Avatar

Please consider registering
guest

sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register

Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search

— Forum Scope —




— Match —





— Forum Options —





Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters

sp_TopicIcon
concern for dgd
May 2, 2005
12:06 pm
Avatar
corny
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Hi, I am new here. My granddaughter was sexually abused by a relative. She is now 14 and just told me. I hurt so bad. Is it okay if I post here?

May 2, 2005
12:18 pm
Avatar
mamacinnamon
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 0
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

glad to meet you.

You post here all you want to.

I think the first thing you should do is contact social services.

Be sure to give your her lots of love and affirmation. Please make sure she is totally understanding that none of this was her fault.
And make sure she doesn't think she's caused problems or been bad.
We have a little girl here that is a similar situation and she just cannot get past she messed things up, she's bad, etc. So please give that love and affirmation over nad over. Tell her how proud you are of her for coming and telling you.

Please do post all you want. This site is wonderful. 🙂

May 2, 2005
12:20 pm
Avatar
mamacinnamon
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 0
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Oh, one more thing. I am glad to meet you, but sorry for your circumstances of having to be here. I tend to not get it all out of my head and on the screen. Didn't want that to sound the wrong way like i'm glad for all. Not the situation, just to meet you. 🙂

May 2, 2005
12:48 pm
Avatar
corny
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Thank you Mamacinnamon
I understood what you meant about glad, and thank you.
I am 600 miles from my granddaughter, and everybody else in the family thinks if they don't mention it, she won't think about it and it will all just go away. I just want to go see her, love her and talk to her, but I can't afford to right now. I tell her how much I love her when I call her and I told her this wasn't her fault. I just want to fly away with her and get her help. I know I can't but I really want to.

May 2, 2005
12:48 pm
Avatar
addicts wife
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Welcome Corny..
It's nice to meet you.
I am so sorry your grand daughter has gone through this. But So glad she felt safe enough to tell you.
Im proud of her and you for seeking out help and advice.

I agree with Mama (who Is WONDERFUL lady, by the way.) 🙂
You should make sure she knows she did the right thing by telling what happened. and Get in touch with social services. m not sure where you live, but I am pretty sdure that there are a lot of resources for children everywhere.

And Please feel free to post here, vent, etc. Everyone is welcome, and there are such lovely people here.

May 2, 2005
12:54 pm
Avatar
addicts wife
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

COrny~~
Doesnt mileage make ya' feel helpless sometimes??
Sorry your grand daughter and family is so far away.
I am familiar with the tactic that if its swept under the denial rug it will go away and everything will be okay.
I feel that is fear taing over and basically just an excuse . (Sorry id that sounds harsh, but I do have issues with that, as my mom was like that, and still is.) I am not judging, just sharing that Ive encountered that experience more than once myself.
IF you can at least aford to call her, (your grand daughter) you can perhaps advize her on places she can go to either on lone or in her area for assistance. O since you have a computer, can you search for places in her area?? Are her parents accepting that this really did happen? or are they in deep denial??
Just wondering.

May 2, 2005
1:30 pm
Avatar
mamacinnamon
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: 0
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Corny,

Oh please don't let them sweep this under the carpet. That will so damage your grand daughter. She has to know it was not ok and if they sweep it under thay are just the same as saying it is ok that it happened to her. (breath, long sentence).

She will not ever get over what happened; but she can adjust. The best that can be done is get her into counseling so she can deal w/ it and learn to accept that it happened and it was wrong and she must go on.

I to have an issue of just sweeping it under the carpet. I do understand family and not wanting this person to do time in jail; although he should. But they could make sure that she knows it's not her fault and never, never let that person come around her again.

May I be nosey and ask; was this your daughter or son's family? Have you talked to your child about what happened? How do they feel about your grand daughter?

Just some questions I want to ask because of another case I know of. Also, to maybe bring a few things to mind that you might not have thought of.

We are here for you. Please keep posting. 🙂

Forum Timezone: UTC -8

Most Users Ever Online: 247

Currently Online:
50 Guest(s)

Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)

Top Posters:

onedaythiswillpass: 1134

zarathustra: 562

StronginHim77: 453

free: 433

2013ways: 431

curious64: 408

Member Stats:

Guest Posters: 49

Members: 110843

Moderators: 5

Admins: 3

Forum Stats:

Groups: 8

Forums: 74

Topics: 38534

Posts: 714189

Newest Members:

gjkzifDazy, KatyukhaDazy, fhctym.irfDazy, doraee4, abkbggsxDazy, Fasopimola

Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0

Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer