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September 17, 2005
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bonita1
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Good night, mzrella!! Sleep well, hon. I know how awful it feels to be sleep deprived.

September 17, 2005
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well, bon bon-

IN that case, I know your religion teaches forgiveness, but that does not mean you do have to go back to your abuser. You can feel sorry for him for driving away his beloved children, for being the way he is, but you cannot fix what he did or who he is....he has to come to you, actually he should ask for your forgiveness. Real forgiveness comes from his conscience, his God, and his victims. You cannot be responsible for all that. You feel guilty for what he did to you? You are the victim! It is sad for all parties involved, of course. You wanted loving parents or took care of you, but they hurt you instead. You cannot change that no matter what. You can confront your abuser. You can avoid your abuser. Decide what will hurt you more. Most of all take care of yourself. You have suffered enough harm. Don't harm yourself more. You have no reason to harm yourself with guilt. You never did anything wrong, now did you, you innocent child, sweet bon bon. Please hug yourself. Please, do that for me.

September 17, 2005
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MamaC. My week has been up and down, but overall a good week. From what I have been reading you have been pretty busy---can I get an update on your daughter?

September 17, 2005
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Neshie,

You are reacting in a very normal way. But you have to remember that you never would have dated this stalker guy so don't think that every guy you meet who is a potential date is also a would be stalker.

On the other hand,however, taking precautions is a good thing...like meeting your dates at a restaurant and taking 2 separate cars. That way if the date is going badly you can always excuse yourself and make a break for it...RUN!!! just kiddin' ;D

September 17, 2005
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jeez, neshie,

you make me cry...thank you for the hug.

September 17, 2005
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I am starting to fade into unconsciousness.....

September 17, 2005
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neshie,

You go do your promotion stuff... I need to sink into my mattress...ZZZZzzzzzzzz

Good Night, girlfriend! Love ya,

bonbon

September 17, 2005
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awww bon bon, don't cry! You need to find the love you need from friends or other relatives. I know you don't want to cut him off. You are hoping for something from him. Maybe one day he will realize what he did wrong...until then, you know you cannot expect it...it is sort of like being an orphan, I guess...must be really hard.

As for my stalker, I have reasons to not want to date. I have his whole history and know what he did to women he did meet on dates. Thus, I guess that added another layer to the whole story. It is really dangerous, I have since learned to meet people. I took all this self defense from the cops, themselves. You wouldn't believe what goes on. THe only people I ever would date are people I have watched a long time either at work, the gym, through friends, or on a project or something. Even those people, I would do a background check on them, believe it or not. I won't take any chances, especially since I am only 100 lbs. It really put a damper on my social life. I used to have a lot of guys calling me. Now, I have 2, and they barely count.

September 17, 2005
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ok, i peeked at my least favorite post, that lass' post is awesome! But I banned myself from replying, because I am too mad at the whole thread.

September 17, 2005
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Neshie!

You are too funny! I can barely keep my eyes open and am just about to close the browser and I took one peek at that thread, too!! I hadn't even read it before until you mentioned you were mad at it!! LOL

September 17, 2005
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Did you see how mad I got? And then how mad people got at me? Sheesh! Whatever, I stand by my position.

September 17, 2005
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Naw! Are you kiddin? That was waaaaay too much reading for me, especially feeling as sleepy as I do right now. I just read that last post by lass. It was sooo beautiful. I want that!! Wah! Wah!

LOL ;D

September 17, 2005
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bon bon- seriously u should scroll up.

September 17, 2005
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I will later, neshie. Right now I am going to bed.

Love ya, girlfriend! muah! muah! (spanish kisses LOL)

~~bonbon

September 17, 2005
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me 2! I worked on the promotion, actually got a lot done. You all calmed me down and got my mind off my sick mommy. THank you, hunny bunny. Love ya bunches! XOXOXOXOXO! Ur da best. nite nite. Hugs, Neshie

September 17, 2005
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I'm always checking in when everyone has gone to bed. I just got home from work. It's almost 3;30am here. I am kinda like the late late show. not just the late night, the late late night show of the night crew. lol.

well, it's best i get off and go to bed anyway.

Sorry things are not looking up for you Nesh. Hold on and hang in there! prayers for you and your mom.

September 17, 2005
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Thanks, Alyssa! xoxox

September 17, 2005
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Hey girls...you make me think of the cool no bullsh*t girls who I've always looked to and thought "now there are some girls who are really confident" before I became an outspoken confident girl myself. Right now, though, I am lacking in outspoken confidence in myself and wondered if any of you could take a peek at my thread "Yikes told his mother everything" please? My ex is a controling jerk and now has his parents coming for every visit he makes to give em the feeling (and must be tellnig them this) that I am some evil monster who is somehow only controlable under their supervisoun (I am a twenty five year old woman, single mother, completely self sufficiant since I was 16. I AM an adult, I don't need adult supervision!)...So I worte his mother and said "listen sister, grown mother to gerown mother, lets get this straight before you come out here to treat me like sa threat or an abuser in front of my daughter no matter how old she is...you should think long and hard before you treat someone as a guilty party without knowing the whole story, it's high time you did. And if you still want to act this way with the truth under your belt, that's YOUR dysfunction, Hzo.".

But, I didn't say it that way. No, I just stated the facts, was completely professional and honest with her.

And I never called her a ho.

But, now I am feel ing antsy, it's all on the thread, and would LOVE TONS of input and encouragement, I hate feeling this way, and I shouldn't have to!

September 17, 2005
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EF-

You sure got that right. We are the cool, no billsh*t girls, and you are one of us! We love you. Hey, as my big brother (we always was way cool) says, "you are never too old to be immature!" So, too bad we can't all live in the same town and have our little sorority and all support each other. But, thank goodness we found each other here! I am going to go look at your other thread and respond. Trying to finish my promotion so I can go see my sick mom, but taking breaks here. By the way, didn't even tell my guy about my mom yet. I think I am dumping him. I am sick of him....well, as of today, that is...you know the drill. Talk to me tomorrow, and I my mind could change. Okay, I will respond to your other post, you cool chickie.

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