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Court Hearing tomorrow for DUI/Implied Consent & Evading Arrest-Big Time Anxiety Going On!
September 20, 2005
12:24 am
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I'm sitting here tonight getting more and more anxious by the minute in that I have a hearing on a DUI, failure to comply with implied consent law and evading arrest charge I received August 3rd. I have a lawyer who I completely trust to represent me to the fullest extent; however, knowing that my future hangs in the hands of a Sheriff's Deputy, an Assistant District Attorney and possibly a judge is so scary.

I messed up. I drank and drove. That I can't deny but the extent to which I was impaired, if any, and the fact if I attempted to evade are major issues. As a matter of fact, the evading arrest charge is a Class E felony which if I'm found guilty I could be sentenced to 2-4 years. The evading arrest is a ridiculous charge and one that I cannot fathom why the deputy charged me with it in that I remember the instant that I saw his vehicle and he did not have lights on and I remember the exact instant that he turned them on. He has put in his report that he had his lights on for a distance which later I drove and it was 1.4 miles. Actually, the lights came on when I was on top of a bridge and I went down the bridge across the intersecting road and pulled over into a merging lane of traffic before coming to a stop in that the bridge didn't have an emergency lane or even room for stopping except in the lane of traffic we were in. The actual mileage is .5 of a mile (or 1/2 mile) from the time the lights came on until I stopped. The only field sobriety test of any kind he gave me was looking into my eyes. He didn't ask and I didn't refuse any others. I did, however, refuse to do any blood or other chemical tests (thus the violation of implied consent charge).

As I posted before, I was a non-drinker for the first 42 1/2 years of my life and started destructive behavior of drinking on occasion about 2 years ago after getting involved with an alcoholic (not blaming other party just stating when it dates back to). I lowered my standards of living to such a degree that I found myself in the situation I am now in. I had broke up with my alcoholic boyfriend and was so angry at myself for putting up with everything that I had and was on a terrible self-destructive mode. I was questioning what good had it done me to have the standards I had over the years, etc. Well, having handcuffs placed on my wrists and taken to jail showed me quick what it had done for me (or rather not done!)

I haven't had anything to drink nor wanted anything to drink since the incident of 7 weeks ago. I have worked through a lot of the self anger for getting myself in the predicament that I did with the ex-boyfriend and drinking and am doing better EXCEPT am very anxious about the court case tomorrow. Tomorrow is 4 weeks of absolutely no contact with my ex and I'm doing great with that but tonight find myself very angry that he once again has proven his selfishness and disconcern for me and the hurt/trouble/problems my being involved with him caused. In a way, I am glad he does not intiate contact but in another way, the fact that he knows that I'm going through one of the worst personal trials ever (partly due to my relationship troubles with him) and he hasn't even so much as left a voice mail that he was thinking about me pisses me off. I don't want to talk to him but am still angry/hurt that he with just a blink of an eye can disregard everything that he did to cause pain and trouble in my life. Understand I'm not blaming him for my being charged but am blaming him in part for the downward spiral that I was on when it happened.

Wish me luck and say many prayers for me tomorrow - Court is at 1:30 p.m. Central time. I do know that no matter what the legal system does to me, that I've learned a very valuable lesson just by being arrested and spending the few hours in jail that I did. I have a high profile administrative assistant job for a government official and within 6-7 hours of my arrest, it was as if a press release had been issued to my boss and many other top officials in our city. The embarrassment I caused myself was horrendous. All of the individuals have been most supportive knowing that this was not typical behavior for me stating, it could happen to any of us but still, it happened to me and I have to suffer the consequences.

In praying, please ask that I may answer the questions calmly and confidently so that I (along with with my 2 witnesses who saw me that evening) can convince the judge that for some crazy reason the officer exaggerated his report because I refused to tell him what position I held with my employer out of embarrassment. He actually put on his report that I refused to answer questions when actually the only one I wouldn't answer was what department/who I worked for since it was the "top dog."

Thanks for your support/prayers/encouragement.

September 20, 2005
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It's a fine thing to protect others, even sometimes when it causes us harm.

Just be sure that you are being entirely honest with yourself, and hopefully the judge, about the drinking part.

Be humble, be open, be honest, be fair, and above all, be brief and calm.

I pray that God's hand be on your situation, and thank Him for what He has in mind. You will be fine, just pray and do your best to accept whatever happens as right.

September 20, 2005
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Thanks Lass, the hard part of all of this is my mother had an accident drunk driving and injured a man and 3 children. This was in 1987 when I was 27 years old. I was devastated. I'm just thankful I didn't hurt anyone else or myself. I know I couldn't have forgiven myself if I had. My entire adult life I was determined not to grow up to be just like mom then one day I woke up and realized that I had done the very thing that I had tried so hard not to do. Of course, I've since learned that I had unconsciously learned a way of dealing with things that led me to drink. I'm just thankful that God has taken this away from me as fast as I let it in my life.

Again, thanks.

September 20, 2005
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Prayers goin up for ya.

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