from the same bolt of cloth. My mother always told me I would never acheive anything in my life. Well, I'm not rich, nor am I famous, but I am me and that took me a while to be. As she ages, I listen to her talk about famous "kids" as if she were a proud parent. My brothers have all suffered from this way of being by wanting to gain her acceptance. One of them is dead from drug abuse, one is a manic depressant with addiction issues, one is fighting to regain himself after being abusive and various addictions, and the youngest is in prison, but we won't get into that one. Anyway, I know what an uphill battle it is when first starting to discover the real you under all the crap you have been buried under. Its kind of like: There has to be a pony in here somewhere.

May 28, 2000
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I value you kids....Spirit. Tez..guest-guest....It's a blessing to know that children can find their way out of the forest. I know the forest well and the light shining down the path has brought me to see my inner child. Without re=peating what has described my parenting by mom and pop, by what I've read in the sharing, I would like to share a reference book that helped me break free in part to find Heartfelt. The book is called "Forgiving our Parents" by Dwight Lee Wolter. By acknowledging and forgiving the limitations and excesses of others, we acknowledge and forgive the limitations and excesses of ourselves.

May 28, 2000
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well yes spirit i get it .. sort of ... maybe .. šŸ™‚ ..

heartfel i'm reading homecoming by bradshaw. what else did u do to see your inner child as u said ? (yea i know u also went to disney but i went there too, it didnt help... hehe .. just kidding!! šŸ™‚ ).

any extra help i can do for myself?

May 28, 2000
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Spirit, in your last post, I can certainly relate to you.
God has graced you well my friend, you sure are an inspiration. Look at where you have come and from what little you had.
I came from the same stuff, it has been very hard for me, but VERY rewarding also.
I CAN ONLY SAY THE SINGLE MOST IMP FACTOR HAS BEEN GRACE, THE GRACE OF THE CREATOR....for me.
I feel sorry for you Guest, you have no beliefs other than to not believe.
I know how you struggle, I have heard your sad story of childhood abuse and neglect and i feel sad that you had such a painful start in life, but I suggest to you that there are lessons for you to learn within that house of pain.
I know its hard not to be defensive because of the constant criticism you suffered at the hands of your mother, i know it hard not to feel all alone and desperate in this world, but you have not broken through the anger and pain yet and this is holding you in your now, own, self imposed prison.
Once you can do this and learn to let go in a form of forgiveness, not the "oh it was ok" forgiveness, but the forgiveness that you do primarily for yourself, where you no longer let those memories and emotions fill your mind with obssession, then you will truly be on the path to disocovering spirit and love. blessings

May 28, 2000
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Guest-guest.

You said, "... u said once the the child is basically not healthy (emotionally), even from the womb and this thing started when he was seperated from his mother during birth. etc. I.e. IF i got u right. so what do u think. is the child/infant happy when his life begins, or is he not happy?"

Wow! I think you must have misinterpreted something that I said at one stage or other.

What do I think? Well... I don't think that the newborn child is a "tabla rasa". The newborn child has an inherited temperament; a predisposition to be nervous or placid. However, the child at birth already has had experiences in his mother's womb which leave emotional memory traces. Mothers, if asked at any specific time, can tell you that their babies are restless or quiet etc in their wombs. The mother's moods, hormonal states, etc affect the baby in the womb. So no baby is born a 'tabla rasa', ie., a blank slate.

After birth, bonding and attachment to the mother should occur. This attachment to the mother can be very secure or very insecure, depending on many factors existent during the mother/child interactions.

What I actually think is that in our western society, only a minority of children are very securely attached and well parented. You can extrapolate this conclusion by looking around at the number of placid people around you. Would it be as high as 1 in 4?

Not so is other societies. I suspect that the majority of the Hunzas are well parented and very secure as children. Until very recent contact with the west, crime in their society was non-existent. In the west, crime is in epidemic proportions and wars common place. We think that officially sanctioned violence is a legitimate means of solving problems. I shaft all this back to the majority's insecurity of attachment and to their earliest set of emotional memories of fear thus formed. Take a puppy away from its mother, brutalise it and give it no affection and you get a very vicious, nervous, fearful dog.

