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Funeral next Saturday, prayers needed...
October 29, 2006
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Hello. Just an update from my last post about this.

I'll refer to our loved one who recently just passed as "S".

S's father was just here to let us know when her funeral would be, and it's going to be next Saturday. They are going to have a memorial on the reservation first, then have one here in town.

S's father needs prayer. My heart truly goes out to him. He's hurting, as this was his little girl. He's a recovering alcoholic for some years now, but has not been to a meeting for quite a while. He says he will be going back. He had a relapse over this, and drank a bottle of whiskey to numb his pain. This is the second child he has lost.

His wife is dealing with a great amount of guilt. She and S didn't get along too well, and this is so very painful for it to have ended like this. Their issues weren't resolved. She was S's stepmom, but I think there was resentment built in S over her marriage to her father. S and I had talked about this before, but of course, I only had S's side of the story. Regardless, I'm sure S's stepmom never would have dreamed it would ended this way. So she needs prayer, too.

S's boyfriend is recovering physically, but is still in a very emotional state, which is to be expected. He doesn't have much memory of the accident. He says he was alseep, and woke up because he felt movement and looked up and saw the semi coming at them. His next memory was waking up in the hospital. S's father said he was glad that S was able to experience this love with her boyfriend.

S's has 3 younger siblings that her father had to break this to. This was very difficult, as they truly looked up to S and loved her. S had a real way with children.

There was an obit. in the paper of the 18 month old baby that died with her. S was listed in it as the baby's "very special babysitter that he loved dearly. And that S loved him as her own". It helped to see that. S's father said that she and the baby were together quite a bit for the last couple of months. The baby was properly buckled into his carseat at the time of the accident. The accident is still not completely understood. It was around 9:00 am, and there was no alcohol or drugs involved. It's believed that there was the possibility that S may have been reaching back to the baby with one arm while driving, but it's not known for sure. S's father says he just wants closure, and to know what exactly happened.

My girls are coping better now, and they are preparing for the days to come.

So this is the latest. Just wanted to thank everyone for their love and support thru this time. It means more than you know to be able to come here and share. Thank you!

Jen

October 29, 2006
4:49 pm
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((((Jenni))))

I will keep everyone in my prayers.

It sounds like S was a very special young woman. I'm sorry I missed all the things you wrote about her.

I know that her stepmother is dealing with guilt, but I hope she can put it in perspectvie and not feel so badly. Unrseolved feelings are hard to deal with.

How are you holding up? You mentioned the girls and I know you are helping them through this. I'm glad they are doing okay. Grief is a process and to learn it young is not the easiest of roads.

Love,
Cyndra

October 29, 2006
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Thank you, Cydra. I'm doing ok. The waves of this just comes and goes for me. Some of the reality has hit me, but just not all of it. Seeing her father today has made some more of it real. And the funeral will probably be the major part that will make it sink in. I'm one of those delayed types when it comes to death. But I know it's coming, and I'm doing my best to prepare for it.

I just try to stay busy so I don't think about it so much, but I won't be able to avoid it much longer.

Thank you for asking and caring. (((Cyndra)))

October 29, 2006
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Jen, I will definitely keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers this week...I too, have the delayed issue about major things...maybe it is a survivor technique???

jen, thanks so much for last night...things would have been much worse if you would not have answered my call for help...Thanks...love ya...GG

October 29, 2006
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Thank you, GG. And you're welcome for last night. When I'm here, I'm more than happy to talk. (((GG)))

I love ya'll, too! Thank you!

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