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CONFUSE ABOUT A FRIEND BUT DON'T KNOW WHAT HE WANT FROM ME
May 25, 2006
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nappy
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Me and my friend has been seeing each other for a while. But we keep going over and over with this same problem and I don't care what we do something is just not working.
I just realize that I have to call my friend because if I don't call him, I want hear from him. Then when I stop calling him, then he get mad and leave stupid messages on my machine that he haven't heard from me but he has a cell phone and a home phone. He got mad because I told him that. But when he wants some (loving) or when he gets some (loving) he is calling and always confessing his love.
Now when we are at work, he wants to call and talk, well I can't talk like that all the time to him. I have called him several times when his boss is right there with him and he told me that, so i give him respect to not to call while he is at work. If he calls me while we are working, then I know that he has a little time to talk.
He knows that he is doing this because when I brought it to his attention, he said that I know him so well. When I made up in mind to call him all the time and don't wait for him to call me then he told me that I was doing a very good job because I am calling him all the time. I told him today that I just realize that, that game he is playing is no good anymore and he bet not call me ever getting mad at me because I don't call him and he is sitting there with two phone and can't call anybody. I think he feel that by calling i am showing my love for him.
I don't know. It seem like a little controlling to me. What do you guy think?

May 25, 2006
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I think its time that you shake the head case and control freak.
This dude doesn't need a relationship, he need a mother.

I recommend that you pull yurself out of the tar pit before you really get stuck.
You can't help this guy dear.

May 27, 2006
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I think you need a vacation from your "friend". While your out, find a new man

May 27, 2006
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maybe it needs to be about what you want.

May 28, 2006
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nappy...
wow, I could have wrote that!!!
that seems to be the biggest arguement that my 'friend'and I have!
weird at my age I have to deal with those games!
he stops calling when he is doing something and does not want me involved...but when he WANTS something..he is quick to call!

funny, some guys never end the game!
and I don't know what age your friend is, but sounds like he will not change!

it is a control thing, I don't like it, and I tell him that!
and it goes well for awhile, and back to the same thing...seems like a month cycle!

I have enough to keep busy, so I am not worrying or wondering anymore and I will not play the game!

do something for yourself...DON'T play it!
there are guys out there that want us, really!
and would LIKE to call us!
and take us out, and be with us.

we just have to be patient and wait for them!

I don't know what I would do with such a NICE guy!
but I guess I would like to find out!

stay strong
nvr

May 28, 2006
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nvr...
been there as well. GREAT advice in what you say!!

May 30, 2006
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Hello everyone,
Thanks very much for getting back with me on this matter. I have finally said to myself that I will not call him. When we don't speak for a while, I find myself calling him trying to fix things because I miss him very much but not this time. I am going to stand my ground on this one. It is very hard because I love this person very much. I am not one of those kind to just go out and be around other people. I know in my heart that fear is keeping me from being who I really am. Since being with this man I have put in to myself that I am a bad woman and that I can't keep a relationship but after that phone call from him that didn't make sense, it seem that he is angry at me for something and I don't know why. It is hard to let go but I know that if I don't, I won't feel right.
I am the kind of person that goes out of there way to please someone and then get hurt when they hurt me. I am not saying I don't have fault because because I am not god but I don't understand that when you are giving a person 80% of yourself they are still complaining about the 20% that they are not getting. I don't understand it but it has been 5 days since I heard from him and I am going to stand my ground on this one and not call. My birthday is coming up on June 1 and I think that is the day of a new beginning.

May 30, 2006
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Well he called me this morning, not to long ago and the impact of me not calling him is tearing him apart. He wants to put on this cloth of poor me and I just listen because the last time we talk, I hung up in his face because I didn't want to hear what he had to say. Especially calling me at work. Now I see that I can live with out him but he can't even live for these 5 days of me not being around him because I refuse to take any of his games that he is playing. I see that I can do it and I have enough confidence in god that he will make everything alright.

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