I would conditionally agree with Bradshaw that certain children are naturally happy etc... However, I think that Bradshaw is talking about children that have secure attachments to the mother and have a quiet temperament. It's both nature and nurture combined that gives the gift of a security of attachment and a set of wonderful childhood emotional memories. I doubt that either you or I were ever happy as children. I know from my earliest baby photos that I was certainly unhappy most of the time. I have only seen one photo of me smiling as a baby. Mostly, I am frowning.

Happiness is the by-product of having the perception that our needs are met and are highly likely to be met in the future. These perceived needs (they may not be actual survival needs at the time of perception) can range from physical needs to 'spiritual needs' of feeling at one with the universe. An adult who harbours an insecure 'child' within and doesn't receive nurture for that 'child' from either him/herself or another is bound to be unhappy and feel deprived of one need or another.

When John Bradshaw or Margaret Paul refer to the 'inner child', they are refering to a set of emotional memories laid down at some time between conception and adolescence. It is my belief that the preverbal childhood emotional memories have the most profound effect on us. These memories were formed when we were most vulnerable and unable to communicate our needs very well. We were dependent upon our mothers and fathers to interprete our body language including the sounds that we make as babies. Some mothers are much more sensitive to their baby's needs than others. Thus we acquired emotional memories then that formed our 'feelings' about the world being either a friendly or a hostile place in which to live. Those 'feelings' about the world and others in it endure in our adulthood as emotional memories.

Did that address your question satisfactorily, Guest-guest?

May 28, 2000
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As an educator of 25 years I have seen some kids from HORRIBLE ((DOUBLE UNDERLINE, BOLDFACED) homes grow and become seemingly very well adjsted happy, stable people. Have seen kids from really stable homes, two parents, consistent etc. etc. etc. go to jail and be real shits...all their lives.

Lots depends on lots in the womb, in the early months, in the early lives and in the basic inherent personality and temperment of the indiviual.

We are such complex beings.

Funm, huh!!??!!

May 28, 2000
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Guest-guest.

In the next posting you asked, "tex why do u say the timebomb is permamantly infused in you ?? Its not i'm sure. Its not permananent, it cant be.

Tex? šŸ™‚ I ain't no cowboy. šŸ™‚

Well... it is the emotional memory of terror and my dominant response to that recall that is permanent.

This is not to imply that I cannot prevent the fuse being lit. By self-nurture I can do just that. But... given enough threat, all the nurture in the world will not prevent my going into rage mode; even at 90 years of age.

I have the temperament and the emotional memory of terror that causes the 'rage' ever present. Emotional memories are the very last to go. All nursing home carers will tell you that.

With a lot of self-nurture and nurturing others, today I am very happy most of the time. You will achieve this too Guest-guest. Of that I am sure. Your determination will ensure that. But it has taken me a lot of hard yards over a lot of years. As you know, I'm 58 now. I'm just a young fella šŸ™‚ I found a lot of help but no real short cuts.

May 28, 2000
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Janes.

I wouldn't be dead for quids!

May 28, 2000
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brenda it isnt easy breaking throught the pain and the anger. but i'm working on it. i'm open to all ideas, i'm even open to accept that there is god. i'm not saying hes there but i just cant make myself beleive it. i'm saying that until i do not beleive it myself, until i cannot convince myself that he exists, he will not exist for me. but i'm working on it as i said. i'm open to everything.

anmd right now i feel so angry. i hate everything, everyone. this afternoon i pictures myself jumping ahead of a long vehicle which was on the move. then i said that was going to be too bloody and besides i dont know where i'm going after i die. Also, i havent had pleasures in my life, i havent had sex with anyone, and look at all the people they have so much fun. So i decided to forget it. maybe i would go somewhere to get laid so that i could see what it was like. Then i said, hey i'm not going to get laid like that. so after all this thinking, i just sighed and knew i couldnt kill myself yet. yea i know it may sound funny but thats what happens sometimes when i think of ending it all. dont worry, everytime i think of killing myself, i'm not successful. But it does get so bad.

tez, i'm sorry i read ur post earlier but right now i'm so messed up, i feel like crying. a few hours ago i felt like getting up and destroying everything, throwing everything out of my room, kicking around and waht tnot. i know i cant do it. i couldnt face the consequences. Besides i couldnt undo what i had done. But that was how much angry and in rage i was feeling. maybe ure right in ur theory.

thanku all for giving me support. ure great. i wish i could cry all i wanted to, but i cant. i hate u god.

