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July 12, 2009
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Hey all,,
sorry bout that, just got a little paranoid 😉
for a sec,,

he Was at the neighbor's house, his car was here ...

i guess when the weekend comes i get that was ,,, cause she could only meet him on fri or sat nite,,,

well, the nite he went to her house was a thurs but she had a long weekend due to the holiday or something,,

i dont think he is seeing her still or even emailing her 😉

I usually can Tell when my h is lying to me,, i knew he was before when he said he wasnt meeting her...
i dont thi

July 12, 2009
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sorry,,
i guess im done --- for now.. 🙂

July 12, 2009
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Hi InnerT,

I'm in Sun Valley, ID and am actually getting some kind of signal at the moment, so if I end abruptly you know what that was about......

It's so hard to NOT be paranoid, isn't it? You don't trust him, so you'll go through this until he proves to be trustworthy again. And who knows when that will be? It's hard to live that way.

(((InnerT)))

July 13, 2009
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Hey,
Hep,,,
whatcha doin id ID??
VAcation?

i thought it was just farmland and nothing to it,, now u got me wanting to go there! 😉

hope you are havin a good day..

I'm doin a little better 🙂

July 13, 2009
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Hi InnerT,

My gf invited me to go with 3 other woman to Sun Valley. She bid on a house for 4 days at a silent auction. So there's 5 of us rattling around this town. It's been nice to get away for a few days. It is really beautiful here. I didn't know this but this is where Demi Moore and Bruce had their ranch and lived for a few years. We passed by it on the way to our house.

Tried to call my bf last night about 7 times. He finally called me back this morning. Said he couldn't get through. Hmmmm. Anyway when I know he might be seeing his daughter and he doesn't call me, I worry.

Glad you're feeling a little better today.

July 14, 2009
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Hey Hep and Inner,

Sounds like a good vacation. How're both of you doing?

I'm really trying to work on that wishy washy thing that you mentioned Inner. I need a moment to vent here. I asked my H to come home by 7 because we live in a townhouse and there are parking issues on Monday night. I wanted to go to a yoga class.

He did his usual, we'll see, I probably can get there. I didn't rise to the bait. Then he calls at 6:30 and kept hinting but wouldn't say what he wanted and finally I said what are you trying to say? His friend is coming on Tues. to borrow the truck and he hadn't picked up a gift for her. I was about to give in but then I realized that there is another car here if he wanted it, HE would have to deal with finding a spot for it later.

I'm so proud of myself because I usually let him manipulate me into giving in but I still feel the leftover frustration from it.

July 14, 2009
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Nice job Lani! Yeah, that residue from the incident is hard to shake. For me it's hard to shake because just the very fact that I had to deal with their manipulation just pisses me off. That they have to manipulate at all.

All we can do is deal with each situation as it arises. My problem is I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. Which really isn't fair.

July 14, 2009
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One negative aspect of being a codie, is the extreme uncomfortableness I feel when I know that the person I care about has to be inconvenienced or go through their own uncomfortableness. And I know it's their responsibility.

July 14, 2009
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hey hep and lani,,

good job lani,, im typing w one hand waiting for my doc to call me back---

i fell this am....
i fell hard face first and landed on my elbows ---i think i fractured 1 if not both,,,
i was trying not to land on my son----long and embarrassing story--

i need medical attention...

July 14, 2009
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Crap InnerT! Me thinks you should go get some x-rays!

July 14, 2009
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hey,
hep ,
my h took me to urgent-care and they Did some x rays,,

the doc said 'nothins brokin',, but they are gonna send them to a raidoligist and call me if something IS brokin-- i think it might be fractured,, hurts sooo bad,,
gave me a sling and some ice pak,,,
told me to take advil

woo hoo!!
i need rest---

July 14, 2009
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Oh brother, well, yeah, to be honest, I think you DO need some time off. Which side has the sling? This might be too woo woo for ya, but I believe things like that happen for a reason. I also believe that the left side of our body is the "female" side (nurturing, softer, determined) and the right side is the "male" side (aggressive, strong, warrior like). Depending on which side got hurt can give you an idea of what needs to be worked on.

Anyway, I think you should put your feet up and let the h pamper you for a while. Let him take care of the baby and give him a suggestion as to what you would like for dinner! LOL I'm laughing, but I'm serious!

Feel better soon!

July 14, 2009
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Inner,

Sounds painful. I guess the universe figured out how to slow you down. I like Hepburn's idea of letting the H pamper you.

