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May 16, 2000
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jetta
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Help, I just got married in December and my husband left me at the end of March. I feel so lonely and depressed. I really want him back. The problem is that when I did have him I thought I did not love him so I was constanly complaining and fighting with him. I wanted to get the house done and wanted him to be someone he was not. How do I get him back. He says he is going to file for a divorce and that I will never change. I have changed and now I understand him. I think it is too late. Anyone have any suggestions.

May 16, 2000
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time and patience, show him how you have changed. tell him how much you love him. contest the divorce.but the bottom line is that if he wants out, he wants out and probably nothing will change his mind.

life is too short and since you have changed it would be his loss.

hang in there and god bless

May 16, 2000
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How can I show him I changed when he won't even talk to me. He left the house and everytime he calls me his voice mail pick up

May 16, 2000
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Get a counselor...figure out if you have changed, write him letters (not obsessivly), get yourself figured out then invite hime to counseling with you...

Then...if he still wants out you also have your therapy to help out with the loss.

If you truly have changed it will also be his loss but ensure that this won't happen again to you by taking charge of your life and finding out why you did what you did.

May 18, 2000
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You both want the other to change.Find a way to get together (may be with a counselor) in quiet and relaxed way. Express (each of you) your feelings and concerns without saying: this is good or bad ,right or wrong.Just let the other listen( and hopefuly understand).Then try to brainstorm as many solutions as you both could.Again:don't (each of you)say:this is good or bad...).Then examine advantages and disadvantages of every solution for both of you.Decide to try one solution that is ok for both of you for a specified period of time. View the whole process as a way to solve the problem and to strengthen your relationship.It is important that BOTH of you (sincerely) wants a solution before filing for divorce.Invite him to read through this cite,especially your input.
Give it a try.Good luck.

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