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Dealing with loss
August 4, 2001
8:49 am
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Hi. I'm new here. I just finished my first year in college, and about a month before the end of school a really close friend of mine from high school died unexpectedly. He was the healthiest person any of us knew, or so we thought. In April he died of a heart fibrillation in his sleep. He was really special to me in so many ways. Though I only knew him for three years I still consider him my first love. Since April I've been struggling with how to deal with this. I go from feeling at peace with it to completely depressed and back again, often many times every day. I've been searching for a way to understand this tragedy and continue with my life but I don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. My best friend was also very close to him, but we haven't really been able to talk about it much, as it is really hard for both of us. I'm not sure what I'm asking for here. I guess just comments, suggestions, ideas on whether or not I should try therapy. I'm a bit skeptical about whether anyone could really help, but I've been considering it, too.

August 5, 2001
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Sad feelings and repetitive thoughts are part of a healng process which ultimately leads to recovery.It may br detramental to your functioning if you don'tallow and express the sadness and pain or don"t completly work through or finish the feelings. Doing this things is called grief work.Do not bury this feelings which might lead depression or other grief related promlems.Share your sorrows with close friends and family members. Talk about your feelings ,your relationship with the deased, and fond memories of the past until you have nothing left to say.Do not force your self to act cheerful. Your painful grief is part of the love you you feel for for your friend. Accept your grief and realize you are not alone, that everyone has great joys and great sorrows. Take care of yourself.

August 6, 2001
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Sure...try therapy...if it helps good if not try another therapist before you quit. Some hospitals offer greif gorups...also a good option.

Tka it easy...greaif is weird. and takes TIME more than anything else.

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