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distressing phone calls from mother-in-law
May 29, 2006
8:29 pm
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My mother in law rings my partner once or twice a week at a certain time of day. I dread this time of day. I get tense, and worried, and can't concentrate on what I'm doing. When she rings and speaks to my partner, I can't help but listen to every word of my partner's side of the conversation. My MIL says things to my partner about how I might leave her and hurt her, and she should get legal protection from me in case I leave her. And she takes every little negative bit of info about me and throws it back in my face eg I'm tired all the time.

I worry she will break me and my partner up. Intellectually I know she won't, but my feelings say otherwise.

The other day I confronted her on the phone. She said that she has been hostile to me since my partner and I got together, and just pretending to be nice.

Where should my boundaries be? I don't want to be controlling of who my partner talks to or what she's allowed to accept - that is her boundary to set.

But I feel resentful of my MIL's negativity coming into our home.

How do I protect myself without trying to control other's behaviour?

May 29, 2006
9:30 pm
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Oh sweetheart thats a difficult sittuation. Have you talked to your partner about this?? Cause I think that its ultamitly her decision to make. The best thing I think for you to do is to be supporting of your partner and take a breather its your MIL making this hard for you not you hopefully your partner will see that

May 30, 2006
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thank you Randomwomen2 for your thoughts, they do resonate with me deep down.

Thanks again

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