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Constant Fighting.. Help Me Before I Go Mad....
October 10, 2003
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Jess for TLC
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Hey everyone, i need to as you for some advice. See i have been really good frineds with this guy who i like alot and he likes me but the thing is we are so much alike and we fight constantly and its getting too much for me i feel like we like to stir each other up or we dont we just fight and i dont want to any more we fight at least about 3 fights on an avarage week and i cant stand it it can be over the most smallest thing and i want it to stop my firneds cant take us out cause they are worried we will fight and spoil the day i dont dont like it. how do i aproch this and stop its we clash really bad and the thing is we like each other so does anyone know waht i can do to stop this cause i cant handle anymore. Luv always Jess xoxoxo

October 10, 2003
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Hi Jess
What are the fights like? Is he controlling and abusive? Does he have an anger problem? Does he drink or do drugs?

What sets off the fights? Is there a pattern?

Perhaps you both can find out why you fight and how to stop it?

However, if you have a bad "feeling" about this man, you should back off.
It's very easy. Just tell him goodbye. Don't let it linger and continue. Cut the rope and let him adrift. Better some pain now than constant agony for you Jess.

Good luck!

October 10, 2003
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Hey Jess,
It's been awhile since I've posted, I remember you from back in the day! 🙂

Anyway, It seems like you guys are friends but just bicker alot about small stuff I'm assuming right? If you want to stop, I just wouldn't feed into the fights. Maybe he enjoys it, like some kind of adrenaline rush or control thing.

Or maybe he is just dead wrong about issues that you don't agree with so fighting about it is just a waste of your time. I'd assume he just doesn't get it when you guys begin disagreeing on something and when you sense it getting to an argument, I'd just stop it and say that you both obviously don't agree, let's just drop it. Especially if your around friends who are hurt by it.

Just a thought

October 11, 2003
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Thank you, what we ight about is anything big things little things. we stir each other up sometimes and one might take it the wrong way or we fight cause we dont like something one has down or something. we both start the fights i cant blame it all on him or me cause its both of us. he was controling but he is not anymore i have learned to stop him from doing that to me he doesnt get agressive but he does threats our firnedship but i tinhk its cause he is angry and he says alot of things that really hurt me but its all in anger and i do it. anything sets of our fights there is nothing pacific that sets the off. we are close and we are good friends i dont want to losse him as a frined and he doesnt too and i really like him more than that too. the thing is we both dont know waht to do and how to stop fighting last night we were fighting cause i didnt like something and i said things about the perons who whol group hates this girl she called up and i was going to give her a 2nd chance cause i feel everyone deserves a 2nd chance and he didnt like it and we fought over it. that is just one. i'm so lost i'm scared we well loose our frinedship if we dont do something about it we have no idea how to sort this out please help me i hope i have made it clearer this time.

October 11, 2003
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How long have you known this person? I think if it's been awhile you should have come to some understanding by now of the other's point of view. I mean, if I'm friends with someone for a long time, I know what ticks them off, so I avoid it cause I know they're not gonna agree and hense a fight is started, so I avoid it. If we don't agree then we should talk civially to one another and both AGREE to DISAGREE. Know what I mean?

If you guys haven't know eachother that long, then maybe you guys just can't be friends. You just disagree on too many subjects and end up hurting eachother. NOT everyone has to agree with your opionions. I think it's when we force our opinions on someone else, we just hurt them and ourselves.

My point is, if he is THAT special to you and HE feels the same (does he?) then I would try to understand his point and him doing the same and just accept that it's yours, your opinion. It's only an opionion ya know.

My boyfriend and I hardly ever agree so I understand how you feel. When you truelly feel something in your heart to be wrong and you tell someone else it's like we're wasting our breath or something. They just don't hear us, they never will I guess. But there are also some things that he and I have opinions on and knowing eachother for so long we just accept the fact that that's just us.

I don't know, just thinking out loud. Maybe I made some sense for ya.

Keep your head up and always think with your heart no matter what anyone says. Just don't always believe that everyone is gonna understand what your heart is telling you. And Vice Versa.

xo
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October 11, 2003
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Hope I wasn't too opinionated in that last post. lol. I'm sorry if I was dead wrong too.

Hope you guys can work this out.

xo
Nattie

October 11, 2003
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does he drink jess... does he do marijuana...

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