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Feeling Hurt Easily
November 4, 1999
9:13 pm
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GiGi
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I need your advice on feelings. When I hear people making un-nice comments about me, I get easily hurt inside so badly. How can I prevent myself from getting too feeling-sensitive when hearing bad things about me? How do you handle that? What I've been doing lately is to ignore them. I don't say hello or talk to them anymore. It's my way of showing them that they should be ashame of themselves.

November 5, 1999
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Hi GiGi,

When people are mean to me, it really hurts my feelings too. I'm not sure what we can do about it but I think you should confront them. Ask them why they are saying those things. If nothing else, it should embarass them enough to make them stop. You can't change your feelings. Sometimes it would be nice to be able to put a buffer on them, but we can't. Be happy that you can really feel. They should be ashamed of themselves. I hope some of this helps. I wish I could do more.

Snow

November 5, 1999
11:05 am
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I used to be pretty sensitive. really sensitive, actually. Now I just avoid people I know are hurtful, or I just withdraw from them. Like the other day, speaking to a group of guy friends about gun control, they called me Dad crazy for owning guns. It pissed me off, so I just shut up. When they talked to me, I put a big smile on my face and said nothing. They got the picture, and I didn't have to be a bitch about anything.

Afterwards, I just let the hurt go. I realize tat I don't want anyone else to have control over my feelings.

November 5, 1999
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Hi Gigi, glad to see your still around. Anyways, I happen to be an overly-emotional person. I think my hormones are constantly in overdrive. I cry over the slightest things. At work we get 'mystery-shopped' to rate our friendliness. One time the mystery shopper said I ignored a customer while talking to a co-worker. She gave me an unfriendly. This goes on my work record. I work so hard and try so hard to give 110% every day. I was so upset about getting this rating that I cried for most of the day. I had troubles working the rest of my shift. People couldn't understand why I was taking it so hard. It wasn't just because I didn't do well at something...it was because I took it sooooo personally. Last week, I found out that some of the girls were talking bad about me and another worker, because she and I are such close friends besides being co-workers. The girls talking bad got in trouble for shopping while on the clock, so they decided to talk bad about my friend and me to try and divert their mistakes. I knew how they felt about me when I came in the next day and greeted them with a smile. I asked how they were doing and what their kids were going to be for halloween, etc. I was being friendly to them. I know I made them think twice about what they were saying about me. I'm not friends with them, but I made them realize that I'm not so bad to be around. In a way I feel like I came out above them. I showed them that they can't touch me...no matter what they do or say. I have control. At home, I have a lot more trouble. If my boyfriend says something that hurts me, I about lose control. I can't handle the idea of him thinking anything bad about me, but that is a whole other story.

~JC

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