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Did I say the right thing?
November 8, 2006
11:56 pm
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...blah blah. I can explain it all later, but it was nothing really that important. She's calling me an asshole because I said, "Well try again next time, when I'm not going to bed." That's it. That's what she says. This is the end of the conversation...

TheEx(Her): bye!
Blyxx(Me): i'm not done yet, i've got to say just a little bit more
TheEx: go forit
Blyxx(Me): because now i feel offended, and i think you've ought to know how i feel to you attacking me and calling me an asshole, not once, but multiple times.
TheEx(Her): just say it already
TheEx(Her): fskljg
Blyxx(Me): however, you just don't care, you said that a few times already, and i don't want to talk to someone who doesn't care about anything. so when you get your life in order, you let me know, k? til then, goodbye and goodnight. i will miss you, but it's not the end of the world. get your shit together.

November 8, 2006
11:59 pm
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I would have put it more delicately but you got your point across sweetheart. You dont need someone that is calling you names and says that she just doesn't care.

November 9, 2006
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TheEx(Her): heyy

TheEx(Her): im guesing you wont respond hmm

TheEx(Her): then we wont talk, haha

TheEx(Her): geez 

Blyxx(Me): we could talk maybe

TheEx(Her): okay lets talk

TheEx(Her): hi

Blyxx(Me): is there anything you have you want to talk about
in particular?

TheEx(Her): nope, just wondering what your up to

Blyxx(Me): the usual

TheEx(Her): haha, good good

TheEx(Her): well, i tried, have a goodnight

TheEx(Her): haha, bye

TheEx(Her): :/

Blyxx(Me): you have no reason to be.. :/

TheEx(Her): no i dont

TheEx(Her): your right.

TheEx(Her): goodnight

Blyxx(Me): bye

Blyxx(Me): did you have anything to say?

TheEx(Her): no i didn't

Blyxx(Me): maybe try harder next time, when i'm not going to
bed

Blyxx(Me): nite

TheEx(Her): im not tryinggg , okay then

Blyxx(Me): you said you tried

TheEx(Her): go to bed grumppy

TheEx(Her): attempted, more like

Blyxx(Me): attempted what?

TheEx(Her): to see how the hell your doing kyle

TheEx(Her): geeez

TheEx(Her): your a real asshole for a non asshole

TheEx(Her): its annoying me

TheEx(Her): haha

Blyxx(Me): i get a little defensive when i close up... 
sorry

Blyxx(Me): adios

TheEx(Her) signed off at 8:07:56 PM.

TheEx(Her) signed on at 8:08:52 PM.

Blyxx(Me): in case you didnt see.. i said i'm sorry for
being an asshole

TheEx(Her): yaa ya

TheEx(Her): its only 8

TheEx(Her): as if i knew you were going to bed

TheEx(Her): your a real asshole, haha

TheEx(Her): its funny

TheEx(Her): gosh

TheEx(Her): okay im done

TheEx(Her): sorry

TheEx(Her): back

Blyxx(Me): you know, i don't lash out and attack you

TheEx(Her): who cares, and i attack you?

Blyxx(Me): yes, you just did

TheEx(Her): just being honnest

Blyxx(Me): what the hell did i do that you decide to label
me an asshole?

TheEx(Her): "well you should try harder next time, when
im not going to bed"

TheEx(Her): like i knew that you were going to bed

Blyxx(Me): why would i be an asshole at 8pm..  i'm not expecting anyone to know that i'm
going to bed

Blyxx(Me): i didn't say it that way

TheEx(Her): i dont even care anymore

TheEx(Her): haha

Blyxx(Me): what the hell did i do to you stephany?

TheEx(Her): nothing, im just telling you what i think.....i
talk to you and you talk stupid

Blyxx(Me): do you like attacking people?

Blyxx(Me): do you realize you do that even?

TheEx(Her): im not attacking you, no i honnestly dont

TheEx(Her): i dont attack people, just you

TheEx(Her): "attack"

TheEx(Her): you think its an attack

TheEx(Her): its not

Blyxx(Me): what is it then?

Blyxx(Me): an insult?

Blyxx(Me): a remark of condescending?

