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Dating younger man.
April 13, 2004
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Have you ever had to date younger man? It used to be on my “buts” list. Except this one- he was different and it was a lot good about the guy. I just could not get over feeling that he has so much more for him in a future. I felt strange with his friends who were much younger then I am, 19 years old girls were looking at me with “Who is that?” And may be- I felt envies. Also- he is very good looking guy and I never could get over fear that I will loose him. So- I stop seeing him. I mean- he is still around- I could fix it if I try. Is it just me or some one else felt the same way?

April 13, 2004
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Sixty four doller question - How old are you?

April 13, 2004
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I'm over 30. We had about 7 years difference.

April 13, 2004
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Annastar, go for it. Age? It's relative. Some people I know act way older than their age, and vice versa. The heart knows no age, and who says those around us should be empowered to dictate romantic possibilities? If you made one another happy, that's all that matters. I have a very good friend whose husband is eleven years younger than her. They are very happy and have been for years. Follow your instincts!

April 13, 2004
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Yeah,,I agree!!! You should go for it!!! Just because you're a few years older than those 19-year-old girls, doesn't mean anything. Some guys really like older women. Not that you're "old" but you know what I mean!!! W.

April 13, 2004
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Well… My instinct says- stay away from it. Our friends, including my mother were thinking- he is that type of nice guy that fall in love with older woman and do everything for her. Not this one. I think- he did it for his pride that he can get some one like me. Have I mentioned- he is a rock star? I mean- it is not first rock star I am dealing with, but… his exssssss- it was like 3 of them keep calling him and he talks with them, telling me- they just friends…not that he cheating... like right now- he is not calling me. And I feel like- he is to young to be a jerk. When we just started- he was so cute. Nice, polite, respectful… Now he turned to bad boy and has to be punished. How do I punish him?

April 13, 2004
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Technically, with seven years on him you should be able to run rings round the guy.

With regard to synchronization of your respective develeopmental tasks you may be compatible or not. Hard to tell yet.

If you love him then by all means propose honorable relationship to him.

Rock Star-ism is correlated slightly with Narcissism, if I recall correctly. Caution there.

April 14, 2004
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Have fun!
We are only young Once!
I used to go out with a guy that was younger than me - about 6 six yrs younger! - so what!

: ) we all desearve some fun & love

April 14, 2004
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Punish him? You want to know how to punish him?? 🙂 Well, honey, that's half the fun -- *big grin* -- he'd prob like it. He's prob used to little girls adoring him etc and someone who holds her own ground would be a fun change. I'd say, go for it. If you continue to feel like it's not for you, end it. But you don't have a whole lot of facts, right? Don't judge too quickly, or label him. He's only 19, prob trying to find himself. Obviously, he has good taste! 🙂

April 14, 2004
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annastar
Follow your instinct. Mine has kept me from waisting precious time more then once. There are a few younger ladys (18-20)I could be seeing right now. One or two look like rock stars and one could be a model. Its is flattering because I am in my mid 40's. But I have come to look at life like this.

I am a pebble and when you drop me in a pond I send out ripples. All of our ripples run into eachother.

Where are my Ripples going ?

In my case I need stability right now and where are my Ripples going ??? At this point in my life Im just starting to see that there are a few interesting ladys catching on to me. No middle age old ladys for this guy. 🙂 And no baby sitting. If someone younger can keep up with me - Cool. My focus keeps me from just running around waisting time.

Like they say in the funnies. Rock N Roll Baby . Kick the tires and light the fires because where going Down Town. 🙂

Have a Great Day Network 🙂

April 14, 2004
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annastar wrote:"Now he turned to bad boy and has to be punished. How do I punish him? "

You had better be kidding when you talk like that on a DV board.

April 14, 2004
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About 8 yrs ago I married a younger guy, what a big mistake. he was way to young and very immature, he was a nice guy just needed to grow up. I was 38, he was 22. big age differance we were divorced in 2yrs.
I remarried in 2002, he is younger than I am also, I am know 46yrs old my husband is 40, makes a big differance plus the fact that we are both older..relationships are hard but when there is such a big gap in age i think it makes it even harder...Angel1

April 14, 2004
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My first love was 38 years old, and I was 17 years old.

We stayed together almost eleven years. And we were often happy, except...Her propensity for rough stuff and drunken waving of firearms finally drove me off.

April 14, 2004
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Thank you everyone for your support- it is very important to me. I wish- I can explain whole situation. Today he finally made it here- we ware not talking a month- actually- we were talking, but he would not come over. I am punished for misbehaving. See- this is no nice way to say it- I was involved with my ex (the long story) and it kind of confusing now. The ex is gone- he is marrying some one else. The young guy…not really wants to be part of it. The hard part is that we have a project together (3 of us) and he would not mind to be friends…I just can not see him as a friend. He is really cute (specially if you don’t see him for a wile) and “I can’t help it”, and I am worry who is he with and what is he doing (not that he dating some one else- yet) and wile he is a friend- he has no time to just hang out, so it takes him forever to get here and we have projects to work on, and I thinking- I should fix it, and then I remember his friends and fans and groupies, cell phone ringing every 5 minutes, and I have to compete with all of it and they all younger- yes, I am smarter, but… Got you all lost, haven’t I? Tonight I was so excited to see him. I should keep myself in control, right? He looks happy to see me as well, but by the end of meeting he told me- I am very special and will find some one I will like. (Imagine to hear some thing like this from 24 years old), but he is going to be here next week, working on a project. What do I do?

April 21, 2004
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Respect yourself and dont settle for someone who doesnt want what you want.There's one out there for you thats right ,if you look in the right place and can keep your self respect. Good luck!

April 21, 2004
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granny thanks for the encouragement!!!

April 24, 2004
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Thank you, everyone, who support me on this thread. I still have contradictive feelings about issue. After we did not talk for about 3 weeks, he (my younger boyfriend) started to come visit me more often. He says- he still not sure if he is able to forgive me and has to keep his distance, but he would like to be there for me through this “special” for me time. The time is really special for me; I feel overwhelmed and- may be needy. I catch myself on being so happy every time he coming over- I would say- may be I paying to much attention to him. But I feel so guilty- I been seeing my “mean friend”. I don’t see him now, but this is because he doesn’t want to see me, but I can not promise- if he call tomorrow- I will not see him again. I am thinking about keeping “the young one” only and try to work things out, this is why I may be extra nice with the guy. But…because of ‘what I have done’ to him, he believes- he has rights to see each of his ex girlfriends right now. He is not sleeping with them (I think, and he says, and it does not looks like he does…), but he taking them out, when he goes out with other friends, they calling him on phone, he uses the truck of one of them for his band, the other one coming to each of his show…And he telling me about it! Yes, he should not, but if he stop- then I will not know what a hell is he doing and where is he is. No- it is not about control (may be it is?)- I just need to know what is going on. I felt better when we did not talk, because- I really do want him, but it so hard to keep him. From another side- he is here like every other day (and he can find better things to do!)- so I think- he wants to make things work, and then again…How do I manage it?

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