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March 14, 2001
1:40 pm
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LisaLuvRay
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Hey guys! I am new here. Lately.. I have been very upset, and I don't know where else to turn. Let's see, where to start...I am 20 years old and I think I have 2 problems. First off, I am going out with a wonderful guy Raymond. We have been together for 3 1/2 years now. We are really happy in our relationship. In the past I have cheated on Raymond. I don't really know why I did, perhaps it is because I am a flirt. Well now Raymond doesn't really have any trust in me now. Which I understand. But because he doesn't trust me, he won't let me have friends. I am not allowed to talk to guys at all. And he doesn't like me to have girl friends. He thinks I will want to hang out with them all the time. So basically I have NO ONE but him to talk too. Sometimes I feel like I need to talk to someone, but I can't. And like once or twice a month I seem to go through this "depression". I just totally hate myself. I have even hit and cut myself because I get so mad at myself. Raymond just gets mad at me for it. It can't understand why I do it. But I don't know what else to do. People at work tell me I should go to a doctor or counselor. But I am scared to death too. That's another one of my problems. I am scared of everything. I am scared of people sometimes. I just have this fear inside of me. I can't explain it. Every since I was a little girl I can remember being scared of everything. I mean I won't even call and order pizza because I am scared to death to talk to the person on the other line of the phone. Sometimes I get boosts of confidence and I will be really outgoing or flirt. It just doesn't make sense to me. Anyone have any suggestions for me. Thanks for your help!

March 14, 2001
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Well apprentantly you might be scared of what you may already know. and just don't want someone to confirm your worst fears. You have made a really big step in trying to get help. You have admitted that you have a problem and are now taking some steps in getting help. If you can be brave enough to post a thread you may be able to give a counslor a call on the phone. I know that come counslors can converse via e-mail. You are making big strides in getting help. Keep it up. I am not a phd and I am not perfect but there is one thing that you and I have in common. We both know when we need help. I suggest seeking out the help of a counslor to be able to deal with the problem of self-inflected harm. Keep up the good work and let me know how you are doing.

March 14, 2001
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Thanks for the reply lisa78640! I know I need help sometimes. Sometimes I just wish I had someone to talk to about all this. To help me on what to do. I just get so scared sometimes that I feel alone. Here's my email: [email protected], if anyone knows any online counseling or anything like that. Thanks for your help guys.

March 15, 2001
2:27 pm
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You can keep this line of communication open. I would be glad to talk with you here. What else is on your mind???? I am not an expert in self inflected harm but I do have a good listening ear. I can listen to you and give a life line as a friend. Sometimes we all just need someone to talk to. Remember nothing will change over night as we all would like to believe, everything takes time and baby steps. Just keep taking those babe steps. Don't worry about yesterday because it is gone you can't change yesterday. Don't worry about tomorrow because it is not here yet. Just concentrate on today. Make today your best day. And if you do this everyday, then everyday will be your best day. good luck. talk to you soon

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