TheEx(Her): no its just me saying your being an asshole, you
can call it whatever yo want

Blyxx(Me): i'm being an asshole because i said "try
harder next time, when i'm not going to bed"

TheEx(Her): no because what you say, is just soo
sldkjfjskldjslj

TheEx(Her): you sound almost upset in a way

TheEx(Her): and i know that because you never talked to me
that way, and i know i shouldn't expect much

TheEx(Her): i just wanted you to know that your making me
not want to talk to you, and by not talking to you...i said asshole

TheEx(Her): which was probably wrong

TheEx(Her): but

TheEx(Her): :/i couldnt help that one

TheEx(Her): i know im right

TheEx(Her): well say something

Blyxx(Me): you're right

TheEx(Her): so me not wanting to talk to because of your
sappy attitude, im right. and now im suppose to feel better, not at
all........but you now know this

TheEx(Her): i dont know what you could have possible gianed

TheEx(Her): hopefully something..

TheEx(Her): bye

Blyxx(Me): so you know you're right, and then take offense
when i tell you that you are?

TheEx(Her): im not ofended

Blyxx(Me): then why the attack again?

Blyxx(Me): why did you get defensive when i said you're
right?

TheEx(Her): its an unnecessary stab, crazy people do it all
the time

Blyxx(Me): stop saying you're crazy

TheEx(Her): right.

Blyxx(Me): you're not crazy

TheEx(Her): and you've got to stop agreeing with me, of
course i think im right

TheEx(Her): i may not be

TheEx(Her): : x im done

Blyxx(Me): i'm really sorry i come off as an asshole, i dont
mean to, i really don't.

TheEx(Her): im not hurt by it

TheEx(Her): its nice you can apologize

Blyxx(Me): and i don't think less of you or anything for
anything

TheEx(Her): i dont care

TheEx(Her): i just thought you ought to know :/

TheEx(Her): dont take this to a serious offence either

TheEx(Her): you can either go on, feeling attacked online by
stephany..its unusual yes

TheEx(Her): or you can go on thinking of it as a good peice
of critisism

TheEx(Her): however you spell that

TheEx(Her): just say something

TheEx(Her): GOODBYE

Blyxx(Me): what criticism?

TheEx(Her): ohi didn't criticise you???

TheEx(Her): nevermind, i think i thought that...it didn't
matter

TheEx(Her): it doesn't matter

Blyxx(Me): i can see how you criticized me, and i did take
it as a point of reference and intend on improving my method of how i tell you
things so that you won't think i'm being mean to you because i'm not being
mean.

TheEx(Her): mmhmm

TheEx(Her): gotcha

TheEx(Her): im done kyle

TheEx(Her): exhausted

TheEx(Her): gooood

TheEx(Her): bye!

Blyxx(Me): i'm not done yet, i've got to say just a little
bit more

TheEx(Her): go forit

Blyxx(Me): because now i feel offended, and i think you've
ought to know how i feel to you attacking me and calling me an asshole, not
once, but multiple times.

TheEx(Her): just say it already

TheEx(Her): fskljg

Blyxx(Me): however, you just don't care, you said that a few
times already, and i don't want to talk to someone who doesn't care about
anything.  so when you get your life in order, you let me know, k? 
til then, goodbye and goodnight.  i will miss you, but it's not the end of
the world.  get your shit together.

 

November 9, 2006
1:28 am
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that's the entire conversation, beginning to end... yes our names are said in it, but i dont think i matters really.. lots of people with our names.

i really want to know if i did the right thing, i am feeling like i didn't, and yet somehow i think i did. i'm confused about it, and would like some kind of feedback.

November 9, 2006
9:07 am
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Hi blyxx,

It seems like you and your ex in a power struggle here with no one getting their needs met and no one asking directly just assuming.

No one is right, no one is wrong, but how is it working for either of you?

I reckonize this behavior because I use to be involved in it daily with my husband until I decided it was counter productive and I didn't need to be right just loved.

I am sorry that this kind of conversation leaves you feeling like you need to be validated and not trusting yourself. I believe that you need to remain true to yourself and trust yourself and think through the consequences before you speak. Easy for me to say and not do myself at times. Why do you think you need validation?

November 9, 2006
10:16 am
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because i feel like i destroy things every time i say something to her, and she seems to confirm that thought. but, you know what? after seeing how she's been, i don't want to deal with her anymore, at all. i've been not talking to her and last night she decided to talk to me, not the other way around. i'm over it, she brings me down.

she's the one who had no emotions at all when it came time for her to break up with me. i'm just confused about everything with her in the first place, so this is better.

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