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Daughter Too Lazy To Study!!!
September 27, 2000
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Problems.......Problems.....
My daughter refused to study hard! She is watching TV all the time.
I am quite devastated!!! Please , someone give me advises!

thank you very much!

September 27, 2000
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Well, there are several realted issues that this problem may stem from. She might have difficulty with the material, the teachers may not be helping her relate the material to her everyday life (a great tactic to stir up interest), or she may be suffering from other emotional problems and be using TV as a form of escape.

I have some questions:

How old is she?
Does she make high marks, or is her performance unevenly distributed betwen subjects?

There are a handful of principles about the learning process and motivation that every teacher and parent should know:

1. Students are more likely to be intrinsically motivated when they have high self-efficacy and a sense of determination.

2. Students with learning goals rather than performance goals engage in those behaviors and mental processes most likely to preomote effective learning.

3. Students are most likely to succeed at challenging classrom tasks if they are eager to do well but not overly anxious about their performance.

4. Students are most likely to put forth effort when they attribute success and failures to factors over which they have control.

If she's failing, talk to her guidance counselor about this.

September 27, 2000
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What are her grades? It could be she doesn't need to study as much ? Both my girls were different, and both had good grades, I let them make the choices, and they never even came close to failing. I guess I was lucky, from the beginning, I made sure that they knew I was there for support only, and some creative input, but I had been to school, and this was their job. They could rise to their potential, and at that time there were test scores to indicate what they could do or not do, or they could loose the freedom. My favorite saying is don't make me be a parent, and do you enjoy the life you have right now? I might suggest that you let your child make her own choice,and hang her self, but if the grades are not where they need to be, then her entertainment is over, no phone, no tv, limited what ever cost you can think of to motivate her . Good Luck

September 28, 2000
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Thank you Cici & Molly for your advises!
I really appreciated it 🙂

Cici
My daughter is in Primary 2 this year. She did not do well in her pre-school & in Primary 1. Thats the reason I am worry about.

She is not even at the average. Althought some has told me that it is still early to be so anxious ( me ) but I can't help but still worries!!!

I believe that strong foundations is very crucial for education.

I have try engaged a tutor for her early this year, but her tutor refused to teach her because she told me that my daughter has problems with her learning attitudes. ( which I ageed with the tutor.

Molly

I like to thank you once again for your respond but I am too tired to provide you more info at this moment. ( after a hard day work, its time for me to take some rest now 🙂
Cheers

September 28, 2000
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I read an article in Salon.com about how homework is killing children. LIke, a little child should not have to do homework.

I didin't start doing homework until I wsa in fourth grade (about 8/9 yrs.)!!

Try to find a subject she enjoys and see if you can encourage her to explore it more. Then, relate that subject to teh material that she's learning in class.

I remember my Mom would sit right by me for an hour every day while I practiced piano. I hated it then, but I love that I can sit down and play for my own enjoyment whenever I want to now! Try sitting with her and helping her work.

Vygostky, a contemporary of Piaget (the foremost developemntal theorist who's used a lot by educators) said that children learn best with mentors. Be her mentor!

September 28, 2000
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I am sorry I am assuming that primary is like the American version of elementary. She is in her third year of school? Around the age of 6-8? Have you had her tested for ADD, AHD, or dyslexia ? Pardon my spelling, has she had a physical, and even is she a genious, she could be board with it all??? It sounds like a history, not like a sudden change, I would have several tests done,including vision, hearing, hand eye coordination, and is there any possible emotional stuff??? and have a peace of mind that it is not physical, before I assume it is lack of motivation. We are all different miracles, and don't always fit in the same mold. What a good mom you are, gosh too bad she didn't come with manual!!!!!!!

September 29, 2000
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Thank you Molly!

I try to see what I can do to help her!
thank you so much for your interests in offering advises 🙂

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