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Ex diagnosed w/ bipolar. Proposed, I (22) said no.
February 18, 2006
8:31 pm
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Hi all, for those who know my story, and those who don't I am hoping you can help. I started dating a new guy and the ex came to me one day and told me he went to his Dr. and was diagnosed with bi-polar. Now, he is doing all he can to make me realize he didn't mean to do all the things he did, he was sick. He now is seeing a therapist and getting put on meds. He is trying so hard to make me realize he wants to be with me and be happy together. He does all he can to make sure I am happy (including telling me to be without him if thats what I wish for). On Valentines day he proposed asking me to accept the ring for a possibility of a futurte. I didn't need to answer him but he wanted to let me know how serious he was about me and a future togethrer. I said it was too soon he needed to help himself first and then down the road maybe we can talk. Now, I have to let the new guy go who I wasn't crazy about but at least I trust him. I feel confused that the ex came back into my life, but maybe he is being honest and really wants to make it work by getting the help he needed all along. Does anyone have any expeirience with bipolar? Does anyone have any advise for me? I did the right thing, right???

February 19, 2006
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I don't have any real advice. I think you are right to question and not jump into anything. Afterall he is an ex for a reason and you have to think very seriously about what you really want with him. Is he wanting you because you are now unavailable to him? Is he realizing that the grass is not always greener on the other side? He sounds like he wants to move things on a little too fast. He needs to work on himself a whole lot more and you also need to time to figure out is this what you really want? Without trust, a relationship is doomed and unsuccessful, in my opinion anyway. It is very hard to gain back. You may find after discovering yourself that you don't really want to be in a relationship with him or you may find that he really has indeed changed. So my advice is to not get suck in too fast. Take your time and think hard.

February 21, 2006
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My bf is dual-diagnosed with bipolar/manic depressive. When he got on medication to treat it (Depakote) it took about a month and he was a whole new person. He became attentive, much more affectionate, very caring, and he also started working out. I fell in love all over again. It's so hard to explain how much he changed. Every time I saw him or thought about him I got butterflys in my stomach. Please give this man a decent chance to show you who he really is. I assure you that if you loved or cared about him at all to begin with, after a month of medication you may just be head over heals in love. (That's only if you're attracted to him, respect him, and feel all of the other emotions associated with a good relationship.) As for becoming engaged, wait at least a month to consider if marriage will ever be a possibility. If you spend a lot of time with this man, you'll notice he may be easily aggitated, crabby, and pretty tired as his body adjusts to the medication. I'm 21 and we're pretty close in age so I hope you will at least consider my advice and who knows, with time and patience this could turn out to be the relationship you've always dreamed of. Meg

February 21, 2006
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Sorry it took a few days for me to come across this thread. I've only been coming here for a week and it's kinda overwhelming how many people post things. I really hope you'll continue to come back. It would be really cool to have someone so close to my age to be able to talk with about our bf and life in general. Good Luck with everything!! 🙂 Meg

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