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Ever read Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry & Controlling Men??
November 13, 2006
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by Lundy Bancroft...

Back of the book says:

He says he loves you. So..why does he do that?

You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-- and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:
--the early warning signs

--ten abusive personality types

--the role of drugs and alcohol

--what you can fix, and what you can't

--how to get out of a relationship safely

November 13, 2006
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Wow that sounds like VERY intriguing book. Thanks (((Need))) for the referance!!! My ebf had surely an anger problem and he told me that himself. Bless his heart for his honesty.

November 13, 2006
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I will post more ras on your thread...

November 13, 2006
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I will read them tom, since I have to turn in very soon.

Thanks hon for the literature.

See you tom!!!

November 13, 2006
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i read it . excellent book. all women should have a copy..

November 14, 2006
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this book is awesome.

It's helped me to let go.

Just- let go, let him be, and worry about me.

Hey- I made a rhyme! yay!~

oh, my gosh and I found the "tilde", that squirrly line, like this: ~ when i went to hit the exclamation mark and my finger hit them both. I have looked for this all night on my keyboard, investigating fonts, etc., and there it was!

had to be the book- it never ceases to amaze me- it's a magnificent piece of work- a real insight- a survivor's manual. This book speaks of my life, all my coveted secrets within it, open for all to see. Such a burden lifted.

free

November 14, 2006
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ok free you have convinced me it is a book that I should get and read. Anybody that found the ~ just like I did must have some wisdom : )

Ya know, I had that book in my hands when I was at the bookstore about a week ago but told myself... "I don't know any angry & controlling men...and have never dated one either..." geeesh.

Are there any good books out there about getting out of denial as well?!

November 14, 2006
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Excellent book!

November 14, 2006
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Picked it up at the library and then bought a copy to keep. I realised to my dismay that pretty much all of my long term/serious relationships had started with a rundown of the "red flag" list...

A fantastic book - it really nails how insidious and subtle emotional abuse can be.

November 14, 2006
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And also how much commitment, effort, time and sheer hard work it takes for angry/controlling people to change. Even if they really want to.

November 14, 2006
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Hey this sounds really intereting. Would someone that has the book be willing to write some of the red flags for me?

November 14, 2006
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2alone... I posted an excerpt from the book on the thread Hi ras....... last night.. I will have more time later to post more...

November 14, 2006
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thanks - wouldn't have thought to look in there 🙂

I'm pretty sure all my serious "loves" abused me emotionally and verbally....I seem to amuse them for some reason.

November 15, 2006
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ok I pick the book up last night and will be sure to give my review of it...will be reading it in the next few days...crossing my fingers that something clicks.

Thanks Need for starting the thread and to all who give the thumbs up and recommended it.

November 15, 2006
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It's one of the best books on the subject.

I am disappointed by Lundy's slant on gender and DV, though.

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