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Confused Relationship
December 15, 2001
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My divorce won't be final til' end of January. I'm dating this special guy for almost 4 months and we're falling in love. We strongly believe that sex before marriage is wrong. Anyway, recently he returned home from Minnesota, changed into a different person - in a small way. (while there, he stayed over with a family of four. His friend happened to be a pastor from his hometown church) I asked him why we don't kiss as much as we used to (necking and long kiss). He said he feel a little uncomfortable because my divorce isn't final yet. I asked him why we kissed heavy before. He doesn't know why. Last night, we went to his company's Xmas party and we had a good time. He holds my hand and everyone told him how pretty I am and that he's lucky to have me. I'm happy for him. But, later on when he drop me off at my house, we kiss each other's goodbye. As I want to kiss him more, he brushed it away like 'limit'. I still don't understand why he does that and I don't think kissing is wrong. If he feel uncomfortable being with me, then why he introduced me to his relatives, holds my hand in public, kiss in public, etc? I'm so confused and my spark for him is beginning to fade little by little. Should I lay back until my divorce is final? Will I lose him if I don't speak to him again? Help!

December 15, 2001
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My advice? RESPECT his boundaries. He's trying to feel you out to see if you have some self-control and dignity. Stay with it, respect him. I was in the same boat as he years ago. The man I liked couldn't - just couldn't understand why I didn't want to show affection in public. It was because, as much as I wanted him, I was technically still married. It just didn't feel right to me! So, give this man some hope. Show him what you're made of...

December 17, 2001
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Sounds like you found a man with some character, that is willing to put off immediate gratifacation, and discover who you really are. Its shocking, but sounds like a gem, someone that you just might be able to count on. Be patient, kissing leads to other things, and he knows that ......

December 21, 2001
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Well it sounds like he or yourself are religious. If his friend is a pastor it could be that he feels guilty about being so physical with you since you are still married. He might feel like you are cheating on your soon to be ex-spouse. Also he probably wants to make sure that your relationship is real and not just some rebound thing.

Take it slow, even for yourself. Divorce is a serious thing. Don't rush, give yourselves some time.

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