May 28, 2000
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guest_guest: To parent one's self is tough. Seems the inner child takes control, but you manage to pull him back to square. Happens to us, one and all. One of the ways I have been able to cope with my anger is to sit down with pen and paper and write the most scathing letter to the person, or persons, then leave it alone. Just letting it sit there. Ink on paper, my thoughts poured out and running all over the pristine white. Once I felt the anger ebb away, I would tear the papers up into tiny shreads, jump into my car and scatter the feeling on the wind. (Never got caught for being a litter bug.) Haven't had to do that in many years, but I will do it again if the need arises. You see, for me, angery words directed to another person, in person, only leads to more anger. Accomplishes nothing. The worst form of anger is that which we direct towards ourselves. I still get miffed at myself, but keep the anger towards me for others. I need to be my own bestfriend.

Janes: Bless you for contributing to our children's futures. Being an educator is one of the toughest, most rewarding jobs out there. I am a firm believer that there are many mitigating factors which makes up us complex beings. Nature, nurture, astrological factors, environment, and the people who influence us on a daily basis. Some of the most influencial people to my being have been people who were in my life for brief moments in time. My foster mom, my grandfather, my third grade teacher to name a few. When I say that Spirit has watched over me and has sent me gaurdian angels, He has sent them in human forms, as well as spiritual. One of the lessons I have learned is to be one of the human guardian angels on earth.

Here I go again. Must be some heavenly hash around here somewhere...(that's a flavor of ice cream)

May 29, 2000
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sniff šŸ™ .. life is tough. thanks for ur words spirit. i just dont feel like typing anything. wish u the best ..!

May 29, 2000
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Yes, Janes, good for you. YOu are so important to the future of all children we parents put in your care.
You are a wise caring soul and I know you must be a great teacher.
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I would like to do an experiement, I am going to send you an important prayer and healing message, please know that I care and others care, feel the prayer that is being sent to you now. Take it and fly with it, prayer is powerful and prayer for another out of compassion ...even more so. Let me know what you feel.
Feel your anger, rage, you have all the right to it. Do some intensitive writing, tell us or write in your own private time how you were victimised and how it made you feel and affected you. Get it out, dont keep it in.
Feeling your anger and expressing your feelings is encouraging and positive.....

May 29, 2000
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Guest-guest.

How yah goin' now, Bro! Know the feelings well.

Anger-> rage -> destruction -> remorse -> guilt -> shame.

Can you pinpoint the focus of your anger? Or is it a ball of resentment and hate aimed at the world in gereral? Kinda like a "Why the f...k was I ever born!!!!" thing?

As for having sex, well.... It fixes nothing. It feels great with the 'right' woman but nothing changes about those inner emotional memories.

People like you and I are particularly vulnerable to addictive relationships with women. If we meet a woman who is psychologically similar to how we 'saw' and experienced our mom as tiny infants. Then we tend to form an addictive love hate, pull-push, relationship with them.We tend to re-enact the dramas of yesteryear. Usually they 'back off' of us. However, if they are caught up with us in the same trap, a very sick and painful codependency can result. Watch out for this Bro; remember these few words.

So Bro, I have found that the easy way out of this whole scenario is to learn as much as I can about myself and my own set of unique emotional memories. Then at the same time I have learnt how to 'parent' myself. Then 'I', the rational 'parent', am able to soothe 'me', the emotional child. (Note the word 'soothe' - 'repressing' or 'disowning' won't work) The destructive emotional outbursts became fewer and farther in between. These outbursts are now of much lower intensity. The negative, highly destructive emotional energy is more quickly dissipated.

Remember matey, we are not alone. There are a great many just like us and worse who live very happy lives through overcoming our early experiences. I like to think that I am one of the lucky ones who have largely done this. But!!! I am not 'smart arsed' about it. My next rage attack may result in a disaster, who knows.

However, I am confident that given normal circumstances, the rage will only happen for a short time in my head and not in my external behaviour. But if my woman was raped by someone, well... I would be the one in front of the courts on trial for the very gruesome murder of the rapist. I shudder at the very thought. There, but for the grace of God, Buddha, Allah, Brahma or Whomsoever, go I.

