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Forced Not To Follow My Dreams
October 25, 1999
11:14 pm
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GiGi
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As you all know that we can follow our dreams. Well, as for my case, I almost did. During college, I've participated in theater, dancing, screenplay writing and pageants, in which I've succeeded it all. AFTER college, I went back home to lives with my mother. When I told my mother that I wanted to work for Disney as a dancer, she said NO! because of low pay and no future. She demanded that I shouldn't live too far away from her and that I should work in a office for good pay. I went ahead and followed her advice. That was 10 years ago. I still can't believe that I took her advice and STILL wished I could've do what I want, from being a Disney dancer to Dallas Cowboy cheerleader. Now it looks like I'm stuck being married with my husband and my mother lives down the street. I feel like I'm not allowed to do anything due to financial reason. I want to continue my dreams (even though I still write screenplays) but why am I feeling like I'm not allowed to "go ahead" and proceed my dreams? If I drives to Orlando (45 mins), my husband get mad at me because he has to look after our child alot. If I moved to Texas to work as Dallas Cowboy cheerleader, my mother and my husband will get upset because mom don't want me far away and husband dont want to leave his job. I guess I'm stuck. I'll be happy to hear your advices. Thanks.

October 26, 1999
12:07 am
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god gigi you are your own worst enemy. You can blame others for not following your dreams, YOU are fully responsible for your life and your dreams and desires are your open channel to happiness and spirit. PLEASE do what your heart is yearning for, if your mom and hubby really loved you unconditionally, they would of pushed you to pursue your dreams. PLease do not be full of regrets, we all come to this earth for a purpose and you are not on your path. As long as you feel the way you do now, you are setting yourself up for a life of sadness and possibly illness.
|Blessings gigi

October 26, 1999
7:27 am
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Hi GiGi,

Stop letting people step all over you, honey! YOU have to come first once in a while. Your mother may retaliate, but in the end if she loves you and you make it clear that you are doing this with or without her support, she will come around. My parents disagreed with my career choice (and still do, even now that I'm pursuing it in graduate school), but they have learned to shut up and stop criticizing it because when they do I leave the room, the house, even the state and refuse to hear it. Your husband should be supporting you, not making things harder. The only complication here is your child, but if you sit down and firmly talk to your husband, you should be able to agree to some way that he can share in his/her care so you can follow your dreams. Good luck.

October 26, 1999
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It's too bad that you didn't feel strong enough to be your own person, but now is time to make a stand and be yourself and follow your dreams.
You can't blame someone else because you listened to their advice, just like the old saying - "if someone told you to jump off the cliff....would you?"
It also sounds to me like you've married a person who resembles your mother's personality. Kind of scary, but many of us do marry someone who often resembles a personality of our parents.
Do you want to be miserable the rest of your life, because you didn't attempt to give your dreams a shot? Do you want your "denail" passed along to your child? I also don't understand why your husband is not willing to watch your child while you are away, it sounds a bit selfish to me.
Have you ever watched the movie Waterboy? I know it's meant to be a comedy, but you could really relate to the movie with the situation your in.

October 26, 1999
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GiGi,

I hear your situation....It's tough....a trap set by yourself....the pull is increadable....like a rip tide....pulled out of sea.....I am a singer / entert. here in L.A.
I have much success.... but felt I needed to say to you....in order to have your dreams....you must clear the air in your relationships....It's like grabing your head with your hands and forse yourself to look at the darkness / fears that face you.....DO IT!
NOW....OR NEVER!!!!!

Love, Curt : [email protected]

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