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For Those Dealing With Addicts/Alcoholics
August 24, 2007
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atalose
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Just wanted to share this:

If You Love Me, Let Me Fall........

If you love me let me fall all by myself. Don't try to spread a net out to catch me, don't throw a pillow under my ass to cushion the pain so I don't have to feel it, don't stand in the place I am going to land so that you can break the fall (allowing yourself to get hurt instead of me)

Let me fall as far down as my addiction is going to take me, let me walk the valley alone all by myself, let me reach the bottom of the pit...trust that there is a bottom there somewhere even if you can't see it. The sooner you stop rescuing me, trying to fix my broken-ness, trying to understand me to a fault, enabling me...The sooner you allow me to feel the loss and consequences, the burden of my addiction on my shoulders and not yours...the sooner I will arrive...and on time...just right where I need to be..me, alone, all by myself in the rubble of the lifestyle I lead...resist the urge to pull me out because that will only put me back at square one...

If I am allowed to stay at the bottom and live there for awhile, I am free to to get sick of it on my own, free to begin to want out, free to look for a way out, and free to plan how I will climb back up to the top. In the beginning as I start to climb out...I just might slide back down, but don't worry I might have to hit bottom a couple more times before I make it out safe and sound.

Don't you see?? Don't you know?? You can't do this for me...
I have to do it for myself, but if you are always breaking the fall how am I ever supposed to feel the pain that is part of the driving force to want to get well. It is my burden to carry, not yours

I know you love me and that you mean well and a lot of what you do is because you don't know what to do and you act fom your heart not from knowledge of what is best for me...but if you truly love me let me go my own way, make my own choices be they bad or good.

Don't clip my wings before I can learn to fly...Nudge me out of your safety net...trust the process and pray for me...that one day I will not only fly, but maybe even soar.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

August 24, 2007
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THIS IS SO TRUE AND ARE MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY ABOUT ADDICTS. I HAVE A NUMBER OF ADDICTS AND PEOPLE WHO ENABLE THEM AND THIS HAS MADE ME UPSET FOR YEARS. I AM MAKING SEVERAL COPIES OF THIS AND GIVING THIS TO MY FAMILY. THANK YOU SO MUCH

August 24, 2007
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Thanks for posting. Excellent informaiton.

August 24, 2007
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Atalose---

I really like what you posted..

Thanks

NEED

August 24, 2007
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Thanks, when written like that it hits home. How true !!
Thanks

August 24, 2007
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Wonderful posting.

Thanks, Atalose!

- Ma Strong

August 24, 2007
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oh thank you atalose...let me carry those words with me. i am an enabler...and it helped me see the way....thanks

August 24, 2007
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atalose
"goosebumps" yep, have them now....im the safety net.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\my son just went into rehab aug2nd. i pray for all of us.

August 25, 2007
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another wonderful and enlightening post from a wonderful person who keeps giving in spite of her own turmoil.
thanks (((atalose)))

August 25, 2007
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That says it all. I have been trying to save an addict and realized I have only enabled. Letting go is the hardest thing but I know it is the "only" way.

Thank you!!!!!!!!!!

August 26, 2007
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atalose

WOW! That was brilliant! You nailed it! I am batteling substance abuse myself. Have been for many many years. Have managed to spend many years clean. I am currently using again. Wondering what the bottom will be like this time?! Wondering if i am there? I am definately pretty suicidal alot of the time. Makes it hard to put the stuff away, but also it is clear that this consumption is greatly responsible for the dark mental state. Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Anyways, i am pulling for you. Will pray for you for sure, that your landing will be as enlightening as painful. And as long as you are still using, try not to feel guilty about it. If you are self medicating, then let it help you feel better....until it can't anymore...best wishes!

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