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fight between my heart and my head...
December 9, 2000
3:25 pm

so I just graduated from college today...
This means that I have a million decisions in life surrounding me and I wish that someone would just tell me which way to go...

Im leaving to go back home which is about 8 hours from here. Here is where I've made friends and have a boyfriend who has been my best friend for the past three years. I used to think that I should settle myself in life first before I got married. Now Im starting to think, what is so bad about choosing to be around the ones that you love? On one hand, I still have far to go before I am the person that I want to be (I want to work for awhile and have a career and possibly further my education). On the other hand, I love my boyfriend, he will be here for another semester before he graduates. I guess it would be good to go home until he graduates to decide how it will be(we also know what it is like to be away from each other).

I guess what I am asking is, for those who have lived and experienced this before...Is it better to make choices for love or to stand your ground and do what you would have done if that particular loved one was not even around and hope things work out in the long run?

December 9, 2000
5:02 pm
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the best answer to your questions is your very own answer alone.. because only you can understand yourself more than anyone else.. you have to come into the question of what is more important to you? and what do you need most at this point in your life? and what makes you most happy?

December 9, 2000
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Do what it best for the both of you...if you're relationship is "worth" it, things will fall into place. I've been with my husband 20 years...we started out when we were teenagers, and yes I'm having issues in my marriage now, but I don't regret getting together, working through the problems, etc. But pursue your dreams too. Don't get caught up in his career and goals...support him, but also, make sure he supports you. If you decide to stay with him at school, that's fine. But don't just wait around, and begin your life while your waiting for him to catch up. If you decide to go home and begin what you want to begin, that's fine too. If your relatonship is real, you'll be back together in no time...as far as things "working out in the future" you never know that. I know people who seem perfect for each other and it doesn't work out, and I know people who are like oil and vinegar and they're totally happy with each other...so who knows.

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