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Gaslighting - Who started the first thread??
January 13, 2006
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I cannot remember who started the thread on 'Gaslighting" some time ago and just found something interesting on this.

While narcissistic people can be of either gender, odds are you will see mostly women victims who are willing to discuss these issues, once you identify them. However, keep in mind that men may be equally affected by this type of subtle and emotional brainwashing. Yet men may not be as willing to talk about their feelings, so you may have to dig a little deeper.

What Can You Do?

Become more aware of what emotional abuse looks like and then consider options for emotional support for your clients, in addition to supporting them through their depressive episodes until such time as they can find an emotionally healthy, safe environment.

First of all, go rent the old movie Gaslight. Made in 1944, nearly 40 years before Narcissistic Personality Disorder was an official diagnosis, one can clearly see the “crazy-making” behavior that is so cunningly applied by the narcissist to his victim. While the motive of the villain is criminal in this film, the behaviors are classic narcissist none-the-less. I have actually had clients of mine watch this film for 20 minutes and call me to tell me that they had to throw up as the recognition of the destructive brainwashing was so clear to them, that seeing it in the 3rd person suddenly turned on a light of recognition in their own lives.

Secondly, I give you a list of but a few questions that you can ask your client to help reveal if they are living in a toxic, emotionally abusive environment, (which may have already led to physical and/or sexual abuse as well.) If you client answers yes to a majority of these questions, then they are probably dealing with a destructive, narcissistic relationship.

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January 14, 2006
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I dont know who started it, but it is a heck of a good thread topic.

I consider gaslighting to be one of the most heinous and brutal forms of abuse.

Another word for gaslighting is "crazy making."

January 14, 2006
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Exoticflower brought it up in a thread called "Query: What is Crazymaking" last August. You'll be able to find it in the thread search.

January 14, 2006
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Gaslighting is when somebody f****s with your head. Intentionally. With either intent to harm, or to gain from it in some way. Usually, They're just after the upper hand. So it isn't done to them... which is what they are most afraid of....

Good to hear from ya' WD.

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I wish I had this info 20 years ago

January 28, 2008
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Here's the first post for this one:

garfield9547
13-Jan-06

I cannot remember who started the thread on 'Gaslighting" some time ago and just found something interesting on this.

While narcissistic people can be of either gender, odds are you will see mostly women victims who are willing to discuss these issues, once you identify them. However, keep in mind that men may be equally affected by this type of subtle and emotional brainwashing. Yet men may not be as willing to talk about their feelings, so you may have to dig a little deeper.

What Can You Do?

Become more aware of what emotional abuse looks like and then consider options for emotional support for your clients, in addition to supporting them through their depressive episodes until such time as they can find an emotionally healthy, safe environment.

First of all, go rent the old movie Gaslight. Made in 1944, nearly 40 years before Narcissistic Personality Disorder was an official diagnosis, one can clearly see the “crazy-making” behavior that is so cunningly applied by the narcissist to his victim. While the motive of the villain is criminal in this film, the behaviors are classic narcissist none-the-less. I have actually had clients of mine watch this film for 20 minutes and call me to tell me that they had to throw up as the recognition of the destructive brainwashing was so clear to them, that seeing it in the 3rd person suddenly turned on a light of recognition in their own lives.

Secondly, I give you a list of but a few questions that you can ask your client to help reveal if they are living in a toxic, emotionally abusive environment, (which may have already led to physical and/or sexual abuse as well.) If you client answers yes to a majority of these questions, then they are probably dealing with a destructive, narcissistic relationship.

Garfield

January 28, 2008
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Maybe I should see this movie!

January 28, 2008
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Sin....I think everyone should see this movie

January 28, 2008
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You can watch it on YouTube
Here is part one of 6 that I found:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=lfSDfI1owNQ

We can turn this into a learning session with the info and the movie.

Whaddyasay?

January 28, 2008
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Here is the original theatrical trailer. It has some revealing scenes about our topic in it alone:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=4kFSeVFlzYw

January 29, 2008
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*Bump*

January 29, 2008
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I am going to try to watch the rest of the movie tonight.
If I find the rest "Gaslight"( 1944) With Ingred burgman I will try to post links. But right now it looks like it will be the other one. its the same story just told a little differently and with different actors and done 5 years earlier.

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