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Family Troubles
August 1, 2001
11:49 am
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Russell
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Hi, I am married for the second time almost 8 yrs now. The problem is this. My wife is pretty to the point and says what she thinks good or bad. My family does not like this and says she is breaking up the family because she can't keep her mouth shut. Some of the things she says may be true and some may be hear-say. My mother,sister, and brother hate her behind her back. When she is around I guess they tolerate her.She knows they do not like her, I tell her she is imagining things, trying to keep peace, my mother is now becoming friends with my ex-wife (which she also hated before) which is none of the ex business. Also my mother is wanting to change her will because none of my siblings want my wife to be able to get her hands on anything.My wife and I have a will and all my family items go to my chldren and hers go to her nephew. My children get along ok they do get upset at times and think she is mean, its mainly just her voice and bluntness. My sister and mom keep everything stired up and keep my kids stired up. Any ideas questions please ask I need some help. My wife has no idea this is all going on behind her back, if I tell her it just makes her really mad that they are such busy bodies and have to have there say in what we do etc.

August 1, 2001
12:31 pm
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What ever you do don't tell your wife. You don't even want to go there.Your wife is your life partner, and hopefully your best friend. You sir, need to put foot down with your family. If they are disrespecting her, they are disrespecting you. If they continue to sabbotage the relationship, with manipulating the children, I would threaten to quit visits. Women make this trouble, and they can make more trouble than you imagined, so unless you want to divorce again, or live in hell, I suggest you put an end to this nonsense. I would imagine the ex has an agenda in your misery as well, amazing how now they have started a relation, take controll, and have some peace and quiet. My husband never did, and trust me besides his youngest son being in therapy, due to all the games he was made to be a part of due to his mothers actions, and manipulations, more than the wife can get hurt, and we have two seperate families, it is truly hell. It creates such confusion for the man, no matter what you will do, you can' t please all of the people all of the time, and your wife is number one. Unless of course the family sees what you don't !!! Now see the confusion? You made the choice 9 years ago, stick with it, is my suggestion, and support her.

August 1, 2001
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Thanks, I don't know if they see something I don't or not. I am almost always with her, and I don't see it, but love is blind. Right now I am staying clear of situation by not being around any of them. My mother wants to talk to me alone without my wife so she can tell me all the bad things. They think her friends are trash because one of them said the F word. Thats crazy to me. There is one set of friends that probably fall in that class but she has said that herself and they are not are best friends. We usually just see them at the lake. Sometimes I feel as if they are jealous ???? My sister has said she isn't going to talk to anyone anymore. I feel like moving across country.

August 1, 2001
6:54 pm
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That could be the best solution, moving across country that is. its a good reminder of the evils of gossip. I can understand your mothers judgement of the f word, that was simply unheard of behavior for a lady, as well as any lady would never tolorate that type of language around her, but hello, we are in a different world today.
having that private conversation could prove to be a good time to say the way it is, mom, please support me and my new family, yada yada yada
The bottom line is that maybe everyone was fooled by wife number one, and you got hurt, and they don't want to see you go through it again, so now everyone has their radar on, looking for the burps at the table, and the runs in her stockings, and hevan for bid she wears white shoes after labor day. Women can be something else, oh, and she spends all your money on her hair and nails. Maybe its a good thing that sis will keep quiet, all that you ask is that if they don't have anything nice to say, then, don't say anything at all. You are between a rock and a hard spot, good luck. Just don't forget who makes your bed.

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