Cloud:yep. EVERYTHING reminds us them doesn't it.even my perfume and my clothes(!).i just think oh i wore this last time i saw her.i so annoying.don't you think?

what u said about u need someone to latch onto or u feel non-existant, i kinda feel that way too.now i don't see my counsellor it feels my life has no meaning and has ended.i was thinking this morning...after january, i may never see her again in my life and this is scary.

i asked my counselling tutor about if she did counselling but she only does it private.i can't afford their prices!!its stupid we have to pay to get help!

SuzyQ:i think it absolutly sucks too if you have to pay.its like-we need help and others get paid to sit and listen.bad huh?i agree wit u that it is a better idea to stay with her.with my counsellor, ive told her so much private stuff that i could never tell n e one else. yeh u r intitled to your anger.i would be if i was you. i felt kinda abandoned even though i knew when the termination date was.

all the best. lets us know how u get on

tinkerbe11

Tinkerbell the only thing that heals pain like that is to talk about it and the biggiest one is TIME. Time is what you need. I feel its ok to still care for her. This is a growing experience for you. Believe me I know I have been there done that so many times. I don't let myself get attached to very many in my age but I did with my last counselor and now I am having to use my experience and get through it. She will always be important to me just by what she has helped me with. Even if I never saw or spoke with her again she will always be special to me. I feel thats ok.

oh Cloud I am so happy to hear that you are doing better about this attachement. You sound like you are doing the right thing and in the TIME you need to do it. Then just chalk it up as experience. This whole thing will make you a stroger person. Thats the way I see it anyway.

I agree damaged.so many people have said to me when i am better it WILL be a stronger person

Damaged: Hey thats good news that u have come so far. No my problem is no drink related but still every single day i can feel myself growing stronger.(Thanx to you guys too)

All the best

Tinkerbe11

Cloud: if that is how you feel then you should ask and see what she has to say about twice a week. Do you think she will let you? Just say to her you don’t feel able to go it alone yet and think twice weekly would help??? Hope this helps

Damaged: I hope your new counsellor is ok. Im sure she will be. It must be so hard ‘starting over’ agian with some one you don’t know. Let us know how you get on

Tinkerbe11

Hi Cloud: I hope that they do set up another group session for you. Its sounds to me that is exactly what u need again. I have never experienced group counselling, so does it help a great deal? Maybe I ought to come to your group (if I lived in America)! How many are in your group? You said you didn’t get to work on you, is that cos everyone else had a turn? Just see if they set another, if not I would ask for twice a week one to one counselling. I’m not too bad thanx for asking. Go bk to college on Monday which I am not looking forward to. But I have promised myself to go see a school counsellor. I need to I think. Do u think I should tell my parents I intend to? I don’t think I should.

Tinkkerbe11

Everyone,

I was in counesling for a year and a half with the same counselor at college. We worked on things so terrible I'd rather not mention, but I thought I was dependent on him as well. And during the process, I was to a certain extent. However, I have since fully recovered from my debilitating condition and we terminated the sessions on a very positive note. I no longer feel dependent on the counselor or the need for constant communication. I believed ending the relationship would be one of the hardest parts, but you'd be surprised.

Just thought I'd provide words of comfort to those who can't see that far yet. But only with self motivation, determination, courage and by having no despair...you will.

Well, the semester was winding to an end, I was transfering, and the problems that brought me to counseling had been resolved.

I'd say it was only a matter of a month for that dependance to die down and dissolve. And now, I'm my own guy.

Occasionally, I will call back with a minor problem I'm not exactly sure how to go about and appreciate advice from someone who knows me so well. But those times are rare and it's never very personal.

So, that's that.

Hi Cloud. (or anyone who wants to reply!) I’m back again! Just to ask this time for a bit of advice. This time about a year ago I dated this guy from my school. I can actually say for the, first time probably, I was in love. He split with me after a couple of months cos he said he had family problems. When we split this is when I first became ill. I talked to my counsellor about the connection with having panic attacks and anxiety and splitting with him. (long story but I feel unloved by most people not just lads). The opportunity has come around again and I as we have been in contact a lot again. I wondered what you think. Shall I just go for it (cos I feel something is holding me back.) I just want to ask him out but am scared of rejection.