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Funeral Arrangements
May 10, 2007
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Mr. Anonymous
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I have come to the point in my life, where I have decided to put all the pain of being abused physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually behind me. Instead, I am now moving on with my life. So, this is what I have decided to do. This week, I will be making arrangements for a funeral in which I will bury the issues that I have. There will be a handmade hatchet placed in the box and a red mark placed for each abuse issue I have endured. Then, I will have a funeral after I close the box on it. I will be receiving family & friends that evening (that's the reason for my cookout). I am letting go & letting God work His perfect plans in my life. Then, I will seek counseling to help me deal with the issues that are now dead. A therapist recommended that I have a funeral for those issues, they say it will help me to move on. Those reading this, please write back & extend me your support because this is still a rough process because it means I will have to directly face each issue.

May 10, 2007
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I like the idea very much. That old YOU is dead. The new YOU can rise up out of those ashes.

- Ma Strong

May 10, 2007
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(((Mr. Anonymous)))

So many of us could find use in doing the exact same thing. I hope that you can bury the past, and get beyond it. I wish you nothing but the best on your journey. NOTHING.

Best Wishes...

Mich

May 10, 2007
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Thanks all for your support. God bless u. Currently, I am in the process of ordering the floral arrangements, preparing the food, and readying myself for the hatchet burial. I am still a little nervous at having to stare these issues in the face, but at least friends and family will be there with me all day. My oldest cousin (i'm second oldest & we're 2 years apart) is staying with me for a couple days following the "funeral." With the help of God, I am planning to move on. So far, for the funeral, I have the following music that I am trying to compile on CD "My Savior's Love for Me," "Don't Cry For Me," "Amazing Grace," "Oh Lord! How Excellent is Thy Name," and the finale a personal favorite of mine which is appropriate "I've Started My Life Over Again." Can anyone think of anything else that would help me out? If so, it would be greatly appreciated.

May 10, 2007
12:40 pm
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Mr. A.,

The "funeral" sounds like it will be very therapeutic for you. I hope it brings you a new sense of peace and serenity.

I really like the song "You Raise Me Up" by Josh Groban. I think it may be appropriate for your ceremony.

All the best,

TC

May 10, 2007
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Something for me to think about real soon. Good luck

May 10, 2007
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WOW.. that is such a good idea,
I think it is going to be great. its nice that your family and friends are there to support you through that.. if you think about it it is a mourning process you are going to be going through, after my divorce there was about a year of mourning my old life as I was trying to move on to my new one.. a funeral for the old me would have helped a lot.. you will be able to look back during those hard times and say, no, I buried the old life, I buried the pain, it is time to move on.. what an exciting step.. I am happy for you...
elle..

May 10, 2007
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I think it is a great idea. When I movfed to Florida to make a fresh new start with my life. I stopped at the first roadside park in FL and wrote all my grivances against my husband and life. I tore them up and threw them out and left them there.

I didn't solve my problems but symbolically letting go of my anger helped me to work through it.

May 11, 2007
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((((Anonymous)))...I am so happy for you. What a great idea. Now the healing can begin. The new you is finally emerging:)

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