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doubleloss.. i am here
October 26, 2006
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bump

October 27, 2006
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You should take time in letting a new partner in to your kids life. My wife started OK but soon started to stop me getting too involved not letting me do the school run driving 40 miles home to to it instead and for ever saying I'll do it in the end it was a disaster and is another reason why we are no longer together. Her daughter saw me as a threat and was more and more unhappy if I was around. I let her parent my three kids and they loved her. Of course you should take it slowly but if its got as far as sharing a bed then I think letting the kids know who it is in the bed should be OK

October 27, 2006
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thanks... I agree... but I chose not to let this man get too attached from the start because they have been through enough with my divorce from their father..... and i did not want this to be another loss for them....
and I am glad that this was the choice that I made because he was no good....

thanks and hang in there my friend

DAY 6----YEAH!!!!

October 27, 2006
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You were right to make the choice you did. Kids first I'm hanging on in here will give you a high five tomorrow for our first week

October 27, 2006
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thanks.. I will also high five you also for week 1...

I feel so much better simondo...

I just returned from a long walk with my puppy and my mom came along with us..

I finished all the laundry

and I feel so good that I am doing everything that I can to take the time to heal....

It is a struggle but I can already notice a difference in 6 days..

Like you said, maybe we won't even be counting the days anymore...

That is true, because that is what happened between me and my ex-husband..

I tried hanging onto him for quite a while,.. and finally I was strong enough to let go....

I will not get into another relationship for a very long time...

I need some time to heal....

October 27, 2006
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Me too I was married before (13 years) and had a four year relationship after that. My first wife is actually now a very good friend the four year relationship which I truly beat myselp up over to the point I thought I would never ever recover when it finished now means very little - I too must remember these things

October 28, 2006
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bump for clownface

October 28, 2006
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Hi Five needtoheal finding. NC really hard today for me i guess it can only get easier

October 28, 2006
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HIGH FIVE---my friend

IT HAS BEEN A WEEK FOR US

CELEBRATE

October 28, 2006
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Oh no I cracked. I got an email "will you talk with me" I REPLEYED what about she said "sorry I should of left you alone" again I replyed If it wasnt good yes you shoul I miss you. Why am I so weak I should of just deleted it

October 28, 2006
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it's okay simondo...

just like thursday when HE sent me

that text message

I am just hoping that by NOT

mentioning how I feel or what I was

doing would keep him away

and then I just replied with

saying something about him deleting

his nickname from the text messages

that he sends... maybe he will

think that all i continue to do

is to rag him and always feels that

he needs to be on the defensive

does not matter to me......

close the door again, that's all

there is always a lesson to be

learned by the choices that we

make....

i know that if he does try to contact

me i will reach out to a friend to

read the text message or to listen

to the voice message before I even

attempt to get lured into giving

a response...

October 28, 2006
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Thanks needtoheal I guess it was not going to be anything I wanted to hear. Why do they try and keep in touch its her head games I dont like

October 28, 2006
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for me, he wants to keep in touch because he thinks that he can still control and manipulate me...

and he wants to play head games with me

that was all that he has ever done

and he wants to satisfy his ego

in thinking that I must be so lost

and upset without him...

and/or he would like to continue the

game and belittle me, justify his actions

blame me for the failure of this

relationship, keep confusing me,

making himself feel good while

putting me down....etc....

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