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do 28 years form too great a rift
June 1, 2005
5:34 pm
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I am 19 and I am currently living in an initimate relationship with a 47 yr old who can be controlling and very insecure about our relationship. I want to give him a fair chance, but when I say anything he dislikes, he shuts himself off to me and decides we are not right for each other. He loves me deeply, but doesn't think that a relationship should take so much work. I just want to know him and to be deeply connected, but it feels like I just keep pushing him away. This is the first romatic relationship I have ever had and I am concerned that I am hanging onto it for only that reason. Should I keep trying to keep our relationship afloat?

June 1, 2005
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Hi Amber,

I'm not saying that a relationship with a huge age difference CAN'T work, however, I have to ask....what can a 47 year old man have in common with a 19 year old girl?

If he seems controlling and insecure, it's probably because he IS controlling and insecure. Which also may answer my previous question.....the younger you are, the easier you are to contol.

My suggestion to you is to tread lightly. Be careful. I have a feeling that your well being is not on the top of his priority list.

I would never suggest to end a relationship (because it's not my place to do so), however, I would recommend that you keep your options open. You are very young and don't need to be in such a "serious" relationship at this point.

Do you have friends your own age? If so, spend time with them and do things people your age do. If not, get some.

good luck to you,


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