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Finally seeing the light
December 11, 2003
9:52 am
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newbeginning
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Hi everyone! This is my first time doing something like this, but I just realized something last night about myself and I just wanted to see how many other people are in this same situation. I am co-dependent. I feel I have to take care of everyone that is in contact with me. If they don't like me; I want to know why and make them like me. So I will do things for them, buy them things, or go out of my way to get them to see that I'm "not that bad". If I'm in a relationship and the other person has a problem; smoking, I want to help them find the way to stop. This is all something that I feel I knew was inside of me, but never really accepted that I could be like this. I thought I was doing the right thing. But when I feel that they don't appreciate what I've done for them, I blow up and get upset. It's an emotional cycle that I've put myself through. No one asked me to do this for them, but I feel that I should've gotten more out of it. Or that I wish someone would've been there for me.

I hope to hear from anyone that may know of some ways to stop this and get on the "right" track, or if they have experienced the same thing?

Best regards to everyone!

December 11, 2003
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Being codependent there is no easy
way to make it stop. Acceptance
is normally not our way.
Focusing on ourselves and what
we have to do is the way. But
actions speak louder thatn words.
If you are any of us knew this
we wouldn't be on this website.
Ever see the movie "What About
Bob"? You know baby steps.
Well that's the approach. Successes
begat successes.
Accept that neither you or anyone else
is perfect. Quit beating yourself
up because of it.
Recognition is the first ste.
Doing the work is the hardest
part. Good luck. We are here
for you.

December 11, 2003
10:44 am
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mj
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🙂 Amen HarryO

Welcome Newbeginnings ! Catchy name, think I have seen that somewhere before!

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