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Does she has the right to do that?
July 29, 2007
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I am glad (((Jv))) that you learned something from this thread. Yea, a wise and mature person should not sweat the small stuff. I liked your reply to me here and found it Brilliant!!! This woman is NOT likeable, as my supervisor indicated to me, and I'm very glad I talked to my supervisor about it. At 1st I just wanted to just sweep it below the rug thinking that I was being peaceful and smart. However, my therapist and the wise friends' responses here put me in reality check rather than that idealistic rosy glasses and made me see things in a realistic manner.

Therapists are trained and professional folks who received proper training and we should show respect to their feedback.

This woman who is "Assistant," not even director, falls into that catergory you described in your 1st post here and she really needed to be called and notified about her improper action, otherwise she will continue to harass me and my therapist assured me of that and I really respect her feedback and the people who took this opinion. I believe we are entitled/free to choose what feedback we want to choose.

Have a wonderful Sunday!

July 30, 2007
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Cool your on the right path good for you.


August 3, 2007
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Ella~ This is the thread I posted last week about that Assistant at work who was aggressive with me - the one you asked for in my therapist's thread. Enjoy reading and I hope you will learn something from it. You're most welcome to put your own remarks or tips here (((Ella))).

August 4, 2007
1:04 am

Hi Rasputin-

We have similar types of things go on where I work. Every once and a while a manager of one job will come to our branch from their own and drop comments and stir up trouble. My supervisor believes, and I agree, that our branch is best managed from within. These people do not know what make our location tick. Neither has with in their job discription to tell my boss what to do. Yet they feel the need to assert themselves and spread ill humor and bad morale.

If anyone at work made a big deal out of me being 3 minutes late I would think them incredibly stupid. Things happen with commutes, etc. For crying out loud, you could have ran in to use the ladies room first for three minutes. Who's even looking at the clock at that point? If it is so crucial for you to be there doing something specific on the dot, what is SHE supposed to be doing that she has time to notice you? Unless I was repeatedly late everyday it every day no one at my job would mention it.

Since that woman confronted you, her tone of voice and exactly what she said would be also a factor in what you should do. The point is, she made you feel uncomfortable... so there's no harm in going up to your boss and discussing the situation in the open. Maybe it is trivial to outsiders, but if she is going to repeatedly harrass you, hover over you, and anticipate any last mistake you make as an opportunity to have a confrontation... I agree with your therapist- you boss needs to know so that in the event this woman picks on you for things she will see a pattern. You boss already knows about your work performance, what she might not be aware of is the nature of this woman's interaction with you.

On the other side of this, people at workplaces can get jealous if they think that someone is "getting away" with something that they don't think they can. At my job, there is this slacker guy who is late constantly. How he still works there, I don't know. But you know what? When I am late my boss doesn't give me a hard time either, so how is it my business? I think she babies this guy in a lot of ways, but maybe she knows something we don't and that is her choice as a supervisor. Maybe he is taking care of a sick parent, or is sick himself. Who knows. That is between them. That is why I agree with your therapist- it was good to establish that your problems at work are to be addressed between you and your supervisor.

Sorry for rambling. I just woke up.

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