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feeling really lost
April 9, 2007
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haze
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I am a lesbian who just was rejected again, and i feel really alone. This one lasted four months and i feel used. The signs were there but i refused to see them untill it was too late. I think she was seeing other people and, now i am hurt can't deal with it again. Not sleeping stomach upset, and i still want her to call, thats sick. Any advice

April 9, 2007
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hi haze,
Making mistakes and learning from them is what makes us grow and become great. You tried out a new relationship and it didn't work out. I am not sure of all the details which lead to the breakup and how broke it off, but it is normal to want your ex to call. Keep posting and reaching out.
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April 9, 2007
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Welcome Haze-
I know heartbreak hurts and there is no way to take away anothers feelings of pain. It just takes time. But my advice to you would be-- to look towards yourself as to the reasons you saw the signs but chose to ignore them? And the fact that you are here at the codependent site means you at least know something about yourself.

You said you were rejected ...again..
Rejection is such an ugly negative word isn't it? You weren't rejected -- she just wanted you AND to see other people. It's about her selfishness...not some flaw on your part. "She's just not that into you "--doesn't mean you are unloveable. The only thing wrong about you is you seem to keep ending up in going- no-where relationships--so that means you have to look inside to yourself to try to grow so that you will start choosing more wisely. Read some of the other threads here on heartbreak and cheaters and such and you will start to gain some real insight to help you to a better happier time.
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April 9, 2007
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haze,

Isn't this longing feeling the worst? I am sorry that you are hurting and in this process. I know that I and others here have felt it.

At times like these I always try and remind myself that this will pass. I think of other times in my life when I was hurting and thought I would not be able to make it and I did. I look back and wonder why I was so dramatic about it and why it hurt so.

Hang in there.

Cary

April 9, 2007
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Hi Haze,

I am sorry that you are going through this. Oh, and by the way, you certainly are not sick just because you would like your ex to call. Please read some of the threads that are here. There are so many individuals who are going through similar experiences. As a matter of fact, I am relatively new here and I posted a thread called "Broken Hearted and I need help." I too, am suffering from a failed relationship and I am broken hearted. I, too, feel rejected. And I, too, would love to get a phone call from my ex. And believe me when I tell you, that the two of us are not alone. It is so common to want to hear from a person who you loved. We are both clinging to the fantasy of a possible future with our respective partners. For me, I am further along in my road to recover. I know the relationship is over. My brain knows it is over, but my heart is saying something else. It is so painful. I so understand.

The important thing is to keep busy, focus on yourself and know that you are not alone. Keep posting here and I guarantee that you will feel better. Just expressing yourself is such a help and the advice that you get will overwhelm you.

I look forward to hearing more about you. You sound like a loving, caring individual.

Sad Sack

April 9, 2007
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Thank You All!!

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