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2:50 pm
September 24, 2010
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1:35 pm
September 30, 2010
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You should take time in letting a new partner in to your kids life. My wife started OK but soon started to stop me getting too involved not letting me do the school run driving 40 miles home to to it instead and for ever saying I'll do it in the end it was a disaster and is another reason why we are no longer together. Her daughter saw me as a threat and was more and more unhappy if I was around. I let her parent my three kids and they loved her. Of course you should take it slowly but if its got as far as sharing a bed then I think letting the kids know who it is in the bed should be OK
1:39 pm
September 24, 2010
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thanks... I agree... but I chose not to let this man get too attached from the start because they have been through enough with my divorce from their father..... and i did not want this to be another loss for them....
and I am glad that this was the choice that I made because he was no good....
thanks and hang in there my friend
DAY 6----YEAH!!!!
1:49 pm
September 30, 2010
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You were right to make the choice you did. Kids first I'm hanging on in here will give you a high five tomorrow for our first week
1:53 pm
September 24, 2010
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thanks.. I will also high five you also for week 1...
I feel so much better simondo...
I just returned from a long walk with my puppy and my mom came along with us..
I finished all the laundry
and I feel so good that I am doing everything that I can to take the time to heal....
It is a struggle but I can already notice a difference in 6 days..
Like you said, maybe we won't even be counting the days anymore...
That is true, because that is what happened between me and my ex-husband..
I tried hanging onto him for quite a while,.. and finally I was strong enough to let go....
I will not get into another relationship for a very long time...
I need some time to heal....
2:06 pm
September 30, 2010
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Me too I was married before (13 years) and had a four year relationship after that. My first wife is actually now a very good friend the four year relationship which I truly beat myselp up over to the point I thought I would never ever recover when it finished now means very little - I too must remember these things
1:32 am
September 24, 2010
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bump for clownface
7:53 am
September 30, 2010
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Hi Five needtoheal finding. NC really hard today for me i guess it can only get easier
9:36 am
September 24, 2010
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HIGH FIVE---my friend
IT HAS BEEN A WEEK FOR US
CELEBRATE
1:28 pm
September 30, 2010
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Oh no I cracked. I got an email "will you talk with me" I REPLEYED what about she said "sorry I should of left you alone" again I replyed If it wasnt good yes you shoul I miss you. Why am I so weak I should of just deleted it
1:40 pm
September 24, 2010
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it's okay simondo...
just like thursday when HE sent me
that text message
I am just hoping that by NOT
mentioning how I feel or what I was
doing would keep him away
and then I just replied with
saying something about him deleting
his nickname from the text messages
that he sends... maybe he will
think that all i continue to do
is to rag him and always feels that
he needs to be on the defensive
does not matter to me......
close the door again, that's all
there is always a lesson to be
learned by the choices that we
make....
i know that if he does try to contact
me i will reach out to a friend to
read the text message or to listen
to the voice message before I even
attempt to get lured into giving
a response...
1:48 pm
September 30, 2010
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Thanks needtoheal I guess it was not going to be anything I wanted to hear. Why do they try and keep in touch its her head games I dont like
3:37 pm
September 24, 2010
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for me, he wants to keep in touch because he thinks that he can still control and manipulate me...
and he wants to play head games with me
that was all that he has ever done
and he wants to satisfy his ego
in thinking that I must be so lost
and upset without him...
and/or he would like to continue the
game and belittle me, justify his actions
blame me for the failure of this
relationship, keep confusing me,
making himself feel good while
putting me down....etc....
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