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Disjointed social interests
October 3, 2001
3:06 pm
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lost_but_not_confused
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My situation is that I recently (8 months ago) moved from an emotionally abusive home. So up until the age of 20, my parents raised me almost literally under lock and key, doing whatever they could to prevent me from having any form of a social life. I am now on my own, paying my way through a couple remaining semesters of college. My confidence with talking to others is just fine. But I have so little in common with many people my age because I have been so removed from them as demanded by my father while living under his roof. I am looking for a first girlfriend and just am not sure how to make myself available. The most visible girls (at parties, etc.) aren't looking for a guy like me (a little quiet, responsible, the whole bland 9 yards lol). I am an interesting person, but not to someone who has a lot of social experiences. What are some good ways (activities to join, ect.) for me to find a girlfriend who would like someone a bit on the quiet and responsible side.

October 3, 2001
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Why don't you take a part time job at a popular place in town where lots of people your age go. Easy conversation can lead to deeper conversation, and you get to meet some of the people you work with, and those that come into the location. My girls live in a college town and this is what they did, they have a really ful social life with the people that they meet, and since most of the other college students work in the same field it gives them and easy topic of conversation.
School clubs, work too, what is your interest? Just do it the worst is they say no, and the more no's you get the closer you are to a yes.

October 3, 2001
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Another suggestion... are you a musician? A lot of the band and orchestra "dorks" are passionate about their music and are equally open to getting to know other people who share their passion. Joining a community band or choir or whatever encourages you to work together on something you all love... music. Plus, at least in the choirs that I have sung in, line massages are extremely popular, and if you happen to have strong hands, you can quickly become quite popular. 😉

You mention that you are still in college. If you just like music but don't play anything, a music appreciation class is a pretty neat option too.

October 3, 2001
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Thanks Molly and gingerleigh, you've given me a few ideas to work on.

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