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Friend molested young boys
February 4, 2006
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I have a friend that molested 3 young boys from 7-9 Y.O. Nobody has done anything about it. He did it three times now. I quit being around him because alot of other people know what he did. I don't want to be thought of as a molestor myself. I want him to get help before he does it again. The problem is I don't have all the facts of the molestation. Do I call the childabuse hotline with what I have, or should I wait? His Pastor from his church knows that this happened in the church. I was told he warned my friend if it happened again he would call the police. I am afraid he might do it again. What do I do?

February 4, 2006
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Please Please DO NOT WAIT!!! Call the authorities with what you have. The pastor should have reported this, but since he hasn't YOU have a moral obligation to do so. There is no such thing as doing it "just this one time", "I don't know what came over me", "it won't happen again", etc etc etc. Pedophiles by their very nature are repeat offenders. And your silence is taken as permission, if not collusion. Please Please be strong and make the call!!!

February 4, 2006
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I have another thought. It is about the victims. They are feeling shame, anger, confusion and probably a whole host of other things. If you know who they are, I think it might be important for you to tell them you know what happened, it is completely wrong, it is not their fault, and THEY should tell someone they trust.

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February 4, 2006
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W0icy,
In the past, I have never beg for anything. I am beggin on bended knee right now. PLEASE call and talk to someone. If the authorities don't have enough to do anything with your confession, they can set a record of things or events. Believe me when I tell you this, I am law enforcement and they need a file for things to get things done. I emplore you, do not let this go un-noticed. Report this and let them take care of it. I pray for your strength to do the right thing. Hurt.

February 5, 2006
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I feel like if you know about this and don't report it then you are allowing this abuser to hurt and continue to hurt children. These abusers are very clever seductive people they are usually the person everybody loves. The affects this abuse destroys childrens lives...and I would hope you wouldn't let the sun set tonight without helping any possible children out of this mess. Usually when someone is "caught" they have already molested seven children, sometimes alot more. You can call anonomoysly. Please help these kids. I am 35 and still suffering the affects of this type of abuse from when I was a kid and I wish someone would have helped me......You could be a hero here.

February 5, 2006
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If you don't report it, you are an accessory to the crime.

You refer to a church membership. Am I right to suspect you are both members of the congregation? No one has to tell you that churches no longer have the ability to cover this kind of crime.

You know why? Someone else will certainly report it. Then every friend of this guy will be a suspect for not coming forward first. Abusers convince each of their victims they are the "only" and they also often convince witnesses, too, that no one will believe them, no one else "knows". What you have seen, others also must have seen, and they are just like you: worried about the consequences of speaking up.

Do yourself a big favor and report it. If you are scared, just copy this thread into a document like an email and type your facts and send it to the proper authorities. Print it off and send it in an envelope.

They will investigate because it is their responsibility after you have spoken up, but it remains your responsibility until you hand it over to them.

February 6, 2006
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How did you come across this information?

February 6, 2006
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"His Pastor from his church knows that this happened in the church. I was told he warned my friend if it happened again he would call the police."

This is appalling! If it happens again?! What about the young boy that it may happen to? His life will be forever changed. This man should not be in a position to molest again. PLEASE tell the authorities what you know immediately. Let them take care of things from there.

Seriously, w0icy, the burden of this is on you now. I know you haven't molested anyone and you aren't the pastor that was made aware - but the fact remains; this will end with you if you do the right thing and notify the police this minute.

For some reason, I have faith that you will do the right thing.

Love,
Tater

February 6, 2006
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Report him. Dont hold back. Let me put it this way. How would you feel if those were your children. Better yet, How would you feel if you grew up and you were molested.

DUDE . DO SOMETHING. REPORT IT ASAP.

February 6, 2006
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I knew someone who molested his sister. It doesn't matter if he is your friend. You have a responsibility as his friend to report him. You are not doing him any favors by keeping it away from the police. He will do it again if he thinks he can get away with it. You are no real friend to him at all if you don't report it and you are telling the kids this happened to that their pain and shame in this situation is meaningless and trivial. Don't do that to them and don't do that to him.

February 7, 2006
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That pastor is a mandated reporter. He is breaking the law, too.

February 7, 2006
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call the police now. please!!!

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