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FILED FOR DIVORCE BUT CAN'T LEAVE HIM ALONE ?
May 2, 2007
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OUR DIVORCE WILL BE OVER MAY 9TH. IT SEEMS THE CLOSER TO THE DATE, THE MORE MY CO-DEPENDENT WAYS COME BACK. I E-MAIL HIM, CALL HIM, WHICH ONLY END-UP HURTING ME MORE. CAN ANYONE HELP ME EXPLAIN THIS CAUSE I WAS DOING SO GOOD.

May 2, 2007
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Can I ask why you are divorcing in the first place? It is scary when "that date" is actually approaching. It seems to scream FINAL! I believe what you are expericing is normal but if you are sure of this divorce, it would be best to have no contact as hard as that will be. I proimise, by havhing no contact it does get easier and your head will begin to clear as to why you are divorcing in the first place. Most people don't dive right into a divorce so there must have been some pretty good reason.

May 2, 2007
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You made a decision now stick to it. Follow through with it. Do the words chaos and confusiont come to mind whenever you think about your life with this guy? Filing for divorce gave this guy the message that you made a decision to end the relationship calling him and emailing him gives him the message that you still want a relatinship with him which is nothing more than an extension of chaos and confusion. Or could it be that you can not give up control? Filing for divorce was a way to control the marriage by deciding to end it let the guy know that you didnt want him anymore, calling and emailing him tells him that you do. No one really wants to be involved with someone who wants them one minute then does not want them the next. Since you decided to file for divorce this guy has unfinished business with you. In his mind (for power and control reasons) he would like nothing more then to set the clock back and be the one to make the decision to get rid of you and put you in his position. I guarantee if you let this guy into your life he will come back into it long enough to abandon you. Just continue severing all ties and realize that your need to be in contact with him is as destructive as an drug addicts NEED to do drugs.

May 2, 2007
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YES I AM SURE OF THE DIVORCE. HE IS A SOCIOPATH. I JUST HAD SOME UNFINISHED BUSINESS WITH THIS GUY SINCE HE WAS CAUGHT WITH ANOTHER MANS WIFE( WHOM IS ALSO THE MOTHER OF HIS TWO KIDS!)
I HAD TO GET OUT SOME ANGER AND TELL HIM WHAT I THINK, HE IS DANGEROUS AS ALL SOCIOPATHS ARE AND CAN'T BELEIVE A WORD OUT OF HIS MOUTH. I JUST WAS CALLING AND E-MAILING TO LET OFF SOME STEAM. HE HAS ROBBED ME FINANCIALLY, EMOTIONALLY AND ALMOST SPIRITUALLY. I JUST WAS TRYING TO GET HIM TO FESS UP WHICH I KNOW HE WILL NEVER DO. HE KNOWS ITS OVER BY THE WAY. I JUST NEEDED TO VENT.

May 4, 2007
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No matter what you say no matter what you do this guy wont get it. By having any contact with him whatsoever you validate him as a human being and give him the message that you still want a relationship with him which will encourage him to contiune doing all those awful things. Like I said before you are as addicted to responding to him and trying to straighten him out as a drug addict is to taking drugs. Would you advise a drug addict to keep smoking crack? Of course not because it is destructive. Every second you spend on dealing with this monster you take away from moving on. Remember success is the best revenge and using your feet to do the talking and walking away and not talking to him and ignoring him is by far from this monsters perspective the worst thing you can do.

May 4, 2007
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You might find Sandra Robinson's website helpful. She has co-authored a book on leaving a sociopath. It is certainly not the same experience, as leaving a "normal" man. You can get info on the book from her website. I can't remember the link, but try googling her book: HOW TO SPOT A DANGEROUS MAN. That should link you into her new, support website.

- Ma Strong

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