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Getting back on your feet
June 24, 2004
10:05 am
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So I am finally taking the step and moving away from Jack. It is scary I woke up last night or I should say in the middle of the night with a strong urge to call him, and I didn't. Step one. Two classes have started so I think that will help. I am going to try to consume all my time with activites or things that make me happy. Step three, I am scared. Not of him, but of having my life without him, and I know I can do it, because it will be so much better, I just am afraid that I will get weak. I have realized someting, as Mr. Jack had got a loan with one of his friends to buy a house together, that screams to me non-committal. He is BUYING a house with a friend, and I just don't see an actual future with him. Why do I miss him if he is such a jerk. I wonder what is wrong with me for liking and caring about someone that has little to no integreity. I really hope I can do this, I am really going to try, and I felt good this morning. He thinks I am bi-polar with my mood swings. I wonder if I am. I have never thought so, but I was off the charts with him. And I am sad, and I wish I was happy that I am done with him. I should be happy.

June 24, 2004
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first off aces, is Mr Jack himself bipolar??? you had every right to be upset with him, thats normal, bipolar are huge mood swings, highs and lows.

I guess you may be afraid of the unknown, not knowing what will happen in your life, since Mr Jack is out of it, hold onto yourself honey, know that you will be ok, you were fine in life b4 you met him, and you will be fine once he is gone, its just dealing with all of the good times(which I am sure you must have had a few with him)...think of all the bad things he did to you and how he treated you, you deserve so much better, and know that someday down the road you will meet a wonderful man and look back on this and Mr Jack will be so much of a bad history.

Take things slow, be good to you, stay focused and know this is the best move that you can make.

~ camer.

June 24, 2004
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I found out that he was checking my other email account too, another one, another huge fight, with him saying that he never wants to talk to me again, for me to never call him again, and for us to never talk again. I just took a pregnancy test as well, today is a bad bad day.

June 24, 2004
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What were the results of the test?

June 24, 2004
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It was negative, Im just a little worried I haven't gotten my period yet, and am struggling with that one.

June 24, 2004
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If you're really stressed, that can happen. Hang in there!

June 24, 2004
5:26 pm
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Yes. Stress or almost anything can make you miss a couple days. Glad to hear it was negative. Stay strong aces, you're doing great! 🙂

June 24, 2004
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Aces...

I would like to start by saying..I am so proud of you for taking charge of your life and walking away.

Your period is most likly late because you are stressed out, take a hot bath and try to think of nothing. I bet you a dollar, you'll get in within a day or two.

I remember what one of my counseler's said to me some time ago about leaving my ex-husband, he told me to treat each day and action as a link on a chain, every day that you do not think or speak to him is a link on a chain, if you think or speak to him, you lose a link and if you don't , you'll gain one. Next thing you know..you'll have a long chain which represents the distance between the both of you..Good Luck {{hugs}}

June 25, 2004
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Aces, I am and have been in the same boat as you for some time. I have asked myself MANY times "why am I so sad without him....he was such a jerk and still is." Instead of buying a house, mine bought a BMW. I feel your pain. I'm trying to move on and some days are much better than others. I was scared too. The fear will subside when you see that you can do it. You will survive! You are doing all of the right things. Baby steps are key. You will have good days and bad days. You might go days without wanting to call him and then feel like you must call him. It's all perfectly normal. Keep us posted!!!

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