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extra weight = protection from the world
April 15, 2007
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Since I was in the fifth grade I have been overweight. Except for about a year in my mid 20s. At that time, I was working out almost daily. I had energy and felt pretty good, really for the first time ever.

I am right now the same weight I was when I got pregnant about 11 years ago. I gained 50 lbs. After baby, I was 170. After 2 years, I finally lost 25-30 lbs and got pregnant again. I only gained 25 lbs and dropped it after baby. In six years, I put on 5. Since December I've lost 5 lbs and kept it off. I am at 145.

I know that I need to exercise and eat right to be at a healthier weight. In eleven months I'll be 40. Each year that I don't address this, it will be more difficult.

Is it possible that inside I am rebelling against this? As long as I'm fat I can attribute my problems to the weight. If I lose weight, then I'll have to admit that I am the problem. There's something wrong with me.

I don't know. Does anyone else feel like this? I don't think it matters if its 15 or 50lbs, its still hard.

bonni

April 15, 2007
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Bonni, first off if you weigh 145 pounds, that to me is not overweight.

You have lost weight in the past, and if you do want to lose 5 or so pounds, just cut back on eating and exercising more.

I should talk, I am alot over 145 pounds, and I do exercise, but my problem is i eat too much, thinking that i can get away with it cuz i exercise, not true, to lose i need to exercise and cut back on eating, heck, that is why i never "lose" weight, either stay the same or gain.

Luckily i like to exercise, but i feel like i have muscle, with a big
layer of fat over it!!!!

Society too, i think 65% of Americans are overweight, and America is one of the fattest countries around. Too much food on the plate and not enough exercising.

Its a hard thing to do, lose weight, I want to be an "after" picture and lose weight, now I feel liek the
b4 picture, with some rolls on my belly, etc. I critize myself all the time saying I am fat, and its so hard to lose weight. I think with society and women, it puts alot more pressure on us to lose and be thin, but so much harder doing it.

Your not alone Bonni, i think at any size we need to love ourselves the way we are, and take steps to improve our overall negative thinking and make positive changes for our bodies and mind.

April 15, 2007
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Bonni~

Most of us battle with those extra weight or over-weight esp as we get older. What I'm going to do is buy weight scales in this way I can monitor how much I put on or hopefully lost weight.

As a general rule...as you get older losing weight is not as easy as it used to be when you were younger. Now that your metabolism is slower and your hormones are acting up and you're porbably approaching menopause which makes it worse.

Another thing worthy of note is...find out what food or items make you more fat or compulsive to binging or snacking between meals. Write down in your journals these food items and try to eliminate them or at least not consume them on regular basis.

May be since we're a lot of us folks here battling with overweight issue...we can start a thread about losing those extra pounds and monitoring our progress by asking others to hold us accountable to whether we ate and excercised in the right way. What do you think? I think we all need such thread. I want to lose some weight too. So does that sound like a good idea?

I agree with Camer, our north American culture is full of exaggeration and it's the least healthy food in the whole world. I've been to Europe and they are very different from us. They eat less protion and the food is even more healthy.

April 15, 2007
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Thanks Camer & Ras,

I know 145 doesn't sound like alot, but I'm barely 5'1".

I think a support thread is a great idea. If its not started, I'll start one. Today, I ate like 4 servings of potato chips. I haven't eaten chips like that in a very long time. for some time, I've been pretty disciplined. Its the week before my period though, so that's probably it.

I made a big cabbage soup for dinner (because I like it, not to lose weight).

ok.... Thank you for responding!

bonni

April 17, 2007
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yes, I used my weight as protection from the world.

if I am fat, nobody will get close to me and nobody can then hurt me.

but that theory is shot to hell...cuz some people will see that you think so low of yourself and take advantage of it...and because your esteem is shot, you don't see it coming and assume they love you for who you are, fat and all.

when I got to college, I had just lost alot of weight prior to high school graduation.

then I had alot of male attention that I had never had before.

I gave up caring about my body and figured if they loved me, they would love me no matter what my weight.

but then I started getting taken advantage of...and realized that some guys will take anything they can get, big or small...and it really isn't any protection from anything.

I find that my weight is a reflection of how I feel about myself...if I am confident and want to care about me, I eat better...if I am depressed, I give up and eat crap...then I gain weight, feel lethargic and feel worse about myself.

in the end, weight doesn't protect you from anythign and ends up hurting more than anything.

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