Thanks to both. Hepburn, I also get that it's their responsibility but I do everything possible not to inconvenience them. I forget that they are inconveniencing me. HELLO!

July 15, 2009
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You both have started some lightbulbs going off in my head. I realized that my H announces things and I ask. That puts him in a huge place of power. I'm going to work on not asking permission but stating it in a way to say what I want and what works for me.

Inner,

Wishing you lots of rest and sweets.

July 15, 2009
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Well put Lani. I forget too. But maybe because I've been a codie so long that I never really considered it an inconvenience on me. I'm more aware now. And then there's those "pesky" boundaries that I keep forgetting about too!

InnerT--You're probably REALLY sore today. Ouch. I can feel it all the way over here. Hope you are getting some rest and letting the h deal with things.

July 15, 2009
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awwwwww nooo...Inner sorry about your arm/elbow...hope you are doing the best that you can.

July 15, 2009
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Hey,,
good afternoon..
thanks,, everyone,,
im letting my h do as much as he will 🙂
i am (a little ) better today,,
maybe i didnt fracture anything, but ,,i have 2 be careful ,, if i move the wrong way,,, VERY painful...

i hope i can get over it soon,, i picked up my son for the first time since it happened,, it HURt alot,, but better than before,, luckily he doesnt need picking up much 😉

my mom has gone to the grocery store for me and she will bring them by in a little bit and watch my son while my h gets some things done...
(i will probably not rest, just get some housework done :{ )

Hep, i hope u had a good vacation,,
Hi,,
Lani, and Camer,,,,
miss yall,,
--inner--

July 15, 2009
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Hey Inner,

Glad good people are taking care of you. Wow, how hard not to be able to pick up your son.

Hepburn,

Those boundaries. I suppose I should be glad that at least I have a few now. Before they were nonexistent.

July 15, 2009
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Hi Hep and Lani,,
(and Camer)
my arms are really sore now (around 4pm).. i tried to 'swiffer' my floor,,, my arm burned bad,, and that was the good arm 😉

anyway ,, i know what yall mean about 'no boundaries' that is what caused me to do some crazy things a few years ago ,, even then i asked myself,, 'why am i doing these things?'

my mom has taken my son to the park, they better come home soon,,, it is 90 degrees f outside... too hot!!!

feels like u can barely breathe when u step out there...

she'd better come back soon,, 30 min is probably too long for a 2 yr old.. dont ya think!

gotta go rest s

July 15, 2009
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hi Inner...i have to get myself one of those "swiffer's"...its on my to be bought list.

Hopefully, your mum will be back soon, you never know, maybe they went to get an ice cream or something or are sitting in the shade.

Take good care of that arm of yours 🙂

(((camer)))

July 15, 2009
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hey,
Camer,,

u should do it! they are great,, only thing is the refill pads are kinda expensive,,, but i think they are worth it .. 😉

they were gone 1 hour and 20 min.. but they were playing at the playground,, which is moslty in the shade.. and he came back HoT but fine,, he wanted to go back outside when he got back!

He is a handful already! 🙂

July 15, 2009
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Hi ladies,

Well I'm baaaack.

Glad nothing is broken InnerT. I suspect that the humidity level gets really uncomfortable when it's hot over there. Here in CA it's very dry, at least where I am (other side of the mountains from the ocean).

I had a very interesting time (it was fun) on this girl vaca. These women are extremely wealthy. One was in the middle of getting a divorce (tired of being neglected, lives in a 17 room mansion), one has been divorced for 2 years, (but the alimony she gets could probably pay off the national debt) one is on her 5th husband (yeah, you read that right. ha) and the other has been married for 20 years to a very wealthy man but she doesn't spend any money on herself (and it shows. I have a feeling he's emotionally abusive). Then there's me. Divorced (but have always taken care of myself) with boyfriends who don't have a pot to piss in.

Just an observation that one can't buy happiness.

July 16, 2009
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Hey all,

Having a bad am. Feeling powerless and low. Can't seem to learn to fight in the right way and I walk away depleted.

July 16, 2009
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(((Lani)))

Sorry to hear that. What's going on? It took me many years to learn how to "fight". I still haven't got it quite down yet either.

If you're up for it, please vent away.

July 16, 2009
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Hey InnerT, hope you're feeling a little better today. Come over to the coffeehouse for a cupcake. It's CAMER'S birthday.

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