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Freedom..what does it look like to you?
July 9, 2007
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Just thinking....what does it mean to you to be free? What would have to happen, or are you free right now?

July 10, 2007
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i'm reminded of "me & bobby mcgee" sung by janis joplin:

"freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose"

that resonates with me because my husband left me to "fight for our country" and people thank him for "preserving their freedom" and I think well, I guess I'm free too, if that means I have nothing left to lose, cuz nothing is all he left me, just like Janis and Bobby mcgee.

Of course, I realize that I do still have a lot to lose, so I guess i'm not really free. As long as you care about anything to the point you are compelled to hang on to it, you are bound to it.

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July 10, 2007
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My freedom is knowing I have the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside of myself will affect me.

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~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

July 10, 2007
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For me, it would be to fully realize that who I am is so much more important than what I do.

July 10, 2007
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Bonni what have you done with this loss of yours? Do you talk to a therapist? It shows in all your posts that you have a deep pain over him and that he abandoned you. Do you watch that show Army Wives? I know it is just a show and not real life but somehow I am connected to it as if it is real. You do not appear to have enthusiam as they do when the husband comes home from duty. You seem to me on extreme side of resentful. Why do you stay in a relationship where you lose your freedom to be with someone with this resentfulness and not a heart full of love in your heart because you just missed him? I am just wondering about this. How do you know what you will lose if you have never actually been away from it? You don't seem happy at al; im just seeing a guilty woman. Your posts are sensed as anger towards your husband. I guess it takes time to recover from this but how long has it actually been? What does your husband think of when you feel this sad about it his leaving? does he brush you off or does he do something about it? I am wondering. I consider the United State as a place of freedom. As a woman I am free and as a single mother, I am free. I am responsible for my own happiness, therefore I am free. It is up to me to pick myself up when the road is rough. I was in a relationship, married, and I truly believe had I stayed in it, it would have been out of guilt. Guilt does nothing. I support those that fight for the country but I am not about to resent someone because they went over there to fight. You should feel lucky to even have a guy that comes back to you, and you have this time to work on it. Many out there do not have that option, they get a folded up flag and Im sorry and left devastated. You have a chance to rebuild it yet I haven't sensed much improvement for you. If you are not happy then get out of it Otherwise you are indeed settling as that is what I sense half the time, that well you have to do it becuase you have to. You are not happy. I hope someday you can not sit and stew about it and one day actually be happy with whatever you decide. And I mean this in loving way, cuz I read your post and to say nothing just might be enabling I think. LIfe is short, but depression can last a lifetime, therefore freedom is also to me is not spending your life in a sea of depression. Sometimes a pill is not the answer but to take responsibility and do something about it, yourself. Focus on positive, not on the negative. Live your life afterall.

July 13, 2007
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what is freedom to me......when i have the strength to care enough about me to earn the freedom from my sons problems that i so deserve.

July 13, 2007
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Just accepting things as they are no matter how good or bad, not being attached to results, being in the moment and feeling full of life. Mostly... just being happy to be alive. That is true freedom to me.

July 13, 2007
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I've freedom is the right to choose your own prision. I am grateful I was able to choose my career and other things. Yeah I'm stuck dealing with angry parents unfair principals adn wild children and a salary that doesn't reflect the amount of my education but I had the freedom to choose those things in my job.

I had the freedom to choose to go or stay in my marriage. I am glad that I have the mental strength, the financial stability to be able to take the stand I have to take with my husband. I know I can go or stay. he knows it too and has made some significant changes.
Freedom then is the chance to make your own life choices, to goof up to excell, to try again.

July 15, 2007
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Freedom to me is Autonomy. Being independent. Working alone. Being beholden to no one.

July 15, 2007
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freedom is not giving in to the little parts of yourself.

July 15, 2007
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To me Freedom is....to be free from the way the world sees me and be pleased with just the way I am.

It is making right choices regardless of what others think. It is taking risks even if others don't do them, reaching out to others even if I fail. Disappointment is part of our life and we should get over it, brush ourselves off and start over. There will always be someone out there who will appreciate us.

July 15, 2007
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Freedom to me is having the internal strength to move forward, without letting fear paralyse me. Freedom is realizing im an adult and my parents are know longer financially responsible for me. I am responsible for my future and the direction i go in. Life is good, but testing. xxxx

July 15, 2007
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Freedom to me would be the ability to be able to rely on myself to feel wanted no matter what and to realize that I can feel loved no matter what and overcoming all my insecurities.

July 15, 2007
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Freedom is knowing. Letting go of the past false beliefs and knowing that this world is filled with wonder, love, kindness, and compassion. We are all connected and each choice made affects each one of us. Freedom is loving ourselves by giving freely to others. Freedom is Love.

July 15, 2007
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Freedom is both experiencing and practicing love, acceptance and forgiveness with accountablity.

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