May 29, 2000
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guest guest...Adding the letter d to the word anger becomes danger....a strong signal to us to step back when angry. It does take practice and with the knowing that there are more than one way to look at the same thing helps in how to address the issue. The word GOD may also be used simply as good orderly direction. A positive forward movement. No you can't just make yourself just believe their is a God or higher force than ourselves full of love and goodness. For me religions play a part in the sense that we all are sinners, and we start at the bottom trying to claw our way by way of man's ideals to be people of God. My belief is that this force. God, spirit, is a compassionate, loving, forgiving force and when we allow our hearts to fall into his/her hands by letting go of the will of which we have no control, to a degree. Self will run riot used to be me. Today......grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. thy will, not mine be done.....a letting go..it works if we work it. Suicide is not an option...my words to you are from the heart.if at this moment you feel that taking your human BECOMING and giving up.....continue your journey for me and those here and elsewhere that love you and I promise you, with your courage, commitment and work, you will transform little by little into who you really are.....

May 29, 2000
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Just a few more words about anger. Anger is wasted energy when the outcome of expressing that anger is negative. There are times when we need to get down-right angry so we are spurred into action. Not reaction. Sometimes when I'm running short of energy, I will begin to feel angry at myself for not having the stamina needed to lift that heavy box, as an example, and I redirect that anger into necessary energy to do what needs to be done. People around me do not understand, most of the time, that by doing this I have unleashed a minute amount of a lifetime supply of energy I have stored up inside of me. Took me a long while to understand this myself, about what I was accomplishing. Hey, the anger is real, it's there because of all the crap others did to a defenseless little girl, and I'll be damned if it causes me ulcers by keeping it all bottled up inside. So, out it comes, bit by bit, in a more positive manner, with more positive results. Okay, maybe I don't really need to swear like a sailor during these times of energy redirection, but I'm working on that, also. I think you get the jist of what I'm trying to say. Peace to all who have energy to redirect.

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you people are beautilful. why do u waste ur time on me ? šŸ™‚ ...

i feel so many things come to mind when people try to care about me. When i'm my good mood i'll deny it thinking oh i dont need it that much. i was just feeling bad at that time, i'm much better now. i think this is all obsolote for me.

when i'm in my bad mood, i'll think other things. If i reply i'll keep this thing going on and at one time i'll get sick of it. If i DONT reply, people might get upset and forget about me later. Later when i'll need their advice they'll pay lesser attention to me cause last time i didnt care about communication, when infact they must have been waiting to get some reply from me. After all, human communication carries value, right? Then theres the confusion, i wonder if i'll get allright, maybe this is the last time i have to post here, and i'll be able to continue with my life from here. OR i'll think i still havent got better so i'll defintiely need them, so what should i post?

as u might have seen i'm just spilling out words making not much sense .. !

ah wel ... nevermind ..
i ahev all your words everyone, i'll definitely get back here and able to comprehend them better.
sometimes posting here gets obsessive for me and then i know i have to get a break otherwise its not going to be much use. the advice will just be flying over my head. I bet all of you have much valuable advice for me, i want to be in the best state of mind to be able to take it in, instead of just passing over it ..

thanks so much all, brenda, spirit, tez and heartfel for caring !! šŸ™‚ ...
this low self-esteem causes me to doubt everything u say (in the ways i said above) right now. Mayeb i'll get it better whne i'm lesser obsessed ...

sometimes it feels ridiculous to be so straightforward, like i'm doing right now, not stopping thoughts or editting them as u can see !! šŸ™‚ ..
but i hope thats for the better, and it should cause some unravelling in my mind, hopefully. maybe when i'm sleeping? (which i'm going to do riht now). thanks again! i'll get back here later ..!

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guest guest........sleep well

May 30, 2000
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Guest-guest.

'Thinking' that you are a worthwhile person and 'feeling' that you are also, are two different ball games.

I found it valuable to reflect upon the truth of this statement.

You are right! People on this site do care about you. Why do you think this is so?

If they really got to know the real you do you think it would be different? Why?

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It is never a waste of time when reaching out to a fellow spirit. What the world needs more of is positive interaction with our fellow beings, or as Heartfelt calls us, becomings. Guest_guest, if you felt like taking a leave of absence, rest assured, you will be well thought of here. Your contribution would be missed, and welcomed once again. That's just the way it is. Peaceful slumber...

Tez: When is the last time you danced in the rain with the mud squishing between your toes?

Brenda: Ever had a good food fight with your children and husband and laughed about it for days?

Janes: The last time you went to the movies, was it a comedy, drama, mystery, or an adventure film?

