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Counsellors out there, please help?
November 28, 2001
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Thanx Girls!I didn't do it last night as it was so emotional with others telling thier traumas of abuse.I just ended up crying!I talked to my tutor again and I AM going to go for it next week. So many people told thier stories and no one jusged. Y not! Thanx

November 28, 2001
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Hey Tinkerbe, maybe it's a good thing you waited until others did it. This way you got to see how it would go first. And now that you know others won't be judgemental, maybe you can find some trust for them.

November 29, 2001
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CLOUD:YES THATS HOW I FEEL AT THE MOMENT-ITS OK TO TRUST THEM. I HEARD THEIR STORIES,I DIDN'T JUDGE SO MAYBE THEY WON'T. I AM WORRIED THO. NEXT WEEK TO TWO MEN-WHO ARE ON THE COURSE ARE BK.

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November 29, 2001
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You mean you're going to have to talk to two men who are in your class with you?

November 29, 2001
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Yes i will have to speak whilst they are there. Will have to just ignore them!

November 29, 2001
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Are these men people who you are not fond of? Or is it just because they are men that you don't want them to hear your stories?

November 30, 2001
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I don't really like them no.They were no there when the other group members told thier stories, so i feel they won't have had the experince in hearing 'a shock'.!

November 30, 2001
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Oh, I see. Well, maybe, like you said, you will just have to try to ignore them. Then again, maybe they are different than you are thinking and won't actually be judgemental afterall. If they are in your counseling class learning to become counselors themselves, they must have some sort of "listening w/o judging" skills. Remember that there will be other classmates that will take an interest in your life and won't be judgemental. Just remember that on Tuesday. 🙂

December 1, 2001
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Hey Cloud:Thanx for that.I suppose that is true-that they are trainign to be counsellors too.But one of the men sits there just thinking of himself.We he starts talking, u can see the look on everyones face-oh he's off again!!!Thanx thats helped what you have said. 🙂

December 2, 2001
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This particular guy, will he start talking about himself while you are trying to tell your story? I hope not. Otherwise, just ignore and allow yourself to let go in front of your class. Please let us know how it goes. I hope it all works out for the best for you being that you are not in counseling right now.

December 3, 2001
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He wouldn't talk whist i am talking - i wouldn't let him! But after he may just re-direct. I duno... maybe im just reading too much into it. I definetly will let you know how it goes.

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December 3, 2001
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Well, like you said, other people in the class know that he does that. So I'm sure they will re-re-direct back to you if he starts talking about himself again. I think this experience may actually be good for you. Good luck!

December 3, 2001
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Perhaps that guy, who speaks of him self, is relating, it will be a good lesson for him. Its a hard thing to not do, transferance, when you hear of situations the only way perhaps he can define it, is to relate to it, and he shares that. Still stuck in the I--- vs the them for his brain to process. If you think he is going to bother you, don't forget thoughts are things, and turn him into a maniquin, mentally. do not let any one or any thing get in the way of your objective. Focus.

December 3, 2001
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Cloud:Yes the others know that and probably will re'direct bck to me. IM SO NERVOUS!

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Molly:Thanx for the advice. Has helped me lots. Will let you know how it goes!

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