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February 16, 2003
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I am absatively amazed that I am still standing.

February 16, 2003
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My partner recieved a 6 month sentence at his bail hearing - they would not consider letting him out -and here I am back in the house with my kids - being told to "get angry", you can't possibly be considerring getting back with an abuser, ect. All I can say is F...I miss that man's arms - the gently ect. You guys know what I mean.
I am having to face my own demons now - I realize a few things that I wish I could do-over.

I am not saying violence can be forgiven - I am saying my habits and state of mind were not in the best shape either. I need a hug.

February 16, 2003
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BIG (((HUG))) Ember get counseling, please. I know the pull. Mine did not get anywhere near as bad as yours, and HE is in counseling for it, by his own CHOICE. Please do this for yourself. DOn;t visit him. Stay away, NO CONTACT whatsoever....Get your head on straight..file for divorce. And then open yourself to meeting smeone who truly loved you. You can do this, you will need to, to LIVE.

February 16, 2003
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Hello Ember! I've been so worried about you! Look, honey, I know what your going through and I know you love him. Loving him and even him loving you doesn't change the facts. He hurt you. He scared your children. He has very real problems. Write him a letter if you want and tell him either he gets some real help or the marriage is over and he can't come back until he gets help and there is time to PROVE he has really changed. But I agree with Jade, don't go see him or talk to him on the phone. Show him you mean business. I know your heart is breaking, but stand firm. You didn't create this situation, he did.

February 17, 2003
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hi ember,
its me boland thats for your post the other day. ive read throught your post, (((deep hugs))) my mum went throught this with step dad until she final got away after years will him. it was hard for my mum it was hard for me i was 12 at the time seeing my mum being hurt and not being able to do anythink but hide under my bed protecting my sister away from him, he wasnt getting my sister he already had my mum and me, i never did p.e at school till i was in year 10 because of him and the marks he lefted on me. i hated him, then one day he went to far he was baby siting me while mum was at school meeting with sisters teacher. i upset him did some thing to slow, and he beated me that bad i ended up with 2 broken ribs and the bruses on my body were black i was in hospital for 2weeks because of him. i couldnt hide it any more , my sister was lucky and thank god he never got to her, i would take the beatings for my sister when he was in one of his moods, my mum got help and im glad she did we haven't seen him since he got put down i never want to see him he isnt allowed to come near us ever. it doesnt matter if your kids are old or young they will know, i still can see it all and im 17 now it will never leave you and it is hard. , if you have him back what if he goes to far and he hurts you or one of your kids really bad, it will stay with you what happen, and i know as i get older and find my self in a relation ship one day, thats going to be there, you have a chance to get away so has your kids get the help you need ember, this is your chance, go for it let him go dont have him back it will happen again i cant remember how many times he told my mum things would change it wont happen again, but it did and it will, look after your self ember and your kids , boland how you doing to day,

February 18, 2003
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hi ember how you doing? thinking of you. hope your ok and feeling better. boland

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