Heartfelt: Do you like making people laugh, or having people make you laugh?

Hazza: Do you read books for entertainment, or for enlightenment the most?

Guest_guest: Have you ever eaten a banana-split for dinner just because you could?

Why so many questions, just the annoying kid in me wanting to know about the kid in each of you. If I missed your nickname, please don't feel leftout, I mean no disrespect. Feel free to tell a bit about the kid in you. Right now the kid in me needs another glass of water...

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Spirit!
Oh the kid in me!! I have more difficulty finding my Outer Adult sometimes than finding my Inner Child!

Books, I read them for both enjoyment and enlightenment. When I go through my book reading phases, I will read a fiction book, just for a good yarn and also a non fiction book on some subject i am interested in - usually history or something like that.

It was my birthday last week and my older brother came over and my mum made a curry for dinner. And yes me and my older brother had a big food fight afterwards! he is 30 and i am 27. My Dad also joined in far too much for a real "grown up"!!!We then all played badmington in the garden, which was a bit more civilised!

Fun is important - it is the seeds of happy memories. We all know how to get sad memories right? But happy memories are important - like having a smile in the bank to save for a rainy day.

A few yrs back I was at a party with all my friends and my boyfriend at the time. One friend of mine (he died shortly afterwards) was there. We decided to play a joke on my boyfriend, so before we went into the room where my boyfriend was, I kissed my friend on the forehead, leaving a bright red lipstick mark on his face, we then went into the room and my friend started talking to my boyfriend. I was the only person at the party with bright red lipstick, so as we both sat talking to my boyfriend, one by one everyone in the room started to realise what we had done, whilst my boyfriend just kept on talking to my friend without noticing.
Soon enough my boyfriend realised that something was up and finally he seemed to get it and saw this lipstick mark and burst out laughing! It had taken him SO long to figure it out that we were all laughing uncontrollably by then. Luckily, my boyfriend at that time had a good sense of humour - many men would not find that funny at all- but he did.

Now that my friend is gone, that silly little memeory means a lot to me.
Just like whenever I would get on the back of his motorbike he would shout "all aboard the skylark" (a reference from a kids program on TV) or remembering the way, if I was pillion on his bike how he woul dtalk ALL the time and never shut up even though I couldn't hear him.

I remember the time he came back really late to the flat we used to hang out at, because he had been to the police station.
A guy had been drunk driving and nearly knowcked him off his bike, so when the guy stopped my friend opened his car door and took his car keys. This guy got a bit angry when my friend said to him that he must walk home and he would leave the car keys under the car for him in the morning, so the guy called the police HIMSELF nd got arrested for D/D. The police gave my friend a PEN as a reward and we all nearly wet ourselves at his prize police pen!
Such silly things that you do now for fun, become precious things in life as we grow and move on.

The mememories I have from travelling all over europe as a teenager became so important to me when my agoraphobia presented itself in my twenties.

We never know when these memories become more that just happy thoughts but therapy in themselves. Fun is an important thing.

A few weeks ago I went to the seaside for the weekend and played on the beach hunting for fossils and checking out the rock pools. Excellent fun. Running for cover when it started to rain again!! I love england!

So what shall we do today that is fun?

I shall wait until my puppy is asleep and then wake HER up by licking HER face and biting HER nose. Just so she knows how it feels after all she did all those things to me at six o'clock this morning!!!
Peace all and lets have some "fun" reports from you guys!
Haz

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No prob. The last time I went to a movie...the new stara wars. Usually pick adventure/mystery. refuse to watch victim films ... bother me to much. comedy is great

Paniced last week cuz I couldn't find my rubber chicken.

I like to both make people laugh and be made to laugh.

Esp like belly laughs from kids

May 31, 2000
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My Younger brother has been playing with his rubber chicken today!

No really, not a euphemism, he does have a rubber chicken that makes a chicken noise when you squeeze it and i heard him playing with out in the hall earlier!

Unless.... there is a chicken lose in the house.

Which reminds me......

A while agon, my aunt and uncle used to live in the house across the street directly opposite to us. My young nephew was around at the time and we were all standing in the hall talking when he said to his dad
"daddy look at our house there is a peacock on the garage!"
so his dad said "dont be silly Alex" and ignored him, but then I looked and told them all "no, there is actually a peacock on your garage"

And we all looked and sure enough the was this most beautiful peacock just standing on his roof.

Pretty soon, it flew up into the sky, up until then I didn't even know that peacocks Could fly, but they can and well.
The bird flew higher and higher and the sun shone brightly off its back and flight feathers, it is amazing how much gold you see on the peacocks wings as well as blue when it flys. With all this gold and blue and that lovely tail flowing behind it in the sun, it was truely amazing, like a phoenix! these birds look even better in the sky than they do on the ground.

Turns out this bird was part of a private collection and had escaped.

A few days later, I went to walk my dog and turned the corner of the pavement to be faced by this peacock just standing there staring at me.

don't silly things happen sometimes.

I hope you find your chicken!

Your comments about children reminded me of what my cousin did to her kids last summer.

In the school holidays, she and her husband decided that they would take the kids over to euro disney in paris.

But they thought they would suprise them.

So they got the kids int the car one day, 2 boys aged 8 and 10.
And they told the kids they were going on a picnic at the seaside.

So off they went. so far so good.

As they got to Dover, the dad turned to his wife and said " hey honey, have you still got the passports and the old ferry tickets from last week in the bag ?" (they had made a day trip to France just the 2 of them the week before) and she said yes. So he turned to the kids and said "hey, lets try to get a ferry over to france, I know we don't have tickets, but maybe we can use the old ones and bluff it!"

so the younger son is going "yeah - bluff it daddy bluff it" and the older kid is more reserved and saying "oh i don't know, we may get in trouble "

So they get on to the ferry (of course they have booked the tickets and everything - but the kids don't know that!)

SO the arrive in france and the dad says to the kids " oh, i don't know... now we are here i think we may as well drive around a bit and have a look at the country side, if we miss the ferry home, we can just bluff it!"

so again the younger kid is going yeah bluff it daddy, and so on.

Eventually they arrive at Paris and the dad turns to his wife and says "well i think it is too late now, we better find a hotel, I know we don't have any money on us but maybe we can bluff it"

The younger kid, is going yeah bluff it daddy, bluff it and the older kid is saying how they will get in trouble if they don't have any money and so on.

Eventually the drive up to the hotel in euro disney and the dad says "well this looks like a nice hotel, they may not have any rooms but may be we can bluff it!"
and suddenly the kids realise where exactly they are and they both go "
"oh this is the hotel in EURO disney isn't it!" and then they realise they had been had!!

So they spent the weekend at euro disney after all, but the kids had no idea it was planned until they got there!
Although, i think they will be much more cautious of their folks after that.

These kids I must say, are the nicest kindest happiest 2 boys I have ever seen. And the only thing I can put it down to is that they have been given a lot of love and a lot of respect from their parents. They are one happy family and it is lovely to see!
I thought it was such a lovely joke t play on the kids, they tell me the story each time i see them and it gets more elborate each time and they tell me what their daddy said next! So i think they like to play jokes too!

Anyway, more fun stories please!
Hazza
play and fun must be important to getting to know our inner child!

May 31, 2000
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As children, we had so many restrictions placed on us by parents, parent types, and an assortment of others in positions of authority. As adults, we have a tendancy to believe that adults must be adults all the time. As you can see, it just ain't so.

We all love and respect the spirit known to us as Hazza. Very well thought out responses to each of us in our times of need. A spirit who has walked the walk and is passing on some of her lessons learned. Yet, her freedom to be her adult self, or her child self is alive and well. Like Hazza, I too have trouble, somtimes, being the adult me. And, if you're not careful, others will catch on to being their child self along with you, then WHAM! you have found yourself smack dab in the middle of a great time. Oh the horrors. NOT!

Janes likes to hear the laughter of children. To me, there is no sweeter sound than the honest to goodness laughter of a child. Rubber chicken? You, one of our trusted educators. I'm so gladdened to read that you KNOW the value of joy and happiness in the classroom. I learned more from teachers who made learning fun, than I did from those who were dead-panned and went by the book.

Still a few hold-outs out there. Don't be afraid to let your childlike self show. Ya know, there is a big difference between being childlike and childish. When we are childlike, we are having great fun at no ones expence. When we are childish, we must become our own parent and parent our inner child so no one else gets hurt. Finding your inner child and having fun with it is the only way I know to ressurrect the innocence lost from childhood abuse. Let's hear from you hold-outs. May you find great peace within during your next food fight...

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