Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
fed up step mommy
May 16, 2006
2:24 pm
Avatar
mamac
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I have been with the same man for 5 years now. His children live with us because there mom is in jail. My husbands daughter is 13 years old, she is very mean and hateful to me when her dad is not around. If I ground her or tell her to stop she goes to her dad and tells him I am just mean and rude to her. He always beleives everything she says, but he has caught her being mean to not only me but her siblings to. He just lets it all go because she is his baby. Everyday she litteraly pushes me around, if I am in her way she just pushes me. She says all the time she is a witch witha B and she is proud of it. She is a classic victem, she is only a child but Her father is sending the message to her that she can treat anyone as badly as she wants and there will be no consequences. She was arrested for shop lifting and he did not punish her at all. It was not the first time she had done it, I overheard her talking to her brother and she had done it multiple times. He was mad cause she didnt get introuble, she stated that all she has to do is cry and dad wont do anything. How do I deal with this? She is so minipulative I dont know how. I have been thinking about leaving my husband just because he allows her to treat everyone so badly. Any advice?

May 16, 2006
5:01 pm
Avatar
smarterone
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

MamaC
I am shocked that this is just coming up. I know you are aware of the husband I have inprison. Well he has 3 kids. The oldest daughter, was the one that lived on and off with us more frequently but i went thru hell. Now we are good friends, but we have stopped talking this year because of the situation I guess. Anyway, I am not the greatest to be strong but I have had the same situations and it doesnt get easier. Once the girl sees her father is giving her the benefit of the doubt over you, its all over, they dont stop. There was a few times where I would get myhusband to beleieve the trouble she was causing, but then he would go to the extreme opposite and beat the crap out of her. She had a mouth on her, Im not innocent but her words could cut right thru you and I know why. Here I was trying to give her a good life, doing things I wasnt expected to do, and I could imagine you being the same way, you are a good hearted person, and she would go off in a second. One minute she was sweet then, boom, a witch. The fights we had over her were horrible. I dont know if you have your own children but my son was there and she would always say: "dad, she does everything for her son,not for us" so now you find yourself trying to prove wrong and over doing things, my son getting upset, only to be forgotten the next time. Boy, I am so glad i am fiinished with that. I always tell everyone. Dont marry someone with kids. Better yet, its real hard to have someone, when they are not the father of your child. Trust me, a remark is said nomatter how good the person is. Good Luck, I really know you dont deserve it. Im here for you.

May 16, 2006
8:09 pm
Avatar
mamac
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

thankyou for your kind words, it made me feel better to know I am not the only one going through this. although I think you might have me mistaken for somone else. today was my first time on this sight. Any future comments you have are very welcome, at times I feel like I stand alone in this subject.

May 16, 2006
10:10 pm
Avatar
mamacinnamon
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 0
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Hi mamac..... I'm mamaC.. short for mamacinnamon. I'm sure Smarter thought you were me. I started reading and was shocked myself. Anyway..... I'm sorry for your pain. I'll comment after rereading. Glad to have you here by the way. 🙂

May 16, 2006
10:15 pm
Avatar
Beentheredonethat46
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

mamac,

((mamac))
I fully understand how you feel, I wish I could give you words of encouragement or help. My similar story did not have a happy ending. Is there any chance of family counseling?

Please remember you are not to blame for her behavior nor can you control what she says or does, only your reaction to it.

Strength, joy and love to all,
Kim

May 16, 2006
11:33 pm
Avatar
mamacinnamon
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 0
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

mamac:

Buy a voice activated tape recorder at walmart or target. You can pick one up for $30. Put it in your pocket or where she cannot see it and let her rant and rave all he wants. Do this for about a week and be sure to announce what day it is.

Example.... This is "mamac" and it is now 11pm. and then maybe give the time a few times a day. It will tape what she says to you and what is goin on around.

After a week or if the tape fills sooner.... Give it to him. He'll hear what she does, what she says. IF then he does nothing then he's not a husband to you.

🙂

May 17, 2006
9:40 am
Avatar
mamac
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I fullly agree with you "beenthere" my reaction to her is a big thing. I try to not act to mad when she does these things, at least not in front of her. My husband thinks I am the problem here, even though the other kids do not treat me like this. I have three of my own by the way. My teenage daughter and I get along and so does me and my husbands other child. The other kids try to tell my husband how she is to them and he ignores them also. The frustrating thing is he has witnessed her beibg this way, when he sees it he gets mad. But after he seems to forget everything and blames eveyone else. "mamacinn" the tape recorder is good idea, I have tryed it before, my husband refused to even listen to it. This is why I am to the point of giving up. I love him very much, and up until a couple of years ago we were best freinds. One day his whole attitude just changed, I guess he feels he owns me in a way. He hates that even got online, although I have never given him reason to doubt me his mistrusts me. I am just so scared to leave him. I did before and I sank into a deep depression. I don't want to go back to that.

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 349
Currently Online:
26
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 111061
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38620
Posts: 714410
Newest Members:
edenjames666, Sebastian Payne, Tia Phillips, NancySparks, Seapristes, modelmyparty
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2020 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved.
Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer | Do Not Sell My Personal Information