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Don't know where to start...what to do
November 24, 2000
11:25 am
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lceraso
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I just found this site and so far am very happy with it. The problem is, I'm just generally not a happy person. I have really every reason to be happy, but continually magnify a potential problem by trying to nip it in the bud so to speak before it becomes a real problem.....make sense??? I am a very deep person and am constantly thinking, which has gotten me into more trouble in my life than anything. I just can't seem to stop my brain from working. Sometimes I wish I could just leave. The reason I am writing this thread is because I do realize that I need help, however I really don't know what help I need. Do I just go see a doctor and ask for medication to calm me, or do I need therapy??? I was in therapy once before in my life, and at the time, I guess it did help....it's just taking the first step that is the difficult part. I have very few friends and the ones I do have are more fair weather friends than real people that I can actually TALK to. My philosophy is why have friends if you can't really TALK to them. To me, I am better off alone which I guess is the reason I try to alienate myself from family and "friends". I believe I am also trying to alienate my husband from family and friends. I feel terrible for this and do NOT want my husband to be miserable because of MY problem, yet I am doing just that. I pick on people and am an extremely critical person (as if I'm so perfect) this extends to my in-laws as well, as we all know, this is not a good thing. I need a friend....and my heart cries out for a friend here to help me. I have a good heart believe me. I just need to be pointed in the right direction.

November 25, 2000
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Its possible that you do need to see a doctor, I so believe in the mind body connection, and it could be depression. When we are not complete, it is easy to attract poor choices in friends, like attracts like,and they may be depressed too, it is easy to project our feelings onto others especially those close to us, who are not getting what we want them to get. Try to see the md., if all is well, then get busy, fill the obcession time with activity, what ever it is, and realize that you can controll, what I call monkey brain, where all the thoughts flood in, just whisk them away, or ritually write them down and burn them away, but all of this takes effort and the willing ness to be different. Play joyfull music, stop the paper, and the evening news, and most of all, never ever spend to much time alone in you head. Try to laugh get out and meet some new people, take a class, but get busy

November 25, 2000
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Thank you so much for that.....thank god for people who have a heart and listen...god bless, I will take your advice.

November 25, 2000
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do, keep us posted, and there is great support here for the down times. They do happen regardless.

November 26, 2000
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maybe you don't need meds at all. Maybe you need to practice banishing ALL negetive thought and replacing them with positive ones.

Glass half full? glass half empty. If you have always dwelt on the negetive STOP!!!

Bible says...is ALL things give thaks. That means even for junky stufff.

Hey...REad The Power of Postiive thinking..dr Norman V. Peale
Read. Change your BrainChange your Life...

Practice the positive....ALL THE TIME!!!!!

November 27, 2000
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Hey janes....

yes....i read very many of these threads and kept seeing people recommending the book Change Your Brain, Change Your Life...started reading it last night..so far I love it and can't put it down. You are so right about negative thinking...it controls me and I feel I have no control over it..however in reading this book..I see I just may have some control after all. Thanks again for your thoughts.

November 27, 2000
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Molly

Thanks again for that. Its so true, just reading some of this stuff helps me start feeling a bit better.

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