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Feeling Like I Have Just Been Snowed!
February 11, 2010
5:25 pm
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Hello, I am new here. I have been with someone for a few years. Right now I feel like I have just been snowed by this person. I have always suspected it, and now I have proof. I have gotten this person out of my life. Now I am trying to sort it all out. Thank you for lending an ear.

February 11, 2010
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hi,
welcome 'snowman' (like the name)
anyway, sorry u feel this way,
tell us more about ur situation and circumstances and we can give more advice,,,, (albeit non-professional)

I have gotten alot of good advice (and even made some friends) on here..

((hugs))

February 11, 2010
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Hi Snowman. I am hoping we get some snow tomorrow! it doesn't snow much in the south! wahoo...

share what you would like and see if we can help you out some.

(((Snowman)))

February 11, 2010
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Yeah, well sooner or later that benefit of the doubt starts to finally wane and you start to figure it all out.

Good thing is that hopefully you did'nt waste a whole of time and energy coming to this final, ultimate conclusion..........and now you will be finally able to discern and distinguish and decipher the real losers from the winners......

Par for the course....and as Barney Fife used to say in that old Andy Griffin show from "Mayberry" in the 1960's (for those of us old enough to remember....)

Nip it. Nip it. Nip it. (in the bud.........)

Nip it alright was right on course!

February 12, 2010
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Hello people,
It has been a few week maybe like a month sense I have joined in. I have been seeing a theripist and shring. Both have been helpfull after this last bout.
Snowman I really feel your pain. This business of people just tearing a persons heart out and walk away like it is "just another day"is just plain insanity. Once out of the mud you slowly start to see things that you did not pick up on or refused to listen to. I keep getting these flash backs of ansewers or questions that she would say. I thought were either odd, our just plain silly. Naa I really need my brain worked on. This is what Im doing now. This is about my fifth long term( over a year ) releationship that has had meaning in my life. But all these ladys seem to have been in some sort of recovery. The why and how is what i'm working on. I do not understand and maybe never well. How a woman can be devoted ( figure of speech) to a guy, to talk plans,getting like a friend of lover would be as you think is normal. But with me they always have another waiting in the wing. I mean towards the end they are doing both of us before it is over. This has happened to me three times. This last time like threw me into like a PTS frenzzy. Now back increased meds and Dr's talking to me. I really felt less than this last time. I was going through a busniess shut down at the same time. But my god I never felt so hollow in my life. After 22 years of recovery myself i had enough friends and thought left to get to the Dr. I Truly, truly, believe I'm better off lonely and empty. Than to ever have a meaningful,loving,releationship. This last one sence Dec.09 has called me once drunk, and twice wanting something.I have not returned any call. But when I hear her voice the whole thing starts over again. You think they are going to come back and it well be different, But it never changes. The only thing you can change is yourself.Now I really try and stay away from those gut wenching thoughts that make me want to scream and I turn it into a positive "something" in the course of my day. I have been around and threw enough stuff with some of the certain types of personalities that brings out my codepentant thoughts and behavior, enough so where as it put me in the hospital one time already. And from that I have fribo-myagie ( sorry is mis-spelled). I also belive if untreated or un-noticed for what it is. Can be fatel and kill you. I wish all the best and God bless. I believe this site kept me sane a couple of nites in the past. Thank you

February 12, 2010
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I believe that until we are in recovery for codependence and understand and accept our own ill thinking and behaviors, life that includes a loving, caring, trusting relationship will seem hopeless.

As Emptyness mentioned, the change has to be with us, we need to work a strong recovery program and dedicate ourselves to a healthier way of thinking. Once that thinking begins to change our lives begin to change. Those changes include keeping un-healthy people at arms length not entangling our lives to them.

Just as the sun will rise tomorrow, an alcoholic/drug addict will resurface again and again in lives until we learn what healthy is and begin to